Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH was SHOCKED when I told him I was pretty sure there's a six week waiting period, minimum. I asked a friend and she said it took her almost five months.

Ask him to give birth and see how it feels.

Exactly. What was he expecting? You have a wound the size of a dinner plate inside you. It needs to heal.

Men intentionally don't think about it because they don't want to. Ignorance of what bearing children does to our bodies is a luxury they feel they can afford.

6-8 weeks each time.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH was SHOCKED when I told him I was pretty sure there's a six week waiting period, minimum. I asked a friend and she said it took her almost five months.

Ask him to give birth and see how it feels.

Exactly. What was he expecting? You have a wound the size of a dinner plate inside you. It needs to heal.

I think it was maybe 10-12 weeks? I was just far too exhausted and stressed before then. Then not really consistently until the baby developed a real afternoon nap at around 4-5 months. I was just not able to get in the mood at night- wanted to collapse in bed and have no demands at all. But we settled into a nice pattern of weekend afternoons. Physically I actually enjoyed it more that before (multiple orgasms) and didn’t have any of the pain/dryness some other women have.

Anonymous wrote:DH was SHOCKED when I told him I was pretty sure there's a six week waiting period, minimum. I asked a friend and she said it took her almost five months.

Ask him to give birth and see how it feels.

I waited until I got the doctor’s go ahead at 6 weeks after both my babies, but honestly I felt ready before then. In fact, my regular Dr couldn’t see me until 8 weeks pp and I switch appts to one of her partners! I couldn’t wait that extra 2 weeks! For me and my partner, we didn’t have any issues resuming satisfying, regular marital relations.

With our first, we did other “things” before 6 weeks but I wasn’t ready until about 8 weeks for the full thing. I took a good girlfriend’s advice and had two glasses of wine, didn’t put any expectations into the first time, and then felt like that “hurdle” was done. Quickly got back into a 1-2 week routine that has been consistent ever since. Sometimes more, sometimes less.

I’m pregnant with our second now and have felt TERRIBLE so have only been having sex like, once a month. Want to work hard to make sure that doesn’t become a norm.

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Anonymous wrote:Listen I'm super high-libido. like, laughably so. But I did it at 5 weeks (cleared by OB - it is usually 6 weeks) and it felt super loose. I was so upset by it. I am still embarrassed!!!

My recommendation: Wait until 8 weeks if you have a vaginal delivery. Do "other stuff" until then. Honestly you will both just want sleep.

It’s very person dependent. As long as you are cleared by a doctor and want to have sex - have sex!

Yes I guess my general recommendation would be: wait until you feel comfortable and "go solo" first to see how things are feeling down there.

I was right back to feeling great at 8-10 weeks and truly felt normal at 4-6 months pp. I did pelvic floor PT around that time. I still have hypertonic (clenched) pelvic floor 4 years pp but it's not a problem if I do some massage.

Ideal is about 15 months and then make the next one.

Tried at 6 weeks, then maybe five times the first year? Had bad pelvic pain, low libido, and it was uncomfortable. After year one, I (finally) started getting sleep, weaned, did pelvic floor PT, and started using estrogen cream from my OBGYN. Things got way better. Pro tip: get lube and a couples vibrator😜

I was begging DH by 3 weeks. My hormones made my libido go crazy, like beyond anything I'd experienced before. It was the strangest thing because I was exhausted, stressed, and battling PPD but the second DH brushed by me, I wanted to jump him. My mind and body were very disconnected.

Anyways we resumed at 6 weeks and had no issues.

I was cleared at 6 weeks but in pain during sex for a year. DH was fabulous about it.

My first—it was 8 weeks. I went to a check up at 6 weeks, expecting to be cleared/ok’d for sex then but Dr said bc of my episiotomy I needed an extra 2 weeks

My second it was only about 5 weeks. I felt so much better after my second than I did after my first.

Anonymous wrote:I only waited 6 weeks because I wanted to, but I was very dry for the first year.

Breastfeeding hormones make you dry - invest in good lube when you’re ready to have sex if you’re nursing.

I think it was around five days after c-section. It was fine. Definitely not dr approved. Everyone is different.