Anonymous wrote:Hi OP, in 52, look 48, and get chatted up often by men 65+. They sense some vulnerability, I don’t know.

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP, in 52, look 48, and get chatted up often by men 65+. They sense some vulnerability, I don’t know.

Anonymous wrote:I keep getting hit on and chatted up by 70-year-old, overweight, never married or very long since divorced men. Always the socially awkward ones, too.

I’m 37, divorced last year, thin and relatively attractive, putting myself back out there but absolutely NOT interested in these creepy old men. I’m afraid I somehow give out some kind of signal that I’m too “eligible” or somehow in the league of these men. I dated ONE man who was pushing 60, because we uniquely clicked, but that doesn’t mean I’m fair game. Go home, grandpa.

Anonymous wrote:I keep getting hit on and chatted up by 70-year-old, overweight, never married or very long since divorced men. Always the socially awkward ones, too.

I’m 37, divorced last year, thin and relatively attractive, putting myself back out there but absolutely NOT interested in these creepy old men. I’m afraid I somehow give out some kind of signal that I’m too “eligible” or somehow in the league of these men. I dated ONE man who was pushing 60, because we uniquely clicked, but that doesn’t mean I’m fair game. Go home, grandpa.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife has a friend that says that she is hit on by men constantly.
They do stuff together and what my wife has witnessed has nothing more than normal public courtesies like holding a door or asking if the line forms here type stuff, it just happened to be coming from a man, her friend then rolls her eyes and huffs that she’s surrounded by lecherous men.

OP, what does being hit on mean to you? When you say chatted up what is the context?
Do these 70 year old men ask you for your phone number?

I think there is a certain friendliness / talkativeness that men around 70 develop. I'm thinking about my dad here. He's not an extrovert, but once he retired and had some time on his hands, he often chatted up strangers. I guarantee you he wasn't hitting on anyone, but it sounds similar to what your wife witnesses with her friend.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are likely doing nothing wrong. Men feel entitled to hit on anyone around them. A 67 yo may no longer feel entitled to hit on an 18 yo, but someone 30 years younger? - that feels in range to them, particularly when the 67 yo is convinced he’s “really” more like a 55 or 60 yo.

I am 57 and still get street harassment - whistles, comments about my ass, etc. I’m not particularly fit or pretty. However, at the moment it happens, I am alone. That’s the only thing I’m doing “wrong” - in that moment I am a woman unprotected by a man and so other men think it’s OK to sexually objectify me out loud or make some kind of pass.

If this kind of contact is occurring in a dating environment, it is simply because in that environment men think they have a shot at anything. It’s not because of anything you do.

This is such good advice.

There was literally no advice there, just someone posting about how they still get hit on and cat called.

Anonymous wrote:My wife has a friend that says that she is hit on by men constantly.
They do stuff together and what my wife has witnessed has nothing more than normal public courtesies like holding a door or asking if the line forms here type stuff, it just happened to be coming from a man, her friend then rolls her eyes and huffs that she’s surrounded by lecherous men.

OP, what does being hit on mean to you? When you say chatted up what is the context?
Do these 70 year old men ask you for your phone number?