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Anonymous wrote:I have to admit that we are at $5M and related to the dark humor from this scene in Succession.

We know we're in good shape, especially in our 30s, but we don't feel like $5M is enough to retire on and are still ambitious to achieve more in our careers and financially.

Part of this is because we are in a VHCOL where we hope to stay, and our current net worth and salary barely gets us an old condo that needs a lot of updates. We're also in a high achieving peer group from college and work, and we feel just average among (successful!) peers. Rich people problems, I know.

This isn't part of it. It's all of it.

5-10 million is objectively enough tho set yourself up for life, set your kids up, never have to worry about money again. If my DH and I had 5 million, he'd quit his job (which he hates) and get a job working less than full time doing something he enjoys (he knows what it would be, it's a low paying but rewarding career). I would continue in my job, which I like. We'd invest thoughtfully to ensure income. We'd upgrade our home, but not to a mansion -- we'd buy one of the 1-1.2m homes in our desired neighborhood that we cannot quite afford now, or potentially buy something cheaper and renovate. We only have one kid and have no desire for a huge house.

We'd make some small lifestyle upgrades (regular house cleaners, slightly nicer vacations, buy some items we now deem too pricy for us like an electric vehicle) but would not vastly overhaul our lifestyle. We'd still cook at home a lot, because we like to (though it would be thrilling not to worry about budgeting for groceries and to have a nicer kitchen to cook in). We would not change our friends, who now vary from MC to UMC and where incomes probably top out around 500k (and most well below that).

Kid might go to private school -- we could afford it on that income but we are aware it could change our peer set and our kid's peer set, so we'd really think hard about it. I could see us sending her to a private that is more UMC crunchy liberal families than super rich. But I could also see us just staying in public, especially if we could afford to ensure we were in bound for high quality public schools.

If 5-10m is "a nightmare" to you, that's entirely because of your peer group, personal ambition, and values. It's objectively "enough" money for most things that matter to most people. But if you belong to the subset of people for whom "owning a private jet" matters, then I'm not really sure any amount of money will ever make you happy. Good luck.

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit that we are at $5M and related to the dark humor from this scene in Succession.

We know we're in good shape, especially in our 30s, but we don't feel like $5M is enough to retire on and are still ambitious to achieve more in our careers and financially.

Part of this is because we are in a VHCOL where we hope to stay, and our current net worth and salary barely gets us an old condo that needs a lot of updates. We're also in a high achieving peer group from college and work, and we feel just average among (successful!) peers. Rich people problems, I know.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit that we are at $5M and related to the dark humor from this scene in Succession.

We know we're in good shape, especially in our 30s, but we don't feel like $5M is enough to retire on and are still ambitious to achieve more in our careers and financially.

Part of this is because we are in a VHCOL where we hope to stay, and our current net worth and salary barely gets us an old condo that needs a lot of updates. We're also in a high achieving peer group from college and work, and we feel just average among (successful!) peers. Rich people problems, I know.

This isn't part of it. It's all of it.

5-10 million is objectively enough tho set yourself up for life, set your kids up, never have to worry about money again. If my DH and I had 5 million, he'd quit his job (which he hates) and get a job working less than full time doing something he enjoys (he knows what it would be, it's a low paying but rewarding career). I would continue in my job, which I like. We'd invest thoughtfully to ensure income. We'd upgrade our home, but not to a mansion -- we'd buy one of the 1-1.2m homes in our desired neighborhood that we cannot quite afford now, or potentially buy something cheaper and renovate. We only have one kid and have no desire for a huge house.

We'd make some small lifestyle upgrades (regular house cleaners, slightly nicer vacations, buy some items we now deem too pricy for us like an electric vehicle) but would not vastly overhaul our lifestyle. We'd still cook at home a lot, because we like to (though it would be thrilling not to worry about budgeting for groceries and to have a nicer kitchen to cook in). We would not change our friends, who now vary from MC to UMC and where incomes probably top out around 500k (and most well below that).

Kid might go to private school -- we could afford it on that income but we are aware it could change our peer set and our kid's peer set, so we'd really think hard about it. I could see us sending her to a private that is more UMC crunchy liberal families than super rich. But I could also see us just staying in public, especially if we could afford to ensure we were in bound for high quality public schools.

If 5-10m is "a nightmare" to you, that's entirely because of your peer group, personal ambition, and values. It's objectively "enough" money for most things that matter to most people. But if you belong to the subset of people for whom "owning a private jet" matters, then I'm not really sure any amount of money will ever make you happy. Good luck.

Not sure how old you guys are and how much money you make individually to be able to make this assessment. We are mid-50s, one of us doesn't work, net worth about $6.5 (excluding primary residence), HHI about $250K, one kid in expensive college ($80K/yr) and another in public HS, likely headed to a $50/yr. college. Our house (about 50 years old; could sell for about $900; mortgage balance of $300) could use some work to make it 'nicer', probably about a $100K.. Our cars are 20 and 12 years old and the 20 y.o needs to be replaced with an SUV, another $40-50K (don't care for electric).. We just are not able to bring ourselves to spend on these things.

Seriously.. I would like to borrow your 'thinking' and be able to spend to upgrade our life but just can't seem to bring ourself to do it!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit that we are at $5M and related to the dark humor from this scene in Succession.

We know we're in good shape, especially in our 30s, but we don't feel like $5M is enough to retire on and are still ambitious to achieve more in our careers and financially.

Part of this is because we are in a VHCOL where we hope to stay, and our current net worth and salary barely gets us an old condo that needs a lot of updates. We're also in a high achieving peer group from college and work, and we feel just average among (successful!) peers. Rich people problems, I know.

This isn't part of it. It's all of it.

5-10 million is objectively enough tho set yourself up for life, set your kids up, never have to worry about money again. If my DH and I had 5 million, he'd quit his job (which he hates) and get a job working less than full time doing something he enjoys (he knows what it would be, it's a low paying but rewarding career). I would continue in my job, which I like. We'd invest thoughtfully to ensure income. We'd upgrade our home, but not to a mansion -- we'd buy one of the 1-1.2m homes in our desired neighborhood that we cannot quite afford now, or potentially buy something cheaper and renovate. We only have one kid and have no desire for a huge house.

We'd make some small lifestyle upgrades (regular house cleaners, slightly nicer vacations, buy some items we now deem too pricy for us like an electric vehicle) but would not vastly overhaul our lifestyle. We'd still cook at home a lot, because we like to (though it would be thrilling not to worry about budgeting for groceries and to have a nicer kitchen to cook in). We would not change our friends, who now vary from MC to UMC and where incomes probably top out around 500k (and most well below that).

Kid might go to private school -- we could afford it on that income but we are aware it could change our peer set and our kid's peer set, so we'd really think hard about it. I could see us sending her to a private that is more UMC crunchy liberal families than super rich. But I could also see us just staying in public, especially if we could afford to ensure we were in bound for high quality public schools.

If 5-10m is "a nightmare" to you, that's entirely because of your peer group, personal ambition, and values. It's objectively "enough" money for most things that matter to most people. But if you belong to the subset of people for whom "owning a private jet" matters, then I'm not really sure any amount of money will ever make you happy. Good luck.

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Anonymous wrote:This is firmly in the category of rich people problems. Many strivers in the DMV are jockeying everyday to stand out in the talent pool. Many have or will reach what I would call entry level wealthy at $5-10M in NW. Are you happy at entry level or anxious and trying your hardest to get more established at the threshold of $30M in the UHNW ranks?

One of my favorite scenes in "Succession" has the following conversation:

Greg: I'm good, anyway, cuz, uh, my, so, I was just talkin' to my mom, and she said, apparently, he'll leave me five million anyway, so I'm golden, baby.
Connor: You can't do anything with five, Greg. Five's a nightmare.
Greg: Is it?
Connor: Oh, yeah. Can't retire. Not worth it to work. Oh, yes, five will drive you un poco loco, my fine feathered friend.
Tom: The poorest rich person in America. The world's tallest dwarf.
Connor: The weakest strong man at the circus.

Does this scenario include home equity? Or exclude it?

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit that we are at $5M and related to the dark humor from this scene in Succession.

We know we're in good shape, especially in our 30s, but we don't feel like $5M is enough to retire on and are still ambitious to achieve more in our careers and financially.

Part of this is because we are in a VHCOL where we hope to stay, and our current net worth and salary barely gets us an old condo that needs a lot of updates. We're also in a high achieving peer group from college and work, and we feel just average among (successful!) peers. Rich people problems, I know.

Anonymous wrote:This is firmly in the category of rich people problems. Many strivers in the DMV are jockeying everyday to stand out in the talent pool. Many have or will reach what I would call entry level wealthy at $5-10M in NW. Are you happy at entry level or anxious and trying your hardest to get more established at the threshold of $30M in the UHNW ranks?

One of my favorite scenes in "Succession" has the following conversation:

Greg: I'm good, anyway, cuz, uh, my, so, I was just talkin' to my mom, and she said, apparently, he'll leave me five million anyway, so I'm golden, baby.
Connor: You can't do anything with five, Greg. Five's a nightmare.
Greg: Is it?
Connor: Oh, yeah. Can't retire. Not worth it to work. Oh, yes, five will drive you un poco loco, my fine feathered friend.
Tom: The poorest rich person in America. The world's tallest dwarf.
Connor: The weakest strong man at the circus.

Anonymous wrote:It all depends. DH and I are dual lifetime gs-15 feds and will retire around 60 with an annual pension of about 150,000 per year plus whatever social Security adds to that. We have a net worth of around 4.5 million now (7 million including equity in two houses) and we will inherit 5 million from one set of parents, putting us pretty squarely in this zone. We aren’t big spenders and my kids all understand that they don’t stand to inherit the way I will, but DH and I feel like we are in pretty good shape. The pension helps because we have no mortgage and our annual expenses outside of kids’ education and enrichment is less than $100,000 a year in primarily travel, entertainment, and home costs. But no, I don’t feel too badly for myself and I certainly wouldn’t want to have less money.