OP: What are you looking for ?

What makes it a rebound? The time between relationships or being the first one after divorce?

I’m in a six year rebound relationship. It definitely made it harder and we have scars from it. But we got through it and I’m glad.

give her some time, I know one couple that went through something similar, xh of 20 years, and with 2 teens, kept lying about his years long affair while still asking to separate, did admit to having one after months of keeping her in limbo, after divorce she got into some rebound relationship with very nice guy and was on and off for couple of years but after one long split went back for good and been together for more than 10 years; xh did marry the other woman few years after the divorce and xw did hope to reconcile for all those years

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Anonymous wrote:OP agree again. I also want to emphasize I’m not possessive. I don’t break up with her out of jealousy. I broke up with her because given how much divorce trauma she had, I wasn’t sure if she was actually dating me for me or if she just wanted a warm body to distract her from fully grieving her divorce. I’m divorced too. I’ve been there done that. My mind and heart are clear. I know I love this woman, not because I don’t want to be alone, but because of who she is. I’m also mature enough to know love is not always enough, if that were the case we’d both still be married .

Next time put the details in your post, before commenters invent their own narratives and derail the conversation.

wouldn't change anything. too many people here will often insert their own opinions into the thread, disregarding the OP, or simply invent something (i.e., promoting 'alternate facts') just as an attempt to beat down/assign blame to the OP.

People remarry the person they divorced. I know two people who did that.

My rebound is now my husband of 25 years. Sure wasn't my plan, but it worked out ok.

Given everything you said, it sounds like it was a pretty positive relationship overall. Given the context you later provided, it did need to end when it did. Two things can be true at once.

If she reaches out in 6 months or a year, and is able to articulate what has materially changed in that time (not just that she misses you, but that because she missed you she has gone to therapy to deal with her lingering feelings over the ex, or similar) then yes, if you’re available, and still have feelings for her, by all means give it a shot.

You can’t control the circumstances under which you meet someone. You can control what you do after that to create circumstances to allow the relationship to flourish. If she’s improving the circumstances, that’s the most you can ask for.

OP did good. I dated a woman just like that and it ended badly. I should never have dated her.

Doesn’t sound too good