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Anonymous wrote:If someone is not drinking alcohol at a party or function it's really ok, and even preferable, to not comment on, or make a big deal out of it. There are a lot of reasons why someone might not be drinking. And if you've just met the person then it's totally fine to just not comment.

I was at an event/special occasion yesterday where lots of drinking was involved. I stopped drinking about 8 months ago after struggling with alcohol for years. Not many people know this because I was able to hold it together publicly/work wise, and of course I didn't share how much i was drinking in private. I was meeting most of the people at this event for the first time as it was for someone we all know for different reasons. I'm not particularly interested in sharing the whole story with them.

Anyway, my NA drinks were commented on by a couple people and by one person who was very invested in getting me to drink something alcoholic. Like I had to publicly refuse them numerous times. One of the other people there even joked that I was a recovering alcoholic as a deflection. I had never met that person, so it's not like they had any idea.

Late in to the evening I finally blurted out, "I don't drink" after have yet another alcoholic beverage foisted on me. At that point I was sitting next to a woman who doesn't know me hugely well, but certainly knows that I used to drink as I drank a whole lot during a dinner at her house once.

I'm thankful that I'm at the point where I was comfortable to continue to refuse. But just want to put this out there - please don't do this to people. Thanks.

Anyway,

I’m sorry that happened to you OP. That guy is a jerk, and sobriety probably makes him uncomfortable - his actions are about him, not about you. But it’s sucks.

Anonymous wrote:If someone is not drinking alcohol at a party or function it's really ok, and even preferable, to not comment on, or make a big deal out of it. There are a lot of reasons why someone might not be drinking. And if you've just met the person then it's totally fine to just not comment.

I was at an event/special occasion yesterday where lots of drinking was involved. I stopped drinking about 8 months ago after struggling with alcohol for years. Not many people know this because I was able to hold it together publicly/work wise, and of course I didn't share how much i was drinking in private. I was meeting most of the people at this event for the first time as it was for someone we all know for different reasons. I'm not particularly interested in sharing the whole story with them.

Anyway, my NA drinks were commented on by a couple people and by one person who was very invested in getting me to drink something alcoholic. Like I had to publicly refuse them numerous times. One of the other people there even joked that I was a recovering alcoholic as a deflection. I had never met that person, so it's not like they had any idea.

Late in to the evening I finally blurted out, "I don't drink" after have yet another alcoholic beverage foisted on me. At that point I was sitting next to a woman who doesn't know me hugely well, but certainly knows that I used to drink as I drank a whole lot during a dinner at her house once.

I'm thankful that I'm at the point where I was comfortable to continue to refuse. But just want to put this out there - please don't do this to people. Thanks.

Anyway,

Anonymous wrote:I think I would say “I’m on a medicine that I can’t take have any alcohol on” just to shut people up. They don’t really care and are either just making (tiresome) conversation or might feel defensive abt their own consumption. Good luck!

Anonymous wrote:I never notice or care or comment on what people are drinking or not drinking. It's so bizarre that anyone would.

Anonymous wrote:Alcohol culture is no joke. There’s no other substance that is socially acceptable to push on others like alcohol. It’s truly bizarre.

OP, Im happy for you. My mother was never able to stop and lost her battle in her 50s.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m so sorry people are giving you a hard time, OP. I don’t drink because I don’t like the taste, and it’s so weird to me how invested people are in convincing me that I should. No one gives me anywhere near this much grief about the fact I don’t eat leafy greens (which I also don’t like) and those are at least good for me.

I also dont like the taste of alcohol, and I HATE the taste of beer. Is that a thing?
Because I also feel so harassed, enough that I have figured out how to like wine.
I have never had a problem or anywhere near it with alcohol, and yet I am irritated at all the people who push it on me, AND I drink wine because of it in social situations!