Anonymous
Post 06/25/2023 09:22     Subject: Re:The term ‘push present’
The mom being presented with jewelry at the birth of her children is customary in my culture. It can be given by the husband, parents, ILs, relatives, friends etc. The jewelry (or keepsake in gold or silver) can be for the mother, or for the child. This is regardless of HHI.

But, push present is a weird and insulting name. My parents and my ILs gave jewelry to me on the birth of both of my children. I would have been really pissed if they would have called it "push present".
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2023 09:03     Subject: The term ‘push present’
Anonymous wrote:Lol strive on dc strivers. The Hamptons will be calling any day now…historically umc seeking women want to dissociate themselves from lmc women by proving they don’t breastfeed, hire Nannie’s, cosleep, etc. now that’s all changed and I guess we have to separate ourselves by proving we are above ‘push presents’ and ‘gender reveals’. When really we should be in solidarity with lmc women giving birth since we are all facing outrageously high mortality risks due to healthcare inequities.


You seem fun.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2023 08:32     Subject: The term ‘push present’
No push present if it's a C-section?

Agree tackiest term ever.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2023 08:29     Subject: The term ‘push present’
Anonymous wrote:Lol strive on dc strivers. The Hamptons will be calling any day now…historically umc seeking women want to dissociate themselves from lmc women by proving they don’t breastfeed, hire Nannie’s, cosleep, etc. now that’s all changed and I guess we have to separate ourselves by proving we are above ‘push presents’ and ‘gender reveals’. When really we should be in solidarity with lmc women giving birth since we are all facing outrageously high mortality risks due to healthcare inequities.


What
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2023 08:28     Subject: The term ‘push present’
I hate this term but it’s been around for years. The first friends I knew who had a baby, she talked about her push present back in 2003. I’m sure the term existed before then, but I just didn’t know people of baby making age.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2023 08:27     Subject: The term ‘push present’
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Babymoons, push presents, weddings that go on for days. All about social media and the incredible narcissism of our society



Whaaat? Some people just want to go on a vacation before sleepless nights start? We weren’t afforded that luxury unfortunately, but would have appreciated the option.

I think the consensus in here is the present isn’t so bad but the name is.

And “weddings that go on for days”… you mean Indian weddings? Or what here? I hope we didn’t have you at our wedding - hardly any of it made it to social media, but I’d hate to find out we had a bitter Betty in the group who participated in fun activities before and after the day of the wedding. Sheesh.

You seem bitter, judgy, and unhappy. Is your cat giving you the silent treatment again?

Go on a vacation before the birth of you child; just don’t call it a babymoon.


PP. Nah they can call it whatever they want. Such a bitter, lacking in self awareness thread.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2023 08:25     Subject: The term ‘push present’
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is the kind of thing people who have babymoons do. Plus it all has to be IG-worthy - or at least in their minds.


Yes it’s for people who do babymoons and refer to their fetus by their future name the entire pregnancy. “Shelby is the size of a mango”. They call themselves preggo and their children kiddos.


They probably had a "spontaneous" choreographed flash mob at their wedding.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2023 08:25     Subject: The term ‘push present’
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is the kind of thing people who have babymoons do. Plus it all has to be IG-worthy - or at least in their minds.


Yes it’s for people who do babymoons and refer to their fetus by their future name the entire pregnancy. “Shelby is the size of a mango”. They call themselves preggo and their children kiddos.


And they use the dh/dd/ds/etc silliness as often as possible.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2023 08:19     Subject: The term ‘push present’
Lol strive on dc strivers. The Hamptons will be calling any day now…historically umc seeking women want to dissociate themselves from lmc women by proving they don’t breastfeed, hire Nannie’s, cosleep, etc. now that’s all changed and I guess we have to separate ourselves by proving we are above ‘push presents’ and ‘gender reveals’. When really we should be in solidarity with lmc women giving birth since we are all facing outrageously high mortality risks due to healthcare inequities.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2023 08:17     Subject: The term ‘push present’
Push present suppose the woman has a C-section.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2023 08:15     Subject: The term ‘push present’
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Babymoons, push presents, weddings that go on for days. All about social media and the incredible narcissism of our society



Whaaat? Some people just want to go on a vacation before sleepless nights start? We weren’t afforded that luxury unfortunately, but would have appreciated the option.

I think the consensus in here is the present isn’t so bad but the name is.

And “weddings that go on for days”… you mean Indian weddings? Or what here? I hope we didn’t have you at our wedding - hardly any of it made it to social media, but I’d hate to find out we had a bitter Betty in the group who participated in fun activities before and after the day of the wedding. Sheesh.

You seem bitter, judgy, and unhappy. Is your cat giving you the silent treatment again?

Go on a vacation before the birth of you child; just don’t call it a babymoon.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2023 08:09     Subject: The term ‘push present’
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I for some reason find this term to be so tacky and cheesy. Am I alone?


No you are not alone - it's a more recent trashy term that only low-class bumpkins use.
Not so recent, people called them that more than 25 years ago.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2023 07:20     Subject: The term ‘push present’
Anonymous wrote:Babymoons, push presents, weddings that go on for days. All about social media and the incredible narcissism of our society



Whaaat? Some people just want to go on a vacation before sleepless nights start? We weren’t afforded that luxury unfortunately, but would have appreciated the option.

I think the consensus in here is the present isn’t so bad but the name is.

And “weddings that go on for days”… you mean Indian weddings? Or what here? I hope we didn’t have you at our wedding - hardly any of it made it to social media, but I’d hate to find out we had a bitter Betty in the group who participated in fun activities before and after the day of the wedding. Sheesh.

You seem bitter, judgy, and unhappy. Is your cat giving you the silent treatment again?
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2023 07:19     Subject: The term ‘push present’
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is the kind of thing people who have babymoons do. Plus it all has to be IG-worthy - or at least in their minds.


Yes it’s for people who do babymoons and refer to their fetus by their future name the entire pregnancy. “Shelby is the size of a mango”. They call themselves preggo and their children kiddos.


Why is the term "kiddo" so irritating? I hate hate hate it. I'm fine with "doggo," which is basically the same thing.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2023 07:13     Subject: The term ‘push present’
Anonymous wrote:I’m convinced the term was made up to make fun of women. Women have been getting gifts to commemorate births for hundreds of years. Dh and I don’t give birthday or Christmas presents but I did get very nice gifts when my kids were born. They’re very special to me.


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