Anonymous
06/11/2023 23:40
Subject: Re:Dating for 50+ men
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You can have a blast dating at 50. I started dating when I was 53 and dated women within ten years (plus or minus) of my age.
If you want to date for a relationship, it works best if you match with women with a similar background (if you have kids in high school and college, stick with women who have kids the same age.)
If you are just in it for an FWB (or for NSA sex), it is even better. Many divorced women are DTF and are not looking for a relationship with you or anyone else.
One bit of advice about this, I made a significant mistake in my first FWB relationship. I thought she (my FWB) wanted to hold hands, cuddle, etc. before and after sex so I would do so with her. I came to find out she only did it because she thought I needed it. She was okay with meeting up just for sex and did not need anyone to hold her hand.
She was busy as a single mom working a demanding professional job. She also did not need expensive dinners or trips. Instead, she wanted a clean, attentive, and adventurous lover.
I had to cut my FWB loose b/c he wanted to get dinner, go to the movies, spend the weekend together. That’s all well and good but I wasn’t looking for a relationship. Sad to see him go but we wanted different things.
Why on earth would you want a 50+ yo man for a FWB situation? I’d see men in their late twenties to thirties personally.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 23:12
Subject: Dating for 50+ men
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:*and most of his assets are in a trust for his kids.
The real reason old men aren’t worth it.
Such an attractive mindset
No one wants to spend the last 15 of their remaining good years taking care of someone who will not take care of them, either personally or financially. If you’re not going to be there in person AND you’re not going to leave money for that eventual purpose, you are simply mining a younger woman for resources you will never repay. It’s different if you’re married and the remaining spouse has the remaining joint assets to provide for them.
Kind of ironic, coming from a gold digger.
Au contraire. I have millions. That is because I am not stupid.
Yes, I too am a smart, happy, multimillionaire hanging out in the Relationship Forum.
Bon jour.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 23:04
Subject: Dating for 50+ men
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:*and most of his assets are in a trust for his kids.
The real reason old men aren’t worth it.
Such an attractive mindset
No one wants to spend the last 15 of their remaining good years taking care of someone who will not take care of them, either personally or financially. If you’re not going to be there in person AND you’re not going to leave money for that eventual purpose, you are simply mining a younger woman for resources you will never repay. It’s different if you’re married and the remaining spouse has the remaining joint assets to provide for them.
Kind of ironic, coming from a gold digger.
It’s not golddigging to refuse to provide caretaking to someone who won’t return the act in any form.
Who refused “any form”?
DP— what form do you propose if time travel is out of the question? He’s not caring for her in her old age (men statistically don’t even care for their spouses when they fall seriously ill), so if he is not contributing resources to do so, what are you suggesting he brings to the table?
:lol:
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/11/091110105401.htm#:~:text=Why%20men%20leave%20a%20sick,family%2C%20the%20study%20authors%20said.
Doesn't appear to be peer-reviewed.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 20:41
Subject: Dating for 50+ men
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:[list]Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:*and most of his assets are in a trust for his kids.
The real reason old men aren’t worth it.
Such an attractive mindset
No one wants to spend the last 15 of their remaining good years taking care of someone who will not take care of them, either personally or financially. If you’re not going to be there in person AND you’re not going to leave money for that eventual purpose, you are simply mining a younger woman for resources you will never repay. It’s different if you’re married and the remaining spouse has the remaining joint assets to provide for them.
Kind of ironic, coming from a gold digger.
It’s not golddigging to refuse to provide caretaking to someone who won’t return the act in any form.
Who refused “any form”?
DP— what form do you propose if time travel is out of the question? He’s not caring for her in her old age (men statistically don’t even care for their spouses when they fall seriously ill), so if he is not contributing resources to do so, what are you suggesting he brings to the table?
How the hell do you get from “leaving stuff to his kids” to “not caring for her in her old age”?
Because he will, in all probability, be dead. If he’s not making financial provision for her old age, what kind of provision is he making?
Good lord, line up financial stuff before you make a lifetime commitment.
Exactly. But do that and the insecure men here will call you a gold digger.
No woman should seriously date an older man— and especially one with children— without a solid agreement in place. But by being responsible she gets labeled a gold digger, and by being irresponsible he gets a free nurse.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 20:19
Subject: Dating for 50+ men
I am in my 50s. I have dated for a few years and had relationships with women older (roughly 60) all the way down to 20 years younger (34). Most women more than 20 years younger have no interest in me but some do. Most women my own age also have no interest in me but some do. The women in their 30s have tended to be idiosyncratic in some way and they really like my older and wiser demeanor. The two most serious relationships like that both involved women who were very mature (didn't like young men) and also estranged from their parents.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 19:29
Subject: Re:Dating for 50+ men
Anonymous wrote:You can have a blast dating at 50. I started dating when I was 53 and dated women within ten years (plus or minus) of my age.
If you want to date for a relationship, it works best if you match with women with a similar background (if you have kids in high school and college, stick with women who have kids the same age.)
If you are just in it for an FWB (or for NSA sex), it is even better. Many divorced women are DTF and are not looking for a relationship with you or anyone else.
One bit of advice about this, I made a significant mistake in my first FWB relationship. I thought she (my FWB) wanted to hold hands, cuddle, etc. before and after sex so I would do so with her. I came to find out she only did it because she thought I needed it. She was okay with meeting up just for sex and did not need anyone to hold her hand.
She was busy as a single mom working a demanding professional job. She also did not need expensive dinners or trips. Instead, she wanted a clean, attentive, and adventurous lover.
I had to cut my FWB loose b/c he wanted to get dinner, go to the movies, spend the weekend together. That’s all well and good but I wasn’t looking for a relationship. Sad to see him go but we wanted different things.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 19:18
Subject: Dating for 50+ men
Hahahaha, OP you must be VERY new to woman-dominated DCUM if you expected "is it easy for older men to date younger women?" to get a positive response. DCUM women hate hate hate that idea.
The real answer is: who are you? Are you the kind of older man who can easily date younger women? If the answer to that is yes, you probably wouldn't even be asking it.
The real answer is: who are you? Are you the kind of older man who can easily date younger women? If the answer to that is yes, you probably wouldn't even be asking it.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 19:10
Subject: Dating for 50+ men
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:*and most of his assets are in a trust for his kids.
The real reason old men aren’t worth it.
Such an attractive mindset
No one wants to spend the last 15 of their remaining good years taking care of someone who will not take care of them, either personally or financially. If you’re not going to be there in person AND you’re not going to leave money for that eventual purpose, you are simply mining a younger woman for resources you will never repay. It’s different if you’re married and the remaining spouse has the remaining joint assets to provide for them.
Kind of ironic, coming from a gold digger.
Au contraire. I have millions. That is because I am not stupid.
Why do people with so much money waste time on the DCUM board? I'd be on the beach today, instead.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 17:20
Subject: Dating for 50+ men
Anonymous wrote:[list]Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:*and most of his assets are in a trust for his kids.
The real reason old men aren’t worth it.
Such an attractive mindset
No one wants to spend the last 15 of their remaining good years taking care of someone who will not take care of them, either personally or financially. If you’re not going to be there in person AND you’re not going to leave money for that eventual purpose, you are simply mining a younger woman for resources you will never repay. It’s different if you’re married and the remaining spouse has the remaining joint assets to provide for them.
Kind of ironic, coming from a gold digger.
It’s not golddigging to refuse to provide caretaking to someone who won’t return the act in any form.
Who refused “any form”?
DP— what form do you propose if time travel is out of the question? He’s not caring for her in her old age (men statistically don’t even care for their spouses when they fall seriously ill), so if he is not contributing resources to do so, what are you suggesting he brings to the table?
How the hell do you get from “leaving stuff to his kids” to “not caring for her in her old age”?
Because he will, in all probability, be dead. If he’s not making financial provision for her old age, what kind of provision is he making?
Good lord, line up financial stuff before you make a lifetime commitment.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 16:47
Subject: Dating for 50+ men
Anonymous wrote:[list]Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:*and most of his assets are in a trust for his kids.
The real reason old men aren’t worth it.
Such an attractive mindset
No one wants to spend the last 15 of their remaining good years taking care of someone who will not take care of them, either personally or financially. If you’re not going to be there in person AND you’re not going to leave money for that eventual purpose, you are simply mining a younger woman for resources you will never repay. It’s different if you’re married and the remaining spouse has the remaining joint assets to provide for them.
Kind of ironic, coming from a gold digger.
It’s not golddigging to refuse to provide caretaking to someone who won’t return the act in any form.
Who refused “any form”?
DP— what form do you propose if time travel is out of the question? He’s not caring for her in her old age (men statistically don’t even care for their spouses when they fall seriously ill), so if he is not contributing resources to do so, what are you suggesting he brings to the table?
How the hell do you get from “leaving stuff to his kids” to “not caring for her in her old age”?
Because he will, in all probability, be dead. If he’s not making financial provision for her old age, what kind of provision is he making?
Key point being what kind of provision is he making, after having benefited from her providing care for him in his old age. If the answer is nothing, it’s pretty clear who is benefiting more from that arrangement.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 15:07
Subject: Dating for 50+ men
[list]
Because he will, in all probability, be dead. If he’s not making financial provision for her old age, what kind of provision is he making?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:*and most of his assets are in a trust for his kids.
The real reason old men aren’t worth it.
Such an attractive mindset
No one wants to spend the last 15 of their remaining good years taking care of someone who will not take care of them, either personally or financially. If you’re not going to be there in person AND you’re not going to leave money for that eventual purpose, you are simply mining a younger woman for resources you will never repay. It’s different if you’re married and the remaining spouse has the remaining joint assets to provide for them.
Kind of ironic, coming from a gold digger.
It’s not golddigging to refuse to provide caretaking to someone who won’t return the act in any form.
Who refused “any form”?
DP— what form do you propose if time travel is out of the question? He’s not caring for her in her old age (men statistically don’t even care for their spouses when they fall seriously ill), so if he is not contributing resources to do so, what are you suggesting he brings to the table?
How the hell do you get from “leaving stuff to his kids” to “not caring for her in her old age”?
Because he will, in all probability, be dead. If he’s not making financial provision for her old age, what kind of provision is he making?
Anonymous
06/11/2023 15:06
Subject: Dating for 50+ men
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:*and most of his assets are in a trust for his kids.
The real reason old men aren’t worth it.
Such an attractive mindset
No one wants to spend the last 15 of their remaining good years taking care of someone who will not take care of them, either personally or financially. If you’re not going to be there in person AND you’re not going to leave money for that eventual purpose, you are simply mining a younger woman for resources you will never repay. It’s different if you’re married and the remaining spouse has the remaining joint assets to provide for them.
Kind of ironic, coming from a gold digger.
It’s not golddigging to refuse to provide caretaking to someone who won’t return the act in any form.
Who refused “any form”?
DP— what form do you propose if time travel is out of the question? He’s not caring for her in her old age (men statistically don’t even care for their spouses when they fall seriously ill), so if he is not contributing resources to do so, what are you suggesting he brings to the table?
:lol:
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/11/091110105401.htm#:~:text=Why%20men%20leave%20a%20sick,family%2C%20the%20study%20authors%20said.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 15:05
Subject: Dating for 50+ men
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:*and most of his assets are in a trust for his kids.
The real reason old men aren’t worth it.
Such an attractive mindset
No one wants to spend the last 15 of their remaining good years taking care of someone who will not take care of them, either personally or financially. If you’re not going to be there in person AND you’re not going to leave money for that eventual purpose, you are simply mining a younger woman for resources you will never repay. It’s different if you’re married and the remaining spouse has the remaining joint assets to provide for them.
Kind of ironic, coming from a gold digger.
It’s not golddigging to refuse to provide caretaking to someone who won’t return the act in any form.
Who refused “any form”?
DP— what form do you propose if time travel is out of the question? He’s not caring for her in her old age (men statistically don’t even care for their spouses when they fall seriously ill), so if he is not contributing resources to do so, what are you suggesting he brings to the table?
How the hell do you get from “leaving stuff to his kids” to “not caring for her in her old age”?
Anonymous
06/11/2023 15:03
Subject: Dating for 50+ men
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:*and most of his assets are in a trust for his kids.
The real reason old men aren’t worth it.
Such an attractive mindset
No one wants to spend the last 15 of their remaining good years taking care of someone who will not take care of them, either personally or financially. If you’re not going to be there in person AND you’re not going to leave money for that eventual purpose, you are simply mining a younger woman for resources you will never repay. It’s different if you’re married and the remaining spouse has the remaining joint assets to provide for them.
Kind of ironic, coming from a gold digger.
It’s not golddigging to refuse to provide caretaking to someone who won’t return the act in any form.
Who refused “any form”?
DP— what form do you propose if time travel is out of the question? He’s not caring for her in her old age (men statistically don’t even care for their spouses when they fall seriously ill), so if he is not contributing resources to do so, what are you suggesting he brings to the table?
:lol:
Anonymous
06/11/2023 15:00
Subject: Dating for 50+ men
*age