If it was an in town wedding with no travel cost other than the gas to the wedding venue, I might be a bit generous. If I'm traveling out of town to the wedding couple's city or hometown, I wouldn't necessary feel compelled to give anything other than a token gift like a set of glasses from Williams Sonoma. If I was going to a destination wedding unrelated to where anyone lives, I wouldn't give any gift other than a card and lovely note.

There's no rule for wedding gifts despite what some people on DCUM want to insist, there's no requirement you must buy 250 or 300 or whatever to cover the cost of your plate, which in my view is utterly ridiculous as that is definitely a shakedown. Weddings aren't a quid pro quo arrangement.

Your personal finances are more important than the couple’s or the wedding in terms of determining amount.

I do $200-300 usually, but that’s comfortable. I would have no problem cutting it back if we were in a tighter situation. That’s not a faux pas in any way imo.

Weddings are so cultural, we can’t all be expected to know the “rules” for close family and friends and I don’t think anyone reasonable holds you to any such standard if you’re a guest.

Anonymous wrote:Op here-thank you all. I am asking how much is reasonable to give as a gift after spending a ton for hotel arrangements for weekend in Newport. Is $150-$200 reasonable or too cheap for both dh and myself? I don’t have a checkbook so was hoping online gift of either amount would be ok.

It’s fine. It’s a gift, not an entry fee. Pay what you’re comfortable with.