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Anonymous wrote:I am so curious about the author’s motivation for publishing this. She is so connected that I would have thought she would rather keep things private.

She is probably terrible which is why he cheated and left.

Cheating and leaving your spouse is terrible. But so is writing into the NYT about it.

My DH is horrible to me and emotionally abusive. He threatens me with the kids and financially. People would be shocked because he comes across as cool and collected. He is a complete ass and I’m only still here because of the kids.

If I managed to find a hot BF whom I enjoyed spending time with him and had the money to fight him in a divorce, I too would be on that first ferry back. I’m sure my DH would tell everyone how awful I am.

My own experience makes me question that they had this picture perfect marriage and he’s an evil cheater who suddenly up and left her.

That was my takeaway too.

Clearly airing dirty laundry in the times is a bit much but I have a lot more sympathy for an wounded, messy lash out than an absolutely heartless blindside with no empathy for the mother of your children!

Same here. Some of these posts disparaging the author are really sus. Sound like someone from the ex husband's camp doing damage control.

Hey, if Belle Burden's version of events are distorted, he can write his own rebuttal. Since they are all so well connected to the upper crust it will surely get published by the Times or the New Yorker.

Who says they want nothing to do with their kids? The husband is a prize a$$.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so curious about the author’s motivation for publishing this. She is so connected that I would have thought she would rather keep things private.

She is probably terrible which is why he cheated and left.

Cheating and leaving your spouse is terrible. But so is writing into the NYT about it.

My DH is horrible to me and emotionally abusive. He threatens me with the kids and financially. People would be shocked because he comes across as cool and collected. He is a complete ass and I’m only still here because of the kids.

If I managed to find a hot BF whom I enjoyed spending time with him and had the money to fight him in a divorce, I too would be on that first ferry back. I’m sure my DH would tell everyone how awful I am.

My own experience makes me question that they had this picture perfect marriage and he’s an evil cheater who suddenly up and left her.

That was my takeaway too.

Clearly airing dirty laundry in the times is a bit much but I have a lot more sympathy for an wounded, messy lash out than an absolutely heartless blindside with no empathy for the mother of your children!

Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine putting such little effort into a post. Are you visiting from NYT marketing, trying to drum up a few clicks? Sad.

You can’t read?

Anonymous wrote:The humble brag about losing 20 lbs was annoying
Yeah, I don't feel so sorry for her. She'll be fine, he was probably an ass anyway.

I didn’t read it as a humble brag. I lose my appetite when I’m stressed too, so I just saw it and physical manifestation of her distress.

Anonymous wrote:Is he from the same elite background?

Yes.

Some googling through public obituaries finds that the author's former sister in law is Ruth Davis Konigsberg, a writer who apparently specializes grief and topics in psychology. LOL.

Former brother in law is (Rodman) Townsend Davis Jr.

In laws all very rich and connected in NYC, as much as Burden is. Pretty surprising you can be ghosted by your own husband and in laws in these very small and elite NYC circles.

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Anonymous wrote:I am so curious about the author’s motivation for publishing this. She is so connected that I would have thought she would rather keep things private.

She is probably terrible which is why he cheated and left.

Cheating and leaving your spouse is terrible. But so is writing into the NYT about it.

My DH is horrible to me and emotionally abusive. He threatens me with the kids and financially. People would be shocked because he comes across as cool and collected. He is a complete ass and I’m only still here because of the kids.

If I managed to find a hot BF whom I enjoyed spending time with him and had the money to fight him in a divorce, I too would be on that first ferry back. I’m sure my DH would tell everyone how awful I am.

My own experience makes me question that they had this picture perfect marriage and he’s an evil cheater who suddenly up and left her.

That was my takeaway too.

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Anonymous wrote:He left her and abandoned their kids-I’m not broken hearted abt his reputation being sullied.

He didn’t abandon the kids. Where are you getting that? One child is in college. Maybe the mom wanted full custody.

She said several times he didn’t want any substantive care of the kids.

Is he from the same elite background?

The humble brag about losing 20 lbs was annoying
Yeah, I don't feel so sorry for her. She'll be fine, he was probably an ass anyway.

Anonymous wrote:I am so curious about the author’s motivation for publishing this. She is so connected that I would have thought she would rather keep things private.

She is probably terrible which is why he cheated and left.

Cheating and leaving your spouse is terrible. But so is writing into the NYT about it.

My DH is horrible to me and emotionally abusive. He threatens me with the kids and financially. People would be shocked because he comes across as cool and collected. He is a complete ass and I’m only still here because of the kids.

If I managed to find a hot BF whom I enjoyed spending time with him and had the money to fight him in a divorce, I too would be on that first ferry back. I’m sure my DH would tell everyone how awful I am.

My own experience makes me question that they had this picture perfect marriage and he’s an evil cheater who suddenly up and left her.

Anonymous wrote:The MV house is worth $4.7m apparently, on top of her multi-million dollar NYC apartment. She's a descendant of the Vanderbilt family. And just to keep it current, the Daily Mail notes that she's a Harvard alum whose family has donated a building and lots of $$. Doesn't make her husband less of a jerk, but the story is a bit less compelling when you realize she is an uber-wealthy socialite.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12252243/NYC-lawyer-shares-anguish-husband-20-years-left-woman-pandemic.html

I still have sympathy.The person she trusted the most completely blinsided her.

Anonymous wrote:He left her and abandoned their kids-I’m not broken hearted abt his reputation being sullied.

He didn’t abandon the kids. Where are you getting that? One child is in college. Maybe the mom wanted full custody.

The MV house is worth $4.7m apparently, on top of her multi-million dollar NYC apartment. She's a descendant of the Vanderbilt family. And just to keep it current, the Daily Mail notes that she's a Harvard alum whose family has donated a building and lots of $$. Doesn't make her husband less of a jerk, but the story is a bit less compelling when you realize she is an uber-wealthy socialite.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12252243/NYC-lawyer-shares-anguish-husband-20-years-left-woman-pandemic.html