Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 20:43     Subject: If you are 35 and married, is it depressing?
Anonymous wrote:Why would it be depressing?

When I was 35, I had been married a few years, was pregnant with my first (pregnant within 2 months of going off of birth control at both 35 and 38, so no infertility issues, sorrynotsorry ladies who so desperately want that to be a mid-30s stereotype, it's not, you're in the minority), and was making a great salary married to a great guy. Still very happy at 45, moving into a lovely new house in a few weeks with my two amazing ES-aged kids!


You sound… smug and unpleasant
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 20:37     Subject: If you are 35 and married, is it depressing?
Anonymous wrote:Why would it be depressing?

When I was 35, I had been married a few years, was pregnant with my first (pregnant within 2 months of going off of birth control at both 35 and 38, so no infertility issues, sorrynotsorry ladies who so desperately want that to be a mid-30s stereotype, it's not, you're in the minority), and was making a great salary married to a great guy. Still very happy at 45, moving into a lovely new house in a few weeks with my two amazing ES-aged kids!


There’s something very off that you would feel the need to include this barb in your description of what sounds like a nice life. With these blessings, why would you need to dunk on women suffering from infertility? That’s weird, and not in a good way.

- Another woman happy with my life and children
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 18:00     Subject: Re:If you are 35 and married, is it depressing?
No. I’m very grateful for my life. It’s not like some carefree teenage romance but I’m very grateful for my husband and kids and our life.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 17:39     Subject: If you are 35 and married, is it depressing?
35 was a great time for me. I had 2 young kids and a nice new house. It was not depressing at all.

I think some people are just happy.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 17:35     Subject: Re:If you are 35 and married, is it depressing?
36 now and not depressing at now. Actually feel like all the work we’ve put in is really paying off and relationship has been stronger than ever with more emotional intimacy than ever. We hit a rough patch a few years ago though (about 5 years into marriage) and it was so hard, depressing and disconnected. Took a couple years of real effort to come around the bend.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 17:23     Subject: Re:If you are 35 and married, is it depressing?
It very much depends on where you are in life and marriage. At 35, I'd just had my first baby. It was a happy time, we were starting our family. Fast forward 10 years, and our relationship and life in general is more complicated and busy--maybe even a struggling in some respects--but I wouldn't say depressing.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 15:35     Subject: If you are 35 and married, is it depressing?
I was pretty happy at 35. I just had my first baby. I wasn't happy with the sleepless nights, though.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 15:33     Subject: If you are 35 and married, is it depressing?
Anonymous wrote:Be truthful please, to yourself and to the thread.


Overall, its a true blessing but every marriage goes through some rough patches which can be depressing if not handled well as a team.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 15:00     Subject: If you are 35 and married, is it depressing?
No. I would be more depressed without my DH and kids.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 14:57     Subject: If you are 35 and married, is it depressing?
Why would it be depressing?

When I was 35, I had been married a few years, was pregnant with my first (pregnant within 2 months of going off of birth control at both 35 and 38, so no infertility issues, sorrynotsorry ladies who so desperately want that to be a mid-30s stereotype, it's not, you're in the minority), and was making a great salary married to a great guy. Still very happy at 45, moving into a lovely new house in a few weeks with my two amazing ES-aged kids!
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 14:57     Subject: If you are 35 and married, is it depressing?
35 was great! DS was 4, sleeping through the night, potty trained, and feeding himself. We were finally able to tale international vacations again and live some semblance of our pre-kid life. At 37, started the journey all over again with DD. 37 was fine but having a newborn is a challenge at times. Still wouldn’t trade it for the world. It all passes.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 14:53     Subject: If you are 35 and married, is it depressing?
Wait till you hit late 40's and 50 OP.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 14:50     Subject: If you are 35 and married, is it depressing?
It was probably my worst year. Much happier divorced 10 years later.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 08:45     Subject: If you are 35 and married, is it depressing?
Depressing? No. Somewhat boring? Yes. The monotony of work and kid chauffeuring is at its peak.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 08:43     Subject: If you are 35 and married, is it depressing?
Completely happy and this is where I wanted to be at 35 (well I'm 36)- fantastic husband, nice house, 3 wonderful kids. It's chaotic, stressful, loving, fun. It's just a LOT of everything, but I know I'll miss these chaotic years when I'm older.

I will say that my marriage is one of the things I'm most proud of/happy with/grateful for. I just lucked out with DH. When my kids ask who is my favorite kids, I tell them DH is!