Anonymous
Post 08/24/2023 11:19     Subject: People who do nothing all day
If they aren’t taking anything from you, why do you care? I cannot understand people who want to be sure that no one is enjoying their life or living up to their standards. Let them be man.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2023 11:18     Subject: People who do nothing all day
Anonymous wrote:Literally, nothing. Why aren't you working, or contributing to society?


I'm very sick. You sound very ignorant and judgmental.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2023 11:17     Subject: People who do nothing all day
This was me a few months ago. I hardly did any childcare, I did no cleaning, I have no job, no volunteer work, no taking kids places, etc. I was at the peak of a year-long struggle with some mystery illness that made me fatigued and gave me serious brain fog.

The health thing sucked, but the biggest struggle was feeling useless and therefore worthless. Logically I knew that I wasn’t worthless even if took from others more than I gave, but there was a part of me that thought the world would be better off if I was dead.

I hope OP that if you are ever beset with health issues that make it so you can’t contribute, you have already taken a hard look at yourself about what it means to value people based on how much they “contribute.”
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2023 10:55     Subject: People who do nothing all day
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Define do nothing?


I would mean nothing as not earning a paycheck, but also contributing as little as possible to the family, not even going to a workout class, barely leaving the house. Not adding to society - not providing a positive contribution (not just money). Maybe going to the grocery store, but little else. Perhaps taking days to leave the house. Is it depression, anxiety, self entitlement? All of the above?


Maybe they are recovering from work burnout or a personal trauma and need a time of doing nothing to recuperate.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2023 10:52     Subject: People who do nothing all day
Watch daytime TV, eat a lot (to pass the time), internet. Maybe have a conversation.

Obese and content. What's your super power?
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2023 10:52     Subject: People who do nothing all day
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Define do nothing?


I would mean nothing as not earning a paycheck, but also contributing as little as possible to the family, not even going to a workout class, barely leaving the house. Not adding to society - not providing a positive contribution (not just money). Maybe going to the grocery store, but little else. Perhaps taking days to leave the house. Is it depression, anxiety, self entitlement? All of the above?


Sounds like you’re angry with a depressed spouse. Maybe try to help them.


+1
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2023 10:49     Subject: People who do nothing all day
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Define do nothing?


I would mean nothing as not earning a paycheck, but also contributing as little as possible to the family, not even going to a workout class, barely leaving the house. Not adding to society - not providing a positive contribution (not just money). Maybe going to the grocery store, but little else. Perhaps taking days to leave the house. Is it depression, anxiety, self entitlement? All of the above?


This is retirement for many people. When everything hurts, you have frequent doctor appointments, and you don’t have the money for fun hobbies or travel, you watch tv all day. It’s why so many grandparents are hooked on Fox News.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2023 10:46     Subject: People who do nothing all day
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Define do nothing?


I would mean nothing as not earning a paycheck, but also contributing as little as possible to the family, not even going to a workout class, barely leaving the house. Not adding to society - not providing a positive contribution (not just money). Maybe going to the grocery store, but little else. Perhaps taking days to leave the house. Is it depression, anxiety, self entitlement? All of the above?


Sounds like you’re angry with a depressed spouse. Maybe try to help them.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2023 10:26     Subject: People who do nothing all day
The only person I know who truly does nothing is a sibling with a mental illness. As for what he actually does, I think it is maybe doing deep googling of everyone he knows? Sleep? Masturbate? It's very unclear.

Doing *something* seems important for sanity.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2023 10:22     Subject: People who do nothing all day
Anonymous wrote:
That's me. I volunteer intensively during the winter and spring, but do nothing in the summer and fall. I earn passive money in my stock portfolio, but do not have a salaried position.

And you know what? My health is better that way. I look and feel younger than my same-aged friends who are harried at work, and juggle childcare and parents on top of it. I can enjoy my life.

So no regrets here, OP.


So much better than all those losers who have to work for a living.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2023 10:13     Subject: People who do nothing all day
Anonymous wrote:Define do nothing?


I would mean nothing as not earning a paycheck, but also contributing as little as possible to the family, not even going to a workout class, barely leaving the house. Not adding to society - not providing a positive contribution (not just money). Maybe going to the grocery store, but little else. Perhaps taking days to leave the house. Is it depression, anxiety, self entitlement? All of the above?
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2023 10:10     Subject: People who do nothing all day
My parents gave me enough money to do nothing and boy did I deliver. They probably should have given me enough to do anything.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2023 10:08     Subject: People who do nothing all day
Anonymous wrote:Those people aren't posting on DCUM.

People in DCUM are performing a community service are peer mentoring.


LOL. Okay. Keep telling yourself that.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2023 10:07     Subject: People who do nothing all day
Anonymous wrote:Are you equating a job as the only way to contribute to society?

I get no paycheck, but I care for relatives, run the house, make sure our lives run as smoothly as possible with several people having ADHD, ASD.


Then you do not do nothing all day, do you?
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2023 10:06     Subject: People who do nothing all day
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t do anything and it’s awesome. I don’t work, I don’t volunteer, and I don’t help anyone out outside of family. Most mornings I wake up not fully aware of what day it is. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.


This is me! and i have a "job" ! a "career" even! ha!