Anonymous
Post 07/03/2023 03:00     Subject: Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Do you specifically want to give her a physical item?

I would personally love a long weekend getaway, or a spa day
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2023 02:17     Subject: Re:Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What about an electronic picture frame? You can preload childhood pictures of your son, and current pictures of the couple maybe even conspire with her mother to get pictures from her childhood. (just them, though - there may be times they won’t want to look over and see you or other extended family members looking back. If they want you in the rotation, they can add you in). Then, over time, they can add pictures of the life they build together.


OMG. Could some young people please chime in??? No one besides my 80 year old mother wants this gift.


What is your suggestion?


Probably doesn’t have one.

Ok, young people, what would this bride like? Op said she likes to garden. Something to plant in honor of their wedding day?
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2023 02:13     Subject: Re:Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What about an electronic picture frame? You can preload childhood pictures of your son, and current pictures of the couple maybe even conspire with her mother to get pictures from her childhood. (just them, though - there may be times they won’t want to look over and see you or other extended family members looking back. If they want you in the rotation, they can add you in). Then, over time, they can add pictures of the life they build together.


OMG. Could some young people please chime in??? No one besides my 80 year old mother wants this gift.


What is your suggestion?
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2023 01:48     Subject: Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Clearly gift giving is tricky and people value different things. Taste in art changes as their home changes, time for hobbies change. Don't stress out about a perfect gift. It could just be an experience like a massage before the wedding. Something not too big but meaningful as their home and family changes, like that Christmas ornament (or a mezuzah etc).

Just be a good human being and treat her well. That's the best gift any MIL can give.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2023 01:31     Subject: Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A painting?



OP here. Nice idea. Thank you.


No art. If she doesn’t like it she’s going to feel obligated to hang it on a wall where you’ll be able to see it every time you come over. That’s a burden, not a gift.

I’d stick with the gardening theme.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2023 01:08     Subject: Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:Christmas tree ornament


This has a nice dish that you can put trinkets into
https://www.etsy.com/shop/ElkeMCrafts

Engraved cutting board
https://www.etsy.com/shop/CJKEngraving

Family tree with her family and your family (you would have to contact her family for info)
https://www.etsy.com/listing/794846098/
https://www.etsy.com/shop/AncesTree
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2023 00:51     Subject: Re:Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:What about an electronic picture frame? You can preload childhood pictures of your son, and current pictures of the couple maybe even conspire with her mother to get pictures from her childhood. (just them, though - there may be times they won’t want to look over and see you or other extended family members looking back. If they want you in the rotation, they can add you in). Then, over time, they can add pictures of the life they build together.


OMG. Could some young people please chime in??? No one besides my 80 year old mother wants this gift.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2023 00:44     Subject: Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Christmas tree ornament
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2023 00:32     Subject: Re:Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
What about an electronic picture frame? You can preload childhood pictures of your son, and current pictures of the couple maybe even conspire with her mother to get pictures from her childhood. (just them, though - there may be times they won’t want to look over and see you or other extended family members looking back. If they want you in the rotation, they can add you in). Then, over time, they can add pictures of the life they build together.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2023 00:28     Subject: Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:Are you sure she doesn't like any kind of jewelry? Is it possible she just couldn't afford what she really wants?


I don’t like jewelry it has nothing to do with money. If I have a simple gold chain on I feel it rubbing on neck. Earrings felt awful.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2023 00:25     Subject: Re:Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How about a quilt in a wedding ring pattern?

Here is one: https://www.amazon.com/Home-82113-3FQSET-Heritage-Wedding-Multicolor/dp/B01IPSF8WI/ref=asc_df_B01IPSF8XC/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=192211674600&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=1904473649200297190&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9011674&hvtargid=pla-304218074785&th=1


Only 60 yr olds with a ton of cats like quilts.


I admit, I'm reading this thread definitely thinking a bunch of boomer's are bouncing these gift ideas off of each other... a kneeling gardening bench? A quilt? A chain strap quilted Chanel bag? Fancy hair clip? Just...no. I don't know what the answer is, but it's none of these things.


I confess - I am a boomer and I am the person who suggested the garden kneeler bench and the quilt idea. And I have two cats. I am going to log off of DCUM now and go back to my crochet project. You young whipper snappers can come up with ideas for this young bride.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2023 00:22     Subject: Re:Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How about a quilt in a wedding ring pattern?

Here is one: https://www.amazon.com/Home-82113-3FQSET-Heritage-Wedding-Multicolor/dp/B01IPSF8WI/ref=asc_df_B01IPSF8XC/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=192211674600&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=1904473649200297190&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9011674&hvtargid=pla-304218074785&th=1


Only 60 yr olds with a ton of cats like quilts.


I admit, I'm reading this thread definitely thinking a bunch of boomer's are bouncing these gift ideas off of each other... a kneeling gardening bench? A quilt? A chain strap quilted Chanel bag? Fancy hair clip? Just...no. I don't know what the answer is, but it's none of these things.


My MIL gave me jewelry but also gave me a black cashmere pashmina. Over ten years in, I still use it often, and love it. Maybe it's not a typical gift, but it's not something I re-gifted or shoved in the back of a closet.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2023 00:12     Subject: Re:Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How about a quilt in a wedding ring pattern?

Here is one: https://www.amazon.com/Home-82113-3FQSET-Heritage-Wedding-Multicolor/dp/B01IPSF8WI/ref=asc_df_B01IPSF8XC/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=192211674600&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=1904473649200297190&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9011674&hvtargid=pla-304218074785&th=1


Only 60 yr olds with a ton of cats like quilts.


I admit, I'm reading this thread definitely thinking a bunch of boomer's are bouncing these gift ideas off of each other... a kneeling gardening bench? A quilt? A chain strap quilted Chanel bag? Fancy hair clip? Just...no. I don't know what the answer is, but it's none of these things.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2023 00:06     Subject: Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
A nice vase.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2023 00:01     Subject: Re:Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:How about a quilt in a wedding ring pattern?

Here is one: https://www.amazon.com/Home-82113-3FQSET-Heritage-Wedding-Multicolor/dp/B01IPSF8WI/ref=asc_df_B01IPSF8XC/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=192211674600&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=1904473649200297190&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9011674&hvtargid=pla-304218074785&th=1


Only 60 yr olds with a ton of cats like quilts.