Anonymous
08/22/2023 15:24
Subject: Should a friend of a friend be off limits?
My son had a situation sort of like this.
Son has been friends with a young lady school mate since roughly they both were in diapers.
I drove son, friend, and her friend who appeared to have a crush on my son (others were part of group) to Kings Dominion.
Her friend had positioned herself to ride with my son until son's friend since diapers shot her a look that would indicate a swift and horrible death.
Son completely oblivious & clueless what was occurring right in front of him.
Son has been friends with a young lady school mate since roughly they both were in diapers.
I drove son, friend, and her friend who appeared to have a crush on my son (others were part of group) to Kings Dominion.
Her friend had positioned herself to ride with my son until son's friend since diapers shot her a look that would indicate a swift and horrible death.
Son completely oblivious & clueless what was occurring right in front of him.
Anonymous
08/22/2023 15:22
Subject: Should a friend of a friend be off limits?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Kid, it's OK to date unless your friend objects.
I'm actually the mom of the boy that wants to date the friend of his friend. His friend told him she won't be friends with him anymore but can't articulate why.
And to the poster that said it's young...do you mean 18 and 19 are too young to date? I know people that their kids were dating much much earlier. This would be my son's first dating experience, and he is almost 19
In that case, tell your son to find another girl to date. His long time friend is not a good candidate for first dating experience. Too many potential issues for him to see in that relationship since he's friend with her for a long time and his inexperience at dating.
He is not trying to date his long time friend he is trying to date the friend or his long time friend …and the long time friend has a problem with that
Anonymous
08/22/2023 15:14
Subject: Should a friend of a friend be off limits?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Kid, it's OK to date unless your friend objects.
I'm actually the mom of the boy that wants to date the friend of his friend. His friend told him she won't be friends with him anymore but can't articulate why.
And to the poster that said it's young...do you mean 18 and 19 are too young to date? I know people that their kids were dating much much earlier. This would be my son's first dating experience, and he is almost 19
In that case, tell your son to find another girl to date. His long time friend is not a good candidate for first dating experience. Too many potential issues for him to see in that relationship since he's friend with her for a long time and his inexperience at dating.
Anonymous
08/22/2023 15:09
Subject: Should a friend of a friend be off limits?
Your son should just Facebook friend or snap or DM or whatever young people do to communicate. Does the other girl like your son? No harm in trying to be friends with the other girl and go from there.
Anonymous
08/22/2023 15:07
Subject: Should a friend of a friend be off limits?
This is how most people date. They meet their friends’ friends.
I have a friend who married a guy whose mutual friend tried to cockblock. Guy had a female friend. Guy did not like female friend. Female friend had another female friend and guy was interested in her. She tried everything in her power to keep them apart but the guy liked my friend enough to pursue her. They are no longer friends with the mutual friend who tried to cockblock them.
I have a friend who married a guy whose mutual friend tried to cockblock. Guy had a female friend. Guy did not like female friend. Female friend had another female friend and guy was interested in her. She tried everything in her power to keep them apart but the guy liked my friend enough to pursue her. They are no longer friends with the mutual friend who tried to cockblock them.
Anonymous
08/22/2023 15:06
Subject: Should a friend of a friend be off limits?
Anonymous wrote:I get the people saying he needs to be establish a healthy boundary and he can date who he wants.
And that's true. But he can do that by at least trying to be sympathetic to her feelings. The friend is probably suffering from unrequited romantic feelings, and may have felt this way for a long time.
He should absolutely date girls and should not feel any obligation to date his best friend of years. But he can also take a step backwards and see how painful it might be to her if he starts dating one of her friends and she has to see them happy together.
I think he should stay away from the other friend
Nope. if she wants "friends" she should choose people she doesn't want to be in a relationship with. you dont get to be "friends" with someone and dictate that they can't date others.
I suspect this friendship has not been entirely platonic.
Anonymous
08/22/2023 15:04
Subject: Should a friend of a friend be off limits?
Nope. I married the friend of a friend.
Anonymous
08/22/2023 14:55
Subject: Should a friend of a friend be off limits?
This happened to me in my late teens and would have caused hard feelings between me and the girl friend if I didn't steer clear of the guy. Unless the girl friend sets you up with her best guy friend, I would steer clear.