Anonymous
Post 06/24/2023 15:55     Subject: Re:MIL keeps pressuring DH to go in hot tub
Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it really doesn't matter. Unless you DH has a low speem count, if you can't conceive it's pretty much 100% an issue with you. Another wonderful benefit of being a woman.



Disagree. A quick google search shows that this is a real thing

https://healthcare.utah.edu/the-scope/health-library/all/2022/04/three-common-causes-infertility-men
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2023 15:50     Subject: MIL keeps pressuring DH to go in hot tub
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We’re currently on vacation with ILs at a lake house. When ILs booked the rental, MIL was super excited about the fact that it has a hot tub. However, DH and I are currently TTC, and we’ve read studies that show that going in a hot tub can decrease your sperm count for up to three months, so DH doesn’t want to go in the hot tub. However, MIL keeps pressuring him to go in, despite him saying no over and over. This is weird, right?


Is she always like this? My MIL only started doing this when she was in her 80s.



OP here, yes she’s always been like this…she’s like a bulldog and won’t accept no for an answer on anything
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2023 15:47     Subject: MIL keeps pressuring DH to go in hot tub
Anonymous wrote:Coming back to say there is a difference between something that negatively impacts sperm count and something that negatively impacts fertility. You can affect the sperm count with no impact on fertility.

It doesn’t matter. The MIL has no business pushing.
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2023 13:53     Subject: MIL keeps pressuring DH to go in hot tub
Coming back to say there is a difference between something that negatively impacts sperm count and something that negatively impacts fertility. You can affect the sperm count with no impact on fertility.
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2023 13:50     Subject: Re:MIL keeps pressuring DH to go in hot tub
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it really doesn't matter. Unless you DH has a low speem count, if you can't conceive it's pretty much 100% an issue with you. Another wonderful benefit of being a woman.


They both could be "sub fertile", as my obgyn put it, so I am team OP with being cautious while TTC.


Again, men have millions of sperm unless they have a diagnosed issue so 10 million vs 7 million it isn't an issue with him.
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2023 13:48     Subject: Re:MIL keeps pressuring DH to go in hot tub
MIL had a "vision" of how the trip would be and how much DH would enjoy the hot tub. Reality doesn't match and it's upsetting. Happens to my mom all the time.

DH should put his feet in to be sociable. Up to him what he shares about not getting all the way in. It would probably help her feelings if you got in and if you both complimented the choice of rental.
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2023 13:47     Subject: MIL keeps pressuring DH to go in hot tub
Anonymous wrote:Who wants to use a hot tub in summer? I’d only go in one after a day of skiing.


It's fun at night after a swim in the pool or ocean.
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2023 13:46     Subject: Re:MIL keeps pressuring DH to go in hot tub
Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it really doesn't matter. Unless you DH has a low speem count, if you can't conceive it's pretty much 100% an issue with you. Another wonderful benefit of being a woman.


They both could be "sub fertile", as my obgyn put it, so I am team OP with being cautious while TTC.
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2023 13:42     Subject: Re:MIL keeps pressuring DH to go in hot tub
Honestly, it really doesn't matter. Unless you DH has a low speem count, if you can't conceive it's pretty much 100% an issue with you. Another wonderful benefit of being a woman.
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2023 13:42     Subject: MIL keeps pressuring DH to go in hot tub
Who wants to use a hot tub in summer? I’d only go in one after a day of skiing.
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2023 13:35     Subject: MIL keeps pressuring DH to go in hot tub
Anonymous wrote:We’re currently on vacation with ILs at a lake house. When ILs booked the rental, MIL was super excited about the fact that it has a hot tub. However, DH and I are currently TTC, and we’ve read studies that show that going in a hot tub can decrease your sperm count for up to three months, so DH doesn’t want to go in the hot tub. However, MIL keeps pressuring him to go in, despite him saying no over and over. This is weird, right?


Is she always like this? My MIL only started doing this when she was in her 80s.
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2023 13:33     Subject: MIL keeps pressuring DH to go in hot tub
Your DH can handle his mom.
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2023 13:29     Subject: Re:MIL keeps pressuring DH to go in hot tub
Anonymous wrote:You don't owe an explanation, but could be helpful to empathize with MIL. She was very excited about the hot tub and wants to enjoy it with her guests. Showing appreciation for the thoughtfulness she put into choosing the rental could go a long way to keep things friendly.


This^ and she doesn't know that you two are trying to conceive and hot tub isn't good for that. Cut her some slack and either share this information or find a good excuse.
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2023 11:54     Subject: MIL keeps pressuring DH to go in hot tub
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:PP above and here you go

But it’s also worth bearing in mind that when we enter the waters of a Jacuzzi whatever we have on our skin we deposit into the warm water swirling around us. This includes the 100mg or so of feces that is usually present between our buttock cheeks. This means that while you’re relaxing in the hot tub’s warm water, you’ll likely breathe in or swallow your Jacuzzi partner’s body’s bacteria, viruses and fungi.



If you swallow the hot tub water you are doing it wrong.


If you’re over the age of 2 you shouldn’t be swallowing hot tub water.

-posting from my hot tub
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2023 11:30     Subject: MIL keeps pressuring DH to go in hot tub
Anonymous wrote:She probably just wants to make sure she’s getting her money’s worth.


+1

And just keep saying no thanks.