These are low-quality humans; whether they can remain as your friends or not is up to you.

Obviously a joke. These people are your friends and are happy for you. In no rational world would they actually think it’s a “waste” for you to be pregnant with a third girl. You should understand it for the joke it is.

Anonymous wrote:OP I have three girls. It’s the best thing ever 😀 Congrats on your pregnancy!

Exactly. Children are such a gift, not a ‘right’.

Even if no one else says it to you, a lot of people are going to be thinking it. At least your friend was honest.

Didn't happen. OP needs attention. Why can't you see that? move on

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Anonymous wrote:Your friends were rude there is no questionZ

By any chance, though, had you been really openly saying you wanted a boy? I have a friend with three boys who has been saying since the first that she desperately wants a daughter and it leaves people a little lost as to what to say when she announces a son. Your friends answer was definitely not the way to go!!!!!!!!

OP here. All I'd said when asked if I wanted a boy, was that we wanted a healthy baby, which is true.

Then your friends are awful. I’m so sorry. Congratulations on your daughter and may you have an easy pregnancy and a million blessings from her.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand people who hear this from a friend and say NOTHING. I would have immediately pushed back and said "we do not think it's a waste at all and are thrilled to be having a 3rd girl".

Friends gently call each other out when we say something stupid. If someone went home from a lunch with me and decided posting on the internet and then dropping me (!) was better than just saying "hey that rubbed me the wrong way" in the moment then I guess we aren't meant for adult friendship.

OP here. I didn't say nothing. I picked my jaw up off the floor and said "Seriously?! THat was way harsh Tai," which is what we say to each other any time someone says something really offensive.

Anonymous wrote:Your friends were rude there is no questionZ

By any chance, though, had you been really openly saying you wanted a boy? I have a friend with three boys who has been saying since the first that she desperately wants a daughter and it leaves people a little lost as to what to say when she announces a son. Your friends answer was definitely not the way to go!!!!!!!!

OP here. All I'd said when asked if I wanted a boy, was that we wanted a healthy baby, which is true.

Your friends were rude there is no questionZ

By any chance, though, had you been really openly saying you wanted a boy? I have a friend with three boys who has been saying since the first that she desperately wants a daughter and it leaves people a little lost as to what to say when she announces a son. Your friends answer was definitely not the way to go!!!!!!!!

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand people who hear this from a friend and say NOTHING. I would have immediately pushed back and said "we do not think it's a waste at all and are thrilled to be having a 3rd girl".

Friends gently call each other out when we say something stupid. If someone went home from a lunch with me and decided posting on the internet and then dropping me (!) was better than just saying "hey that rubbed me the wrong way" in the moment then I guess we aren't meant for adult friendship.

Not OP, but I struggle with pushing back in situations like this because it would never occur to me to say anything that rude. It takes me by surprise and I am not able to process it in the moment, and then later I'll be mad at both them for saying it and myself for failing to speak up.

I've learned that I just can't be friends with rude, thoughtless people because my brain can't process their rudeness in real time and I wind up feeling resentful after the fact. When I've tried to address stuff like this after the fact, people push back ("why are you still thinking about this?") and I feel petty for bringing it up.

It's not worth it. I only retain friends who have the self-awareness to either not say stuff like this, or to realize their error in the moment and apologize.

Wow, unbelievably rude.

I would say something the next time I saw them. And see if they are mature enough to recognize their error and apologize.

I would give them one chance to apologize, and if they diminished or denied, I’d be done.