Yes. People are generally pretty self centered- at least my mom and MIL are. My mom will hear my kids squabbling in the background while I’m trying to make dinner and also reminding kids we leave for swim practice in 30 min - and ask me if I’ve had a chance to call and make a dinner reservation for a vacation that is 3 months away. I work full time. She is retired. She can call the restaurant in the same amount of time she takes to call, but you know she is SO BUSY what with volunteering at the library, Dr appts, and pickle ball lessons.

100% yes.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s a bit of lost/loneliness. At least that’s how I felt when MIL retired. She no longer had a ‘purpose’ and got a little extra needy for a while until she settled in.

HAHAHAHAHAHA I knew it! The very FIRST response was guaranteed to bash her mother-in-law!!!!

So good.

Hi Crazy MIl lady. Have you found a job yet?

Wut?

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s a bit of lost/loneliness. At least that’s how I felt when MIL retired. She no longer had a ‘purpose’ and got a little extra needy for a while until she settled in.

HAHAHAHAHAHA I knew it! The very FIRST response was guaranteed to bash her mother-in-law!!!!

So good.

Hi Crazy MIl lady. Have you found a job yet?

Anonymous wrote:Maybe, OP (and others) I’m just guessing, but could it be that you waited until you were 105 to have children and that because it’s so unnatural to so many people to have contemporaries bogged down with children at their age that they forget sometimes that you do?

No OP, but no, I had my kid at 30, the same age MIL had hers. She's just retired and bored and doesn't think that others have other things going on.

Maybe, OP (and others) I’m just guessing, but could it be that you waited until you were 105 to have children and that because it’s so unnatural to so many people to have contemporaries bogged down with children at their age that they forget sometimes that you do?

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s a bit of lost/loneliness. At least that’s how I felt when MIL retired. She no longer had a ‘purpose’ and got a little extra needy for a while until she settled in.

HAHAHAHAHAHA I knew it! The very FIRST response was guaranteed to bash her mother-in-law!!!!

So good.

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Anonymous wrote:All you have to do is explain this to them in a nice way. Lots of people only think about themselves and their needs all day everyday. If you want to help them, then you can, together with them, brainstorm things you can do to help that will fit into your schedule. If you don’t want to help, just make that clear in a nice way.

I mean you can explain it, but you can't make them believe it. As people age they get more and more salvation self-centered, until they have the personality of toddlers.

Why is it still ok to be cruel to elderly? God forbid YOU get old. I hope what goes around comes around for you. Who’s being self centered here? You!

Are only elderly people retired?

Serious question, many people I know retire in their 50's and 60's, and PPs are acting like only people in their 80's and 90's can be retired. This involves people on the younger side of retirement - people who are active and fully mobile, and do what they want when they want it. I suppose I just answered the question, with the latter part.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All you have to do is explain this to them in a nice way. Lots of people only think about themselves and their needs all day everyday. If you want to help them, then you can, together with them, brainstorm things you can do to help that will fit into your schedule. If you don’t want to help, just make that clear in a nice way.

I mean you can explain it, but you can't make them believe it. As people age they get more and more salvation self-centered, until they have the personality of toddlers.

Why is it still ok to be cruel to elderly? God forbid YOU get old. I hope what goes around comes around for you. Who’s being self centered here? You!

Are only elderly people retired?