Anonymous
06/11/2023 09:35
Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:A friend is mad at me and want to see if this is common or if I’m a weirdo. We are middle class and have a one vacation per year. We have spent a lot of time and money planning it and are really looking forward to it next month! In turn, I limit activities the week prior (no parties, no indoor play places, play dates etc) to try and prevent kids getting sick and ruining the trip.
Well a good friend is having a bday party for her child the weekend before we leave. She doesn’t work but her child is in full time daycare as are the class friends that’ll be in attendance (we talk often and know he’s literally always sick with something or another). I told her point blank we can’t come because we don’t want to risk the kids getting sick. Now she isn’t speaking to me.
I feel bad but am I the only one that does this?? I feel it’s smart but also understand full time working with kids in daycare people go on vacations all the time without a hitch.
This was an odd detail to include.
I would just have made up a conflict. I think your explanation implies this group is very germy compared to your kid.
I think you’re being a little obtuse here. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with daycare. But there’s no denying that daycares are breeding grounds for germs. We all write here complaining about it year round.
Sure, but that's different than telling someone you're skipping their party because their kid and his friends are germy. OP gave an excuse that pretty easily reads as insulting.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 09:34
Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
Anonymous wrote:It is not weird. If that’s what you wanna do, it is smart and fine. There are a lot of Covid minimizers on this board so don’t listen to them. It’s really rude of her to act like she is entitled to demand your appearance at her party. If it was that important to her, she could’ve checked with you before setting the date. Invitations can be declined.
I mean, maybe the friend is less mad about OP not coming and more about OP's implication that her kid and his daycare friends are Typhoid Marys. And OP said they have had COVID three times, so she's clearly not worried about that.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 09:33
Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
We did that last year but not this year. We are being careful in the week before sleepaway camp though - not avoiding everything, but not flying or anything that is generally germy.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 09:33
Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:A friend is mad at me and want to see if this is common or if I’m a weirdo. We are middle class and have a one vacation per year. We have spent a lot of time and money planning it and are really looking forward to it next month! In turn, I limit activities the week prior (no parties, no indoor play places, play dates etc) to try and prevent kids getting sick and ruining the trip.
Well a good friend is having a bday party for her child the weekend before we leave. She doesn’t work but her child is in full time daycare as are the class friends that’ll be in attendance (we talk often and know he’s literally always sick with something or another). I told her point blank we can’t come because we don’t want to risk the kids getting sick. Now she isn’t speaking to me.
I feel bad but am I the only one that does this?? I feel it’s smart but also understand full time working with kids in daycare people go on vacations all the time without a hitch.
This was an odd detail to include.
I would just have made up a conflict. I think your explanation implies this group is very germy compared to your kid.
I think you’re being a little obtuse here. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with daycare. But there’s no denying that daycares are breeding grounds for germs. We all write here complaining about it year round.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 09:33
Subject: Re:Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
My kid’s sleepaway camp strongly suggests that families isolate and avoid large gatherings the week before coming to camp. No one wants to get sick before something you’ve been looking forward to all year and spent a ton of money on.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 09:31
Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
I’ll be honest yes I do limit. Over the school year we really only do weekend trips so that’s not an issue. But for our summer vacation I always plan well in advance and I don’t want anyone sick. So my kids don’t do a camp the week before and we stick with outdoor activities like the pool, playgrounds, etc. We don’t avoid regular stuff like shopping or a trip to the library to grab some new books and we don’t wear masks either. But we do avoid the big indoor play places, and the trampoline park. I would probably beg out of the birthday party too especially if the kids are all day care age. If it’s a big trip like a cruise, Disney World, something requiring a longer plane trip and lots of moving around like a national park out west or a trip to Europe … you don’t want a kid with a fever, cold, and an ear infection.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 09:31
Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
Weird unless it’s a trip visit a very vulnerable person. Just have kids wear a mask if you are really worried. If your trip involves flying, then isolating makes no sense.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 09:30
Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
Anonymous wrote:A friend is mad at me and want to see if this is common or if I’m a weirdo. We are middle class and have a one vacation per year. We have spent a lot of time and money planning it and are really looking forward to it next month! In turn, I limit activities the week prior (no parties, no indoor play places, play dates etc) to try and prevent kids getting sick and ruining the trip.
Well a good friend is having a bday party for her child the weekend before we leave. She doesn’t work but her child is in full time daycare as are the class friends that’ll be in attendance (we talk often and know he’s literally always sick with something or another). I told her point blank we can’t come because we don’t want to risk the kids getting sick. Now she isn’t speaking to me.
I feel bad but am I the only one that does this?? I feel it’s smart but also understand full time working with kids in daycare people go on vacations all the time without a hitch.
This was an odd detail to include.
I would just have made up a conflict. I think your explanation implies this group is very germy compared to your kid.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 09:29
Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
FWIW, I kept my kids home the week before a big wedding last summer and we avoided going into busy places. My 3yo and I still ended up with a nasty respiratory bug DURING the wedding weekend (not COVID). No clue where we got it, but if you’re still letting your kids play with other kids and go to the pool, you’re kidding yourself that your minimizing exposure.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 09:29
Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
It is not weird. If that’s what you wanna do, it is smart and fine. There are a lot of Covid minimizers on this board so don’t listen to them. It’s really rude of her to act like she is entitled to demand your appearance at her party. If it was that important to her, she could’ve checked with you before setting the date. Invitations can be declined.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 09:28
Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
Hell no. We live life as usual. If we are doing something optional like a playdate and a friend warns me their child has recently had norovirus or something, I might reschedule, though.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 09:28
Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You are the weird one but she is also being petty for not speaking to you. I would have ended the friendship a while ago with someone living like it’s 2020 in 2023.
Your kids sound little and you must not work. The rest of the world moved on a long time ago. We don’t even wear masks now.
OP. I’m not worried about Covid! We haven’t worn masks since they were no longer mandatory (maybe why we’ve had it three times now lol). More like stomach bugs, ear infections, etc. I’d like to avoid if possible.
Anyway, I guess I am more neurotic than most of you, which is fine. I asked for honesty after all!
Ear infections are not contagious, fyi.
Correct, but some kids are susceptible to them during/after rough colds.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 09:28
Subject: Re:Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
I don’t think it’s weird at all. A few days of precautions to help ensure that no one’s sick on vacation? Make sense to me.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 09:27
Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You are the weird one but she is also being petty for not speaking to you. I would have ended the friendship a while ago with someone living like it’s 2020 in 2023.
Your kids sound little and you must not work. The rest of the world moved on a long time ago. We don’t even wear masks now.
OP. I’m not worried about Covid! We haven’t worn masks since they were no longer mandatory (maybe why we’ve had it three times now lol). More like stomach bugs, ear infections, etc. I’d like to avoid if possible.
Anyway, I guess I am more neurotic than most of you, which is fine. I asked for honesty after all!
Ear infections are not contagious, fyi.
Anonymous
06/11/2023 09:26
Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
Anonymous wrote:OP. Fair enough. I’ll take the weirdo title. But to be clear they aren’t kept indoors - they still play outside and in the pool all day etc but we just avoid germy places like parties and indoor play places.
You are weird BUT if it works for your family then keep doing it. If they were to get sick from a party you might then feel resentful.