Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Or so it seems. I leveled up and I guess the dynamic changed and she no longer wants to engage. Sad, she was a college friend.

Well, it’s very normal for women not to get along with other women long term.

This thread shows that. Hasn't been my experience but maybe I'm the unusual one.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not OP, but I have lost some friends due to “leveling up”. I graduated college/went to grad school and at the time had some friends who didnt go to/finish college who made me feel like I was the loser for getting an education.

I also had a very good friend who I am no longer friends with bc when I decided to buy a home and get more serious about life (date serious men vs just hook up with whomever, not get drunk/high all the time etc) she thought I was being uppity.

Changing your station in life can be lonely.

Thank you, I didn’t realize reaching goals and “leveling up” was such a bad thing but I think when it comes to friends they either get jealous or can’t deal with the change. I’m with you, I’ve furthered my education, bought a larger home, etc….Am I proud and have I worked hard, yes. I guess I just didn’t realize that you would lose long lasting friends the moment these changes happened. It is a direct one to one correlation. Again friends since college days.

Im the PP above, keep doing what you are doing. When I decided to “level up” my bank account was always overdrawn, I had maxed out all of my credit cards, and was hanging out with sketchy people/hooking up with sketchy men. I am now typing this from my office at work (an office!!) and am going home to an amazing husband and kids. I have $ in the bank and a great home. I only wish I had made the decision to work on myself (or “level up”) sooner. There are growing pains, but its absolutely going to be worth it in the long run.

Anonymous wrote:Not OP, but I have lost some friends due to “leveling up”. I graduated college/went to grad school and at the time had some friends who didnt go to/finish college who made me feel like I was the loser for getting an education.

I also had a very good friend who I am no longer friends with bc when I decided to buy a home and get more serious about life (date serious men vs just hook up with whomever, not get drunk/high all the time etc) she thought I was being uppity.

Changing your station in life can be lonely.

Thank you, I didn’t realize reaching goals and “leveling up” was such a bad thing but I think when it comes to friends they either get jealous or can’t deal with the change. I’m with you, I’ve furthered my education, bought a larger home, etc….Am I proud and have I worked hard, yes. I guess I just didn’t realize that you would lose long lasting friends the moment these changes happened. It is a direct one to one correlation. Again friends since college days.

Anonymous wrote:Leveled up= self-absorbed a**hole.

Not OP, but this is why DCUM is so low-vibe. All of you are toxic trainwrecks who can't stand the idea that people might outgrow you. Maybe if you were working on yourself instead of finding fake comfort in dysfunctional groupthink, you wouldn't be so ashamed of being self-absorbed a**holes. Food for thought.

Not OP, but I have lost some friends due to “leveling up”. I graduated college/went to grad school and at the time had some friends who didnt go to/finish college who made me feel like I was the loser for getting an education.

I also had a very good friend who I am no longer friends with bc when I decided to buy a home and get more serious about life (date serious men vs just hook up with whomever, not get drunk/high all the time etc) she thought I was being uppity.

Changing your station in life can be lonely.

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps because you are using terminology such as 'level up'. Such a dick term.

What if you just said it at home, to your spouse & adult kid? Still a dick term?

- not OP

Perhaps because you are using terminology such as 'level up'. Such a dick term.

P.S. the fact that you've lost "another" friend and this keeps happening is a clue.....

Anonymous wrote:Leveled up= self-absorbed a**hole.

+1000

This is some seriously self-absorbed horse sh!t right here. Who talks/thinks like this? Oh yea, self-absorbed a**holes who wonder why their once friends don't want to talk to them anymore.....

I love this thread. It's the distraction I need from real life.

Please go on, I'll just lurk over here.

Leveled up= self-absorbed a**hole.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are losing friends every time you "level up", it's because you are obnoxious about it. I have not lost a single friend despite "leveling up" a couple times.

Well I guess my friends can’t be happy for me when I level up and tell them. I don’t think I’m obnoxious, just telling them what’s going on in my life. I guess you can’t say the good parts, I mean most of this shit is earned through blood sweat and tears. They might see the leveling up but it’s not without hard work. And it’s not just me bragging, I’m also interested in their lives as well.

I think you clearly are obnoxious. Why do you have to tell your friends? Under what circumstances are you forced to tell?

I'm the PP Op responded to. I mean, its normal for your friends to know what's going on in each others lives. Like I'm not going to not tell my friend we are moving to a new house. Of course I won't say how much we paid but most people can make an assumption. Or I'm not going to hide the fact that I went on vacation. I may not say where I stayed but my friend will know X destination isn't cheap.

Okay, so you are indirectly obnoxious and directly insensitive. Is that your point?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are losing friends every time you "level up", it's because you are obnoxious about it. I have not lost a single friend despite "leveling up" a couple times.

Well I guess my friends can’t be happy for me when I level up and tell them. I don’t think I’m obnoxious, just telling them what’s going on in my life. I guess you can’t say the good parts, I mean most of this shit is earned through blood sweat and tears. They might see the leveling up but it’s not without hard work. And it’s not just me bragging, I’m also interested in their lives as well.

I think you clearly are obnoxious. Why do you have to tell your friends? Under what circumstances are you forced to tell?

I'm the PP Op responded to. I mean, its normal for your friends to know what's going on in each others lives. Like I'm not going to not tell my friend we are moving to a new house. Of course I won't say how much we paid but most people can make an assumption. Or I'm not going to hide the fact that I went on vacation. I may not say where I stayed but my friend will know X destination isn't cheap.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Or so it seems. I leveled up and I guess the dynamic changed and she no longer wants to engage. Sad, she was a college friend.

This is not her fault...

Why is it a fault? We all change and grow, I’m not asking for the world just to keep a connection/friendship. It’s been since college.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are losing friends every time you "level up", it's because you are obnoxious about it. I have not lost a single friend despite "leveling up" a couple times.

Well I guess my friends can’t be happy for me when I level up and tell them. I don’t think I’m obnoxious, just telling them what’s going on in my life. I guess you can’t say the good parts, I mean most of this shit is earned through blood sweat and tears. They might see the leveling up but it’s not without hard work. And it’s not just me bragging, I’m also interested in their lives as well.

This has to be a troll. You are a prick.