Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To me it means:

1.Do not settle.
2. Do not date below your league
3. Avoid bald/fat men
4. Pay attention to red flags.
5. Do not " mommy" or rescue losers
6. Go for the gold!

This but IDGAF at all if they are bald.

Yea what’s wrong with bald men?

Anonymous wrote:My exh's OW used this phrase to me so it will always remind me of her. Pathetic.

It's sad that she still lives in your head.

What was your ex's worth?

Anonymous wrote:To me it means:

1.Do not settle.
2. Do not date below your league
3. Avoid bald/fat men
4. Pay attention to red flags.
5. Do not " mommy" or rescue losers
6. Go for the gold!

This but IDGAF at all if they are bald.

To me it means:

1.Do not settle.
2. Do not date below your league
3. Avoid bald/fat men
4. Pay attention to red flags.
5. Do not " mommy" or rescue losers
6. Go for the gold!

Anonymous wrote:It means you have to set boundaries and don’t tolerate a man that disrespects you, treats you badly, doesn’t show interest in you as a person or partner, verbally insults you, cheats on you, or physically abuses you, etc. If you stay and tolerate it, then you don’t know your worth. If you don’t make it clear that these behaviors won’t be tolerated (actions speak louder than words), then you don’t know how to set boundaries. It shows low self esteem and that you think your value is determined by having a relationship, even when the relationship is unhealthy.

Yes, it’s this, and it ought to include self reflection. Knowing your worth should also mean looking to yourself to see what you’re contributing to the relationship and making sure you’re not inadvertently not paying attention to your partner. The golden rule works in both directions.

Anonymous wrote:It’s a soundbite dopamine hit with “yas queen” energy that distracts from the real issue.

And the real issue is.....?

It’s a soundbite dopamine hit with “yas queen” energy that distracts from the real issue.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of the above BUT if we are talking about the dating market your worth is determined by your options.

Staying single is an option. Many times a better option than diminishing yourself.

How is it diminishing yourself to be with someone who is at your level, whatever that level is?

It's not. and it also has nothing to do with "knowing your worth." Keep reading these responses because I think you'll benefit from it. It's not about being evenly matched. It's about not allowing yourself to be demeaned and disrespected.

I think it means be a bit selfish in your approach to dating. Especially if you're a woman, many of us are conditioned to please and give. In dating, put yourself first. Think of dates as interviews and ask yourself what this person might bring to your life. How do they fit in to what you want and make your life better? If you're a moderately attractive woman, know that you hold the cards. I got all my dating advice back in the day from my dad, who is a bit of a narcissist himself and raised me to "think like a man," especially when I started dating seriously. I kind of do this in my marriage too, and if I didn't, my Type A husband would walk all over me.

My exh's OW used this phrase to me so it will always remind me of her. Pathetic.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of the above BUT if we are talking about the dating market your worth is determined by your options.

Staying single is an option. Many times a better option than diminishing yourself.

How is it diminishing yourself to be with someone who is at your level, whatever that level is?

Anonymous wrote:All of the above BUT if we are talking about the dating market your worth is determined by your options.

Staying single is an option. Many times a better option than diminishing yourself.

Here is an example from a long time ago in my life. In college I loosely dated someone who would always ask me at the last minute to do stuff like drop everything and drive him somewhere that very minute. I did it every time. Because I didnt value myself and my time more than his. So why would he?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of the above BUT if we are talking about the dating market your worth is determined by your options.

I agree that on the dating market, your "worth" is determined by your price point, crudely. I read this question as one related to personal integrity, which should be intrinsic and not motivated by your "options."

Exactly this. You can believe you deserve a high value match all you want but unless you meet certain criteria you really don’t.

I don't think you understand what "knowing your worth is"

You don't have to be anyone's doormat no matter how "undesirable" in your dating definition you might be.

It means you have to set boundaries and don’t tolerate a man that disrespects you, treats you badly, doesn’t show interest in you as a person or partner, verbally insults you, cheats on you, or physically abuses you, etc. If you stay and tolerate it, then you don’t know your worth. If you don’t make it clear that these behaviors won’t be tolerated (actions speak louder than words), then you don’t know how to set boundaries. It shows low self esteem and that you think your value is determined by having a relationship, even when the relationship is unhealthy.