Anonymous wrote:I think girls trips are dumb. Team take your kid.

I honestly agree. And how does anyone do a "weekend" in Europe? Not even a full week?? Going overseas is something you put aside at least a week for, two or three ideally. The trains are fast, but not that fast if you want to see more than one cool city.

I would not miss my kid’s birthday. I would maybe meet up a day later after my kid’s birthday depending on how long the trip was and how much I wanted to go.

I would have no problem missing camp drop off.

I wouldn't miss either because I love both those things.

OP, you are entitled to set your own boundaries for participating. Others decide, too, knowing your information. Depends how much they want you included.

Probably not but if I had to choose sleep away camp. I'd never purposely miss a birthday.

Maybe the birthday, if the girls trip was rare and special. Never the camp drop off.

I also don't do girls trips.

I would not skip either the last day of school or sleep away drop off - especially if it is last day of 5th grade.
I disagree with asking the kid. What happens when she gets to camp and most people have 2 parents there? I don’t think it’s fair to ask kids to decide how they will feel in the future about something for which they have no prior experience to draw from.

Unless you are having a birthday party,I could miss the birthday. You can video chat in. Dad can take him bowling or something. I would not miss camp drop off as I want to see the place, the cabin, counselors etc.

I personally wouldn’t miss either of those. I wouldn’t judge someone else for missing them though.
Having said that, Europe is far to go just for a weekend assuming you live in the US.

I wouldn't miss the birthday.

Pre-covid, I wouldn't miss camp drop off either because there was often a tour and/or opportunity to help get them settled. Now, though, both my kids' camps don't let parents get out of the car and it takes about 5 minutes -- I'd be ok missing that if my child was ok with it.

I wouldn’t miss a birthday but would have no problem with my husband handling camp dropoff.

If I wanted to go on the trip, I wouldn’t have a problem missing either of these as long as I could get my kid packed for camp before I left. However, I’ve never wanted to go on a girls trip and birthdays aren’t a big deal in our house.

I wouldn’t miss a random Sunday to go all the way to Europe for a weekend.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t miss either of those for a girls trip.

+2

You can't shift the girls' trip by 48hrs so you dont gave to miss this Op?

Are you the same Op, by chance, who posted last week about not wanting to go b/c you didn't get along w/ 1 of the friends?

My initial reaction is that I wouldn’t want to miss those things either. So I don’t think it’s crazy to say you’re unavailable for the trip because of those events. However I also think it’s fine if you miss them. I would have to weigh how this particular kid would handle it as well as the significance of the girls trip, who was going on it, the length of the trip, how often you do trips/time away, how hard it is to schedule, etc. to figure out what to do