2 months. Mostly to deconflict withbother kids.

Oh man: not that far in advance! I just ask my kids what kind of food they want. I don’t have themes and don’t rent out venues - just set up some decorations at home. It takes me a few weeks to plan.

Planning wonderful birthdays sounds like a fun hobby. I think your DH is right that it’s not something the kids “need” but wrong to think that’s a reason to stop. If it gives you and the kids pleasure keep doing it! The idea that Mom’s must be martyrs and not do things for pleasure is a terrible one.

I don't. Kids are too old for parties now. If they want a party they plan something themselves. No themes involved.

I need 3 months to book venues and ensure no conflicts. But starting to do more home parties with inflation.

I have 3 kids so I understand wanting to plan in advance.

I try to give my kids some agency in what they want for the party and I feel they can’t commit too far in advance.

Depending on what they’re thinking I try to let them know when I need to book etc.

Anonymous wrote:At this point I book a venue 2-3 months out, get a cake the day before and that’s it.

Agree. Planning birthdays 6+ months out with themes, Pinterest boards, etc. for 4 kids does seem way over the top to me (and your DH)

Anonymous wrote:We plan beginning four months ahead because you sometimes have to reserve the date three months ahead. No Pinterest board though.

This is my approach too—places fill up around here, especially if reasonably priced