I would take what many of these posters have said with a huge grain of salt as it doesn't sound like many are teachers. My students are well behaved in the classroom and even thank me as they leave to go to their next classes. Can they be mean to each other? Absolutely. But, generally, most of them are courteous and respectful to faculty and staff.

Multiple kids at multiple schools: depends on the school

I have taught in both public and private schools and sent my children to both public and private schools. The biggest difference is the private school classes are smaller so it’s easier to keep the kids engaged and teach a nice class. The respect level of kids appears roughly identical. The only major difference I saw was in a poorer public school I long-term subbed in. Those children had atrocious behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:They are better behaved because they can be kicked out. Whether that is the same as more respectful is a different question.

But the classroom experience is better, OP, if that’s your actual question.

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They also have parents who are not completely checked out.

Have you really never seen completely checked out rich parents? I went to fancy schools growing up and had several friends whose parents sent them to expensive schools but otherwise didn't give a shit about them and hardly interacted with them, the schools, other parents, etc. The kids were fending for themselves, they just weren't poor.

So kids are both neglected and entitled? Seems like this would help the kids develop "grit" talked about so often here.

Yes, both. But developing grit? No, few kids going to expensive privates have any opportunities for that.

Yet somehow private school teachers report higher job satisfaction than public school teachers. But I'm sure you know best with your vast experience that one time you were in fancy schools.

You are assuming the immediate PP is the one who went to a fancy school but you are mistaken. I do agree with them that rich kids can be both neglected and entitled. Not a comment on teacher satisfaction. I have a good deal of experience observing kids in fancy schools over a number of years. You?

I don’t need to observe rich kids to know them and their secret ways, lol. But you clearly do. Tell us more about your observations. Im sure it will be fascinating. But also completely off topic.

Sure, it’s off-topic. It’s DCUM. Threads wander off-topic, or hadn’t you noticed? Someone said kids are more respectful because their parents are more engaged and someone else said some parents are not engaged at all and someone else questioned that, asking how kids can be spoiled and neglected at the same time. I offered my experience. See how that works?

But still the kids are mere respectful despite whatever deep insights I’m sure your limited experience could provide. Sorry that hurts.

I would imagine it would highly depend on the private school and whether they crack down on kids when they are disrespectful to teachers or not. If they don't do anything - they will be just as ratchet as you witnessed as a public school substitute. When I taught in the public schools in South LA, my students were notorious for doing things like throwing entire desks at teachers. My first day a child raised a chair at me. It took a few months to work through things, but my TA and I got the class to the point where they'd rather be sent to the principal than feel the shame of disappointing us . It's possible to get any kids behaving, but it takes a good teacher - a supportive administration - and parents willing to back you up.

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Anonymous wrote:They are better behaved because they can be kicked out. Whether that is the same as more respectful is a different question.

But the classroom experience is better, OP, if that’s your actual question.

+1

They also have parents who are not completely checked out.

Have you really never seen completely checked out rich parents? I went to fancy schools growing up and had several friends whose parents sent them to expensive schools but otherwise didn't give a shit about them and hardly interacted with them, the schools, other parents, etc. The kids were fending for themselves, they just weren't poor.

So kids are both neglected and entitled? Seems like this would help the kids develop "grit" talked about so often here.

Yes, both. But developing grit? No, few kids going to expensive privates have any opportunities for that.

Yet somehow private school teachers report higher job satisfaction than public school teachers. But I'm sure you know best with your vast experience that one time you were in fancy schools.

You are assuming the immediate PP is the one who went to a fancy school but you are mistaken. I do agree with them that rich kids can be both neglected and entitled. Not a comment on teacher satisfaction. I have a good deal of experience observing kids in fancy schools over a number of years. You?

I don’t need to observe rich kids to know them and their secret ways, lol. But you clearly do. Tell us more about your observations. Im sure it will be fascinating. But also completely off topic.

Sure, it’s off-topic. It’s DCUM. Threads wander off-topic, or hadn’t you noticed? Someone said kids are more respectful because their parents are more engaged and someone else said some parents are not engaged at all and someone else questioned that, asking how kids can be spoiled and neglected at the same time. I offered my experience. See how that works?

The Catholic school kids generally behave. If not, you can send them to the office. There are actual consequences.

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Anonymous wrote:They are better behaved because they can be kicked out. Whether that is the same as more respectful is a different question.

But the classroom experience is better, OP, if that’s your actual question.

+1

They also have parents who are not completely checked out.

Have you really never seen completely checked out rich parents? I went to fancy schools growing up and had several friends whose parents sent them to expensive schools but otherwise didn't give a shit about them and hardly interacted with them, the schools, other parents, etc. The kids were fending for themselves, they just weren't poor.

So kids are both neglected and entitled? Seems like this would help the kids develop "grit" talked about so often here.

Yes, both. But developing grit? No, few kids going to expensive privates have any opportunities for that.

Yet somehow private school teachers report higher job satisfaction than public school teachers. But I'm sure you know best with your vast experience that one time you were in fancy schools.

You are assuming the immediate PP is the one who went to a fancy school but you are mistaken. I do agree with them that rich kids can be both neglected and entitled. Not a comment on teacher satisfaction. I have a good deal of experience observing kids in fancy schools over a number of years. You?

I don’t need to observe rich kids to know them and their secret ways, lol. But you clearly do. Tell us more about your observations. Im sure it will be fascinating. But also completely off topic.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are better behaved because they can be kicked out. Whether that is the same as more respectful is a different question.

But the classroom experience is better, OP, if that’s your actual question.

+1

They also have parents who are not completely checked out.

Have you really never seen completely checked out rich parents? I went to fancy schools growing up and had several friends whose parents sent them to expensive schools but otherwise didn't give a shit about them and hardly interacted with them, the schools, other parents, etc. The kids were fending for themselves, they just weren't poor.

So kids are both neglected and entitled? Seems like this would help the kids develop "grit" talked about so often here.

Yes, both. But developing grit? No, few kids going to expensive privates have any opportunities for that.

Yet somehow private school teachers report higher job satisfaction than public school teachers. But I'm sure you know best with your vast experience that one time you were in fancy schools.

You are assuming the immediate PP is the one who went to a fancy school but you are mistaken. I do agree with them that rich kids can be both neglected and entitled. Not a comment on teacher satisfaction. I have a good deal of experience observing kids in fancy schools over a number of years. You?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are better behaved because they can be kicked out. Whether that is the same as more respectful is a different question.

But the classroom experience is better, OP, if that’s your actual question.

+1

They also have parents who are not completely checked out.

Have you really never seen completely checked out rich parents? I went to fancy schools growing up and had several friends whose parents sent them to expensive schools but otherwise didn't give a shit about them and hardly interacted with them, the schools, other parents, etc. The kids were fending for themselves, they just weren't poor.

So kids are both neglected and entitled? Seems like this would help the kids develop "grit" talked about so often here.

Yes, both. But developing grit? No, few kids going to expensive privates have any opportunities for that.

Yet somehow private school teachers report higher job satisfaction than public school teachers. But I'm sure you know best with your vast experience that one time you were in fancy schools.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are better behaved because they can be kicked out. Whether that is the same as more respectful is a different question.

But the classroom experience is better, OP, if that’s your actual question.

+1

They also have parents who are not completely checked out.

Have you really never seen completely checked out rich parents? I went to fancy schools growing up and had several friends whose parents sent them to expensive schools but otherwise didn't give a shit about them and hardly interacted with them, the schools, other parents, etc. The kids were fending for themselves, they just weren't poor.

So kids are both neglected and entitled? Seems like this would help the kids develop "grit" talked about so often here.

Yes, both. But developing grit? No, few kids going to expensive privates have any opportunities for that.

Anonymous wrote:It's a different type of bad. Private school kids, frankly, are mostly entitled little sh*ts.

I don't think anyone who has had experience teaching in both environments would have this as their main takeaway. Public school teachers are powerless and both the students and parents know it.

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Anonymous wrote:They are better behaved because they can be kicked out. Whether that is the same as more respectful is a different question.

But the classroom experience is better, OP, if that’s your actual question.

+1

They also have parents who are not completely checked out.

Have you really never seen completely checked out rich parents? I went to fancy schools growing up and had several friends whose parents sent them to expensive schools but otherwise didn't give a shit about them and hardly interacted with them, the schools, other parents, etc. The kids were fending for themselves, they just weren't poor.

So kids are both neglected and entitled? Seems like this would help the kids develop "grit" talked about so often here.

I was in an aide in DC public school and not one kid was disrespectful to me, the teacher, or any of the subs.
There were 800 kids in school and not once did I see anything resembling talking back to a teacher or disrespecting them. Pick your school well.

Anonymous wrote:It's a different type of bad. Private school kids, frankly, are mostly entitled little sh*ts.

Has been my experience as well. Better behaved on the whole, but spoiled and entitled. It's worse in high school.