Anonymous wrote:I took DHs name and kids have his last name. But, I wish I kept mine and gave them my last name since my dad doesn't have any son's or brother's.

I kept mine and gave it to my son for this reason. I have two sisters who only have girls, so he will continue the name into the next Gen.

Anonymous wrote:I know a couple where the wife didn’t take the husband’s last name. Their first child was given wife’s last name. Their second child was given husband’s last name.

da fook

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I kept mine and gave my kids my DH’s, because this is the laziest option with regard to paperwork.

+1.

+2
Also, my husband cared about the kids having his last name, so I got to pick their first names.

+3

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I kept mine and gave my kids my DH’s, because this is the laziest option with regard to paperwork.

+1.

+2
Also, my husband cared about the kids having his last name, so I got to pick their first names.

I’m southern so I took my husbands name and my maiden name is now my middle name. Our second son has my maiden name which is the way we honor my side.

I took DHs name and kids have his last name. But, I wish I kept mine and gave them my last name since my dad doesn't have any son's or brother's.

Kept my name. Husband kept his. We gave kids a totally different last name. Minimal paperwork.

Lesbian here -- I wish I had taken my wife's name when we married in 2008. (No kids, so no issue there).

My last name is my stepfathers name, and he was not a good guy. Plus it's impossible to spell or pronounce. Her last name is a familiar Anglo Saxon surname, spelled a little nontraditionally. I do use it informally -- making reservations and things like that.

I'm basically retired now. Maybe I'll go ahead and do it.

Larla Boyle Rice back

Neighbors have 2DC, one boy and one girl. DD has mom’s surname and DS has dad’s. DW only uses her maiden name. Fine, great except the school directory botches this every year - and school friends didn’t realize the DC were siblings. I realize this is mot my family, just tossing this out there.

I know another family who created a new family surname - kind of clever and worked. All have the same surname. It’s like Summerholt (Summer and Holt)

Another option: You could both hyphenate your last names. All go by hyphenated surname.

Rockefeller Zemin

Semi traditional DW of 26 years.

When I got married, I ditched my very boring, basic middle name of Anne and used my maiden name as my middle and took DH surname.

My mom did the same in 1964.

I am Larla Boyle Rice.

My business card reads Laura Boyle Rice (no hyphen).

I took my husband’s last name and the kids have his last name too. Why? Because I like my husband and his family better than I like my dad. In fact my dad was abusive. I didn’t want to share his name anymore. If my last name pre-marriage was my mom’s last name, it would’ve been a harder decision and I probably would’ve kept my last name because my mom is great and I would want to keep that tie to her.

I know a couple where the wife didn’t take the husband’s last name. Their first child was given wife’s last name. Their second child was given husband’s last name.

An acquaintance traced roots of his last name, it came from his slaveowner his great- great-grand pa was owned by and also found out that his real great-grand pa's best friend was grand pa's real dad. He said his pride and sense of connection to his last name evaporated pretty fast.

Anonymous wrote:I took my DH’s and gave it to my kids because his is much easier to spell and pronounce.

+1 Dh and I both had 6 letter surnames, but his is one of the top 10 most common last names in the US and mine threw everyone for a loop, so it was no contest.