Anonymous
10/10/2023 09:38
Subject: If you and your family are very wealthy would you marry someone not in your social class?
It’s the person, not the class. My family member is from a wealthy background. Family has money. They were college educated. A orthopedic surgeon. Had a business on the side. Married a person with no degree, dead end job, baby mama to 4 kids, 3 different men. Lower class. Horrible family. Not a good background. Mooches off Them. Lied to them. Bad person regardless of class.
Anonymous
10/10/2023 08:34
Subject: If you and your family are very wealthy would you marry someone not in your social class?
I did because she was unbelievably smart.
Anonymous
10/10/2023 07:32
Subject: If you and your family are very wealthy would you marry someone not in your social class?
Yes, I would. I actually met someone who I like a lot. He works hard and has plenty of potential to make money. The reason he hasn't is because he just arrived here. Income in his country are much lower.
Anonymous
10/10/2023 07:29
Subject: If you and your family are very wealthy would you marry someone not in your social class?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Social class is more important than economic class. Well educated and cultured newlyweds might be poor and have debt from schooling, but they’ll likely end up fairly wealthy by middle age.
This is spectacularly false. The world abounds with well educated and cultured people who are downwardly mobile.
They choose not to invest and be upwardly mobile. I did all that on minimum wage.
I had someone tell me that they will enjoy working forever and just use up all the money they make. My minimum wage job was robbing me my physical and mental health. It was do or die. Once the investments hit $100k, it double over and over again. I don't know why people don't do it. At time I thin the higher income is the reason. They go for the house instead of investments. House can be a money pit. I didn't quality for a mortgage and now I don't want to any time soon.
Anonymous
10/10/2023 05:58
Subject: Re:If you and your family are very wealthy would you marry someone not in your social class?
Maybe the whole point of social class has always been to make a group of people attractive to new money. A sort of evolutionary adaptation to keep a set of genes sleek and successful. For at least 160 years downwardly mobile aristos have been trading in their pedigree for recently acquired wealth. Haven’t we all seen/read a bunch of Henry James movies/books? I think a lot of people born into these “good families” have a sense that they are never going to successfully swim with the sharks who make truly big bucks, so they marry the daughters/sons of said sharks instead.
Anonymous
08/10/2023 07:50
Subject: If you and your family are very wealthy would you marry someone not in your social class?
I grew up middle class - my family didn't become wealthy until I was in college - so I didn't really consider myself part of the "wealthy" social class. I ended up marrying somebody middle class.
Anonymous
08/10/2023 06:03
Subject: Re:If you and your family are very wealthy would you marry someone not in your social class?
Anonymous wrote:This only works if the lower ses person brings something to the table and carries an elite education or accomplishment of some sort.
Think of Judge Katanji Jackson who married into her husband’s wealthy family and is part of the board of trustees of some powerful institutions and on the supreme court.
The lower ses person must have exceptional accomplishments and bring something to the table.
Priscilla Chan is another example of marrying up but as she said she never thought she would marry Zuckerberg. They met at the bathroom line at Harvard. Luck as well plays a role.
While Ketanji married a surgeon from a wealthy, connected family, it isn’t like she was poor. She came from a Umc family, her dad was an attorney and her mom was a school principal.
Anonymous
08/10/2023 04:27
Subject: If you and your family are very wealthy would you marry someone not in your social class?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Social class is more important than economic class. Well educated and cultured newlyweds might be poor and have debt from schooling, but they’ll likely end up fairly wealthy by middle age.
This is spectacularly false. The world abounds with well educated and cultured people who are downwardly mobile.
It's only false if you're relying on your own anec-data and by "wealth" you using DCUM standards (e.g., $150K salary is "poor"). Statistically, highly educated people are far more likely to have wealth than not.
The median income for a PhD holder in the US is $100,000 – highly educated and not particularly wealthy.
Anonymous
08/09/2023 23:52
Subject: If you and your family are very wealthy would you marry someone not in your social class?
Great question for DCUM where 99.9% of posters get to pretend for just one anonymous moment they’re from the top 0.1% of society.
Anonymous
08/09/2023 23:37
Subject: If you and your family are very wealthy would you marry someone not in your social class?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Social class? You from Europe?
Social class exists also in the United States. But only the upper class accepts this fact.
OP mentioned a vague "where my parents are from"
It's infuriating.
Just say the country already.
I’ll bet it’s India. I don’t know another country that says “love marriage”.
Anonymous
08/09/2023 23:36
Subject: If you and your family are very wealthy would you marry someone not in your social class?
Anonymous wrote:I never would have married downward. My parents were upwardly mobile and it was always clear to me how precarious that is. I’m even wealthier than them now and I worry about my children being downwardly mobile.
It just goes to show class anxiety is really a thing for some people.
Anonymous
08/09/2023 21:52
Subject: If you and your family are very wealthy would you marry someone not in your social class?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Social class is more important than economic class. Well educated and cultured newlyweds might be poor and have debt from schooling, but they’ll likely end up fairly wealthy by middle age.
This is spectacularly false. The world abounds with well educated and cultured people who are downwardly mobile.
It's only false if you're relying on your own anec-data and by "wealth" you using DCUM standards (e.g., $150K salary is "poor"). Statistically, highly educated people are far more likely to have wealth than not.
Anonymous
08/09/2023 15:19
Subject: If you and your family are very wealthy would you marry someone not in your social class?
I never would have married downward. My parents were upwardly mobile and it was always clear to me how precarious that is. I’m even wealthier than them now and I worry about my children being downwardly mobile.
Anonymous
08/09/2023 15:15
Subject: If you and your family are very wealthy would you marry someone not in your social class?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Social class is more important than economic class. Well educated and cultured newlyweds might be poor and have debt from schooling, but they’ll likely end up fairly wealthy by middle age.
This is spectacularly false. The world abounds with well educated and cultured people who are downwardly mobile.
This is so true.
I’ve come across a lot of people like this here in nyc.
Ha ha! I'm one of them!
Anonymous
08/09/2023 14:53
Subject: If you and your family are very wealthy would you marry someone not in your social class?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Social class is more important than economic class. Well educated and cultured newlyweds might be poor and have debt from schooling, but they’ll likely end up fairly wealthy by middle age.
This is spectacularly false. The world abounds with well educated and cultured people who are downwardly mobile.
This is so true.
I’ve come across a lot of people like this here in nyc.