Anonymous wrote:No matter what you do, it is toxic for her to call you lazy in front of the kids. It will taint their relationship with both of you and may cause them to overwork and people please.

It sounds like you need to have a conversation with your wife.

It sounds like he is lazy. Step up, and she will stop.

No matter what you do, it is toxic for her to call you lazy in front of the kids. It will taint their relationship with both of you and may cause them to overwork and people please.

It sounds like you need to have a conversation with your wife.

Anonymous wrote:Why are men so surprised when they have kids but there's actually work to do when you get home? I mean, did you honestly think you're working? Wife was also going to want to be the soul caretaker of the children you produced? I really don't get it how men are always so surprised that kids are work and then complain about having to do that work. I guarantee you there's not a woman who works outside of the home alive that wants to come home and do another 10 hours of child care alone.

They think women are wired to do this sh**, and men are less empathic.

Why are men so surprised when they have kids but there's actually work to do when you get home? I mean, did you honestly think you're working? Wife was also going to want to be the soul caretaker of the children you produced? I really don't get it how men are always so surprised that kids are work and then complain about having to do that work. I guarantee you there's not a woman who works outside of the home alive that wants to come home and do another 10 hours of child care alone.

It’s Saturday morning. Today, take the kids swimming (both kids) and leave your wife home. When you get home, give them dinner and do bed and bath time on your own.

Tonight when your wife isn’t disgusted with you, sit down and look (honestly) at both of your schedules. Do you have the same amount of kid-free-work-free time? Is housework equitably divided? These bills you’re proud of paying— they include nanny and housekeeper? Consider adding hours for both.

You seem to want to have your wife act like a SAHM, but she isn’t one. So her financial contributions are just as important as yours if you guys can’t get along without them. Do you have the earning potential to replace her income entirely?

Anonymous wrote:My wife is lazier than me, but constantly tells me I don’t do anything. Dishes would sit for a week if I didn’t clean them, laundry would pile up if I didn’t move them through the process.

But, allowing her to think she carries a disproportionate share of the load and is a hero is the secret to a happy marriage.

She’s hot and does work hard on that.

Everyone makes trade offs.

Except for the "constantly tells me I don't do anything" I would think this is my husband.

Kinda brilliant.

My wife is lazier than me, but constantly tells me I don’t do anything. Dishes would sit for a week if I didn’t clean them, laundry would pile up if I didn’t move them through the process.

But, allowing her to think she carries a disproportionate share of the load and is a hero is the secret to a happy marriage.

She’s hot and does work hard on that.

Everyone makes trade offs.

Anonymous wrote:Ste you the husband from the “DH won’t take kid swimming” thread?

Or the mid-life crisis thread?

Ste you the husband from the “DH won’t take kid swimming” thread?

It doesn't matter if you're tired. Keep going. She's tired too. SMH.

She shouldn't say that in front of the kids, and she should generally be kinder about it...but my mom worked part-time and she said it was the worst of all worlds, because she had to do everything. Basically a SAHM who also worked.

I would say hire a regular cleaner if you can, and also find some easy meals you can throw together. Seriously, buy the prepared meals from Costco or something if you really can't cook. Some of them are really good.

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Anonymous wrote:Move out and get your own place. Stop paying her bills. Cancel swim club membership. Once she has to get a full time job, she might understand better.

She does work and does all the other stuff. That means she does work full-time, moron. If he's not doing anything at home, she won't realize anything new. Getting a full-time job would make it even harder.

When you move out, you will get to experience having the kids for the weekend all by yourself!

Maybe you are lazy. If you are lazy, your kids probably already noticed. Her calling you out will not be a shock to them.

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Anonymous wrote:Move out and get your own place. Stop paying her bills. Cancel swim club membership. Once she has to get a full time job, she might understand better.

She does work and does all the other stuff. That means she does work full-time, moron. If he's not doing anything at home, she won't realize anything new. Getting a full-time job would make it even harder.

Not if she has no paycheck to show for it. When her husband leaves, who will be the moron with no way to support her children?

She works part-time and the husband will have to pay child support. Nice try. Obviously written by a lazy man.

Of course, but that's not going to pay all the bills.
And no, it was written by a woman who is responsible, not dependent.

It sounds like you are insecure. It has nothing to do with this thread. If his wife worked full-time, she would have even more work to do. Taking care of kids and a house is also work.

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Anonymous wrote:Move out and get your own place. Stop paying her bills. Cancel swim club membership. Once she has to get a full time job, she might understand better.

She does work and does all the other stuff. That means she does work full-time, moron. If he's not doing anything at home, she won't realize anything new. Getting a full-time job would make it even harder.

Not if she has no paycheck to show for it. When her husband leaves, who will be the moron with no way to support her children?

She works part-time and the husband will have to pay child support. Nice try. Obviously written by a lazy man.

Of course, but that's not going to pay all the bills.
And no, it was written by a woman who is responsible, not dependent.