Unless you have independent wealth, as a trophy wife you would be entirely dependent on your DH for the economic security of both yourself and your children.

For some people this arrangement works out and for others it doesn’t. How would you feel if you were a trophy wife with a few kids and DH decides to leave you for a younger hotter trophy wife? Fortunately, today, you have the ability to work in nearly any job, get credit in your name, etc. We easily forget that these things are a relative anomaly in human history.

A working woman almost always works harder than a working man if they have kids. He is never making the beds or cooking and doing dishes and buying groceries. If they outsource all tasks, the woman still has what I call the "executive stress" of hiring and managing staff. She also usually runs all hobbies and family socializing. In the rare cases in which the man does more, he does not plan to do so for decades, and is usually just biding his time until he can divorce her. A WAM (Wife and Mother" is defined as a SOF (Servant of the Family) in the eyes of most men and other women unless she was born extremely wealthy. Whatever paid labor a WAM does outside the home is on top of her fixed family labor. The European scientist who was pivotal in creating the COVID vaccine...literally saving the world...still did the lion's share of the home management and child-related admin.

Anonymous wrote:The workplace needs to adapt to the modern age. It’s not feminism’s fault.

This. You misspelled “capitalism” in your thread title. In the places in the world where the governments job is the people who live in their country, you would not have this problem.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you need a different area. This arra is very expensive

On average in America, wages have increased by 80% since the 1970s and the Consumer Price Index has increased by over 500% since the 1970s. Is there a place in America where wages have increased at the same rate the CPI has?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Needing two incomes for the same lifestyle that one income could provide decades ago is a scam.

Get rid of one of your cars
No iPhones
No out of state college
Driving vacations - nothing international
Mostly eat at home
No cable
Much smaller home
No cleaners or yard people
I could go on…

I have 0 cars
I’m not going to be able to save for state college never mind out of state but my parents didn’t either
I have never taken my kids on a vacation that’s not visiting family (by driving)
We eat mostly at home
We don’t have cable
Two kids in a one-bedroom apartment
No cleaners (also no yard people although also no yard)

Somehow I don’t think my problem is the three 2-8 year old iPhones I pay for.

You have two incomes just to live like this in a one bedroom?? You might as well quit, it won’t be a hit to your lifestyle at all.

Anonymous wrote:The workplace needs to adapt to the modern age. It’s not feminism’s fault.

Agree. Many countries have more part time work

Maybe you need a different area. This arra is very expensive

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Needing two incomes for the same lifestyle that one income could provide decades ago is a scam.

Get rid of one of your cars
No iPhones
No out of state college
Driving vacations - nothing international
Mostly eat at home
No cable
Much smaller home
No cleaners or yard people
I could go on…

I have 0 cars
I’m not going to be able to save for state college never mind out of state but my parents didn’t either
I have never taken my kids on a vacation that’s not visiting family (by driving)
We eat mostly at home
We don’t have cable
Two kids in a one-bedroom apartment
No cleaners (also no yard people although also no yard)

Somehow I don’t think my problem is the three 2-8 year old iPhones I pay for.

A trophy at 25 is not such a hot catch at 50

Anonymous wrote:Do you have trophy wife looks?

It has to start there.

Exactly. Feminism exists because most women can't be trophy wives.

Anonymous wrote:I hate working. I’m exhausted all the time and I don’t even have time to work out or even cry.

This is such a scam!!

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+1

Only a woman would complain that they have no time for self care.
Welcome to the NFL, Pepcid, energy drinks and binge drinking will get you through until your heart blows out an atrium.

Anonymous wrote:Needing two incomes for the same lifestyle that one income could provide decades ago is a scam.

Get rid of one of your cars
No iPhones
No out of state college
Driving vacations - nothing international
Mostly eat at home
No cable
Much smaller home
No cleaners or yard people
I could go on…

Needing two incomes for the same lifestyle that one income could provide decades ago is a scam.

Anonymous wrote:Drop the job and have kids and be irresponsible for a few years

What could go wrong?