Anonymous wrote:I recently had someone say that to me for the first time and I really like it. I felt appreciated!

Same here

But the person and context felt very genuine.

The first time I heard it was from a coworker about 5 years ago. She is foreign born and her only time in the US before working with me was spent in grad school in Alabama. I had never heard it before.

My boss started using it five years ago. This was in a Deep South state. FWIW, they were white UMC.

Anonymous wrote:In DC this has been a thing black people say to each other for a long time. I think it sounds less genuine coming from white people, and I'm not sure why that is.

I'm white, lived in DC for 30 years. This is something I've always said. I thought it was a DC thing.

I've done tech support for businesses for years. I didn't really notice this phrase until the past year or so--my calls are with people all over the US and to some extent abroad. I think it may be more black people (who also tell me to have a blessed day, although white folks primarily from the deep south do as well).

Off topic, but the interesting thing about this is that especially for some regions (very rural and/or very south and white in both cases) I talk to people who are very warm and sociable while we are working on IT stuff, but I often wonder what it would be like if we were on the same online message board about politics. Very, very rarely in my work does anybody slip in any comment (and it can be liberal or conservative) so I pretty much don't know what their thoughts are about that.

Anonymous wrote:Hate it- not just in DC, though.

Haters always gonna hate 🤮

Hate it- not just in DC, though.

The first time I ever heard this was on Ted Lasso. Native Marylander.

Anonymous wrote:I’ve only heard this phrase from black people in the DC area. When I held the door for a guy and he said, “I appreciate you,” I liked the phrase and thought the saying was nice.
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Yep, I first heard this when I worked in DC Public Library in a predominantly Black neighborhood. I like it better than thank you, but I’ve never used it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like it. Ted Lasso says it .

I often say: "Thank you. I appreciate you." In a world where we've become more disconnected from each other I'm a fan of showing more appreciation and kindness.

thank you means you appreciate what the other person did, Redundant and silly to add I Appreciate you,

Well call me the a hole then

Let yourself be happy. Hating nice things isn't healthy.

I’ve only heard this phrase from black people in the DC area. When I held the door for a guy and he said, “I appreciate you,” I liked the phrase and thought the saying was nice.
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I say it when I mean it.

Definitely heard it a lot from Black friends and neighbors. It does have cultural roots, and I think it's lovely. If you don't think it sounds natural to you, don't say it, I guess? Not sure why you'd want to police others for saying it though.

Anonymous wrote:In DC this has been a thing black people say to each other for a long time. I think it sounds less genuine coming from white people, and I'm not sure why that is.

w.t.f.

Anonymous wrote:It sounds so phony to me! Many of my colleagues in the Midwest say this and also Write It in an email! My coastal colleagues do not do this. What happened to saying Thanks or Thank You the good old fashioned way.

I'm from NYC and moved to Nashville in 2011. I first heard it then. I like it.

So you're saying that coastal people speak correctly and people in other regions don't. Cool.