Much ado about nothing.

If you don’t want people to see you being a jerk, then don’t be a jerk.

Anonymous wrote:Where did you all hear about this? I feel like I follow several celeb sites but totally missed this.

Reddit has copies of everything plus discussion:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Fauxmoi/comments/14tvigy/jonah_hills_ex_sarah_brady_shares_more_details/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1

Although I think his demands were absolutely unreasonable, he did state them calmly and she was free to 'no, thanks' her way out of there at any time. Think it's wrong she's releasing the texts.

He dated a surfer and he wants her to stop being in a bathing suit with men.

She dated a guy who did a whole series on therapy and being insecure and want him to be secure.

Lol to both of them,

Woah, this thread is coming in hot for lots of Hollywood dudes.

Where did you all hear about this? I feel like I follow several celeb sites but totally missed this.

There is a respectful way to communicate your boundaries and an jerkish manipulative way to communicate boundaries. I think he is a jerk, but probably not an abuser, based on what we have seen. Just like the Aziz, Armie Hammer, and Chris Hardwick stories. It’s not against the law to be a jerk. If these ladies don’t want to be with jerks, they should leave.

I can't stand Jonah Hill. But, he didn't seem terribly out of line. He laid out his needs, and she laid out hers, and they were incompatible. Not everyone is cut out to date a bikini model surfer girl, and that's okay.

He initially was attracted to he because she was a free spirited hot surfer girl, and then he started laying out rules like she could not surf with men?!!? And also she couldn’t model?! Not just post pictures in a suit but also just not model at all?! He’s an ACTOR! It’s not that different, Jonah. This is who she was when they started dating. It’s incredibly controlling and to pretend that’s it’s not, that he’s just setting BOUNDARIES, is misogyny.

It’s one thing to say that you want to be exclusive and not date other people, or that you don’t want your girlfriend to go to dinner with her ex. It’s quite another to tell a surfer she can’t surf with men, and that if men approach her she should just say hello and she needs to find her boyfriend. Why not just have her wear a dog collar and keep her attached to your bed when you’re not around?

Anonymous wrote:They’re not abusive but they’re still awful. You can’t just phrase your unreasonable demands in a calm way and pretend it’s fine. Some requests of a partner are reasonable and some are not. The correct response would be for her to just say farewell and move on, but he’s still a creep. Would you want any of your friends to date a guy who sent those messages? Absolutely not!

Some of you are so delusional and dramatic.

This was two adults dating for a few months. He kindly, respectfully, and directly told her what his boundaries are for a romantic partner, and if she wasn’t on the same wavelength he wished her well with no drama or hard feelings. That is thoroughly decent, well-adjusted, ADULT behavior. (The merits or lack thereof of the boundaries are totally irrelevant—that is entirely subjective and personal. I’m fat. I don’t get to say it’s unreasonable and abusive if someone says they won’t date me if I continue at my current weight. That is their right.)

The only “awful” behavior here is the bipolar child releasing private texts long after he’s moved on and is in another healthy relationship to try and generate her 15 minutes.

Anonymous wrote:They’re not abusive but they’re still awful. You can’t just phrase your unreasonable demands in a calm way and pretend it’s fine. Some requests of a partner are reasonable and some are not. The correct response would be for her to just say farewell and move on, but he’s still a creep. Would you want any of your friends to date a guy who sent those messages? Absolutely not!

So they broke up. Everyone gets to choose how much they want to be "bound" by their partner. He laid out what he wants, she didn't want it, they parted ways. We all want partners who are on the same page. It would be totally different if they'd been together for a long time or had kids, and all the sudden he changed.

Move on, nothing to see here.

You can’t talk to other men? What???

They’re not abusive but they’re still awful. You can’t just phrase your unreasonable demands in a calm way and pretend it’s fine. Some requests of a partner are reasonable and some are not. The correct response would be for her to just say farewell and move on, but he’s still a creep. Would you want any of your friends to date a guy who sent those messages? Absolutely not!

Anonymous wrote:Eh, I’m on her side. He wanted her not post pictures of herself in her bathing suit, when she was a surfer?! And she couldn’t talk to guys in the water besides saying hello and then she had to swim away! And if a guy came up to her otherwise she was supposed to just say hi and then say she hall was going to find her boyfriend. Wut? That’s too much.

To say those are his boundaries is s allowing him too much credit. Those aren’t boundaries, he has built her a prison, little by little so she didn’t notice until she was locked in.

I used to like him. I watched his film about his psychiatrist and I thought he seemed level headed and nice. I didn’t know he was pulling this bs. I do not approve. Maybe McLovinvwas on to something.

lolwut?

That's insanely dramatic. It's like 58 year olds calling themselves "orphans" after their parents recently died.