I'm adding that it might be helpful to prep him occasionally before watching movies with friends. I've watched kids be visibly bothered by over excited friends talking the whole time.

Anonymous wrote:I'm not trying to go off on OP but when I read something like this, I wonder how this person became so self-absorbed.

Everything can't be "go to therapy" and fix yourself, but I do wonder how TF did you even get here.

Your post is an overreaction. Op is rightfully bothered, but her son is normal to talk a bit through it and op is cognizant of his experience and desires too. She sounds like a great mom who is just looking to juggle both of their comfort zones.
I think you should let him talk (even if it means rewinding often) unless it's a movie you really want to enjoy, tell him you are implementing theater rules of total silence.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not trying to go off on OP but when I read something like this, I wonder how this person became so self-absorbed.

Everything can't be "go to therapy" and fix yourself, but I do wonder how TF did you even get here.

lol! I challenge you to watch a movie you really want to see with my 11 year old constantly talking, pausing, rewinding, turning on and off subtitles, reading the trivia …

DP.

Don't encourage OP, not even in jest.

My sister does all of this and more.

My mom falls asleep 10 times, wakes up and wants me to debrief her on what she missed before we keep watching.

This is life!

How does anyone get to adulthood without knowing this?

Anonymous wrote:I'm not trying to go off on OP but when I read something like this, I wonder how this person became so self-absorbed.

Everything can't be "go to therapy" and fix yourself, but I do wonder how TF did you even get here.

Yep.

I don't know how you can have friends if you can't put up with some minor annoying behaviors.

Anonymous wrote:I'm not trying to go off on OP but when I read something like this, I wonder how this person became so self-absorbed.

Everything can't be "go to therapy" and fix yourself, but I do wonder how TF did you even get here.

lol! I challenge you to watch a movie you really want to see with my 11 year old constantly talking, pausing, rewinding, turning on and off subtitles, reading the trivia …

I'm not trying to go off on OP but when I read something like this, I wonder how this person became so self-absorbed.

Everything can't be "go to therapy" and fix yourself, but I do wonder how TF did you even get here.

Ha. I have a movie fanatic 11 year old who does this. It’s a balance. If it’s a movie I really want to watch I tell him to zip it. If it’s not, then I don’t interfere and try to keep up with him. We talk about how most people want to watch a movie in silence and how he needs to make sure that he assesses this.

You have limited time to sit around watching movies with him. You can have quiet movies in the many decades after he leaves home.

The only reason I watch TV with my child is because it sparks conversation. Watch the movie alone and trance all you want but when you are with your child... it is not about you.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. The responses that said, bsaically, treat the experience as being with him rather than watching a movie -- that seems like the right answer. But also the hardest one for me to actually do.

As for the pause button, it breaks the spell.

Breaks the spell? For a movie you are watching on the couch with your kid? I think you need to lighten up.

+1.

Do you have any family, friends, siblings, ?

You are rigid as heck. Lol

People are different and they can be annoying in cute and funny ways. 😁 You deal and work around it( e.g. watch the movie by yourself first like one PP suggested).

My kids tell me the corniest jokes and riddles everyday. They look forward to telling me all these, and I just go along.

Relationships are give and take. If these are the little annoying moments you have to put up with to maintain and grow that relationship with your son, do it .

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The responses that said, bsaically, treat the experience as being with him rather than watching a movie -- that seems like the right answer. But also the hardest one for me to actually do.

As for the pause button, it breaks the spell.

Breaks the spell? For a movie you are watching on the couch with your kid? I think you need to lighten up.

Watch the movie yourself first.

OP here. The responses that said, bsaically, treat the experience as being with him rather than watching a movie -- that seems like the right answer. But also the hardest one for me to actually do.

As for the pause button, it breaks the spell.

My child has ADHD and they really can’t stop talking sometimes. I ask them to stop occasionally but if I want to watch with them this is how it is. Makes my husband insane

I can’t stand people talking during movies or TV shows either. Unless I’m choosing to rewatch a film or show I love with the commentary from director/writer on the playback.

Maybe you should set ground rules with your son - first run through watch quietly, subsequent viewings talk all the smack he wants about plot, production, acting quality etc.?