Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry I am being vague on purpose. I can say there was a death involved so it really is/was [i]serious and traumatic. [b]

I think what I am learning is that it just sort of takes time, time for everyone to have space and heal.

6 months to a year at least.

It's just unfortunate for all involved that it was paired with something common and necessary.

Serious + traumatic = trauma informed therapy for those continuing to suffer. Accidental/unexpected death can be traumatic for witnesses, family and friends. Not all people grieve the same and some may be more traumatized than others. PTSD may be affected at least 2 of you. I'm sorry you're all going through this. Please don't blame whichever letter of person who has moved on or is otherwise coping differently than the group.

Are you the OP the thread about one friend sleeping with another friend’s neighbor (actually, I’m still uncertain what it was about because it was written in the same nonsensical, complicated way).

Please spare us! Hurts my brain and then I give up.

I'm sorry I am being vague on purpose. I can say there was a death involved so it really is/was serious and traumatic.

I think what I am learning is that it just sort of takes time, time for everyone to have space and heal.

6 months to a year at least.

It's just unfortunate for all involved that it was paired with something common and necessary.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Person 1 made A happen, then by happenstance tragic B occurred.

Everyone ceased doing A, except clueless or purposeful Person 2.

Person 1 is now triggered by Person 2 doing A.

I've tried to demonstrate to Person 2 what you could do instead.

Ugh, the cycle goes on and on...

Is this the story about the kid who drowned at a pool party? Person 1 had a pool party, and a kid drowned. No more pool parties. But Person 2 decided to throw a pool party.

What story?

Anonymous wrote:Person 1 made A happen, then by happenstance tragic B occurred.

Everyone ceased doing A, except clueless or purposeful Person 2.

Person 1 is now triggered by Person 2 doing A.

I've tried to demonstrate to Person 2 what you could do instead.

Ugh, the cycle goes on and on...

Is this the story about the kid who drowned at a pool party? Person 1 had a pool party, and a kid drowned. No more pool parties. But Person 2 decided to throw a pool party.

If it's using helmets, seatbelts or not riding bikes on highways, I side with A.

If this Is person specific health issue like edibles, running, eating red meat, A should know some bodies are more susceptible to bad effects while others will never be. Maybe genetic testing could ease their fears.

If it was truly random tragedy, B is in the right but A will not likely be talked out of their stance by anyone. B should just avoid A when partaking in that action.

You posted about this before, OP. You didn’t give details then either. I’m not sure what you’re really looking for here.

What even is the community all these people belong to that makes it matter what that Person 2 is doing a thing that triggers Person A? A family? Coworkers? Neighbors? It matters a lot because if my sister’s husband choked on salad and tragically died, and my other sister insists on serving the same salad at every family dinner, I sort of get it.

But if Bob down the street broke his leg playing basketball and now his family wants my kids to stop playing basketball in the driveway, I’m like “No one cares, Bob! Go to PT and get over yourself.”

Like the myriad of contexts we could be talking about make it impossible to draw broad conclusions.

The world is not going to pad its corners for you, OP. If you have a special sensitivity to "Situtation X," try to find a way to avoid that situation. Note that I am not talking about avoiding such things as homophobia, racism, etc, which should be called out. I'm talking about if you are especially sensitive to conversations about teen alcohol use, or some such thing. You can't expect the world to accommodate that.

Anonymous wrote:This is a really stupid post. Just add more details or don't post at all.

+1.

I have to agree.

This requires too much brainwork for me at this time!

🤣🤣🤣

So person C doesn't care that person B is still doing X? God, you all sound so ridiculously dramatic

Person A and C need therapy. You need to stay out of it. I get being sensitive, but I also think it is unfair to makr everyone walk on eggshells and stop doing activities because of others issues.

Is this like Mad Libs? Can dcumers fill in the blank?

Person A driving drunk and got into an accident...