Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 16:03     Subject: My girlfriend doesn’t clean when she’s here

Buy her a vacuum for her next birthday and tell her it's to be used at your place only. She'll soon get the hint.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 16:02     Subject: My girlfriend doesn’t clean when she’s here

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you ever go and stay with her? And do you help her clean her place while you're there?

I think if you do that it's reasonable to ask for reciprocation. But, if she does all the traveling to you, and cleans up after herself, then you look like a douche asking her to clean up your place.


No she comes and stays with me. The reason why I brought it up is because I came home from the gym and there was hair on the bathroom floor. I told her I wasn’t trying to fight but it was making me question how it would be if we lived together.

The horror! Hair on the bathroom floor!

You know she's a female, right. That happens. Deal with it.
She should dump you.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 16:01     Subject: My girlfriend doesn’t clean when she’s here

Why don't you hire a housecleaner? Problem solved.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 15:59     Subject: My girlfriend doesn’t clean when she’s here

I think it’s reasonable for her to wash dishes if you make dinner but not things like vacuuming. Though if you are sweeping, a good guest would ask what they can do to help.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 15:56     Subject: My girlfriend doesn’t clean when she’s here

Anonymous wrote:Do you ever go and stay with her? And do you help her clean her place while you're there?

I think if you do that it's reasonable to ask for reciprocation. But, if she does all the traveling to you, and cleans up after herself, then you look like a douche asking her to clean up your place.


No she comes and stays with me. The reason why I brought it up is because I came home from the gym and there was hair on the bathroom floor. I told her I wasn’t trying to fight but it was making me question how it would be if we lived together.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 15:55     Subject: Re:My girlfriend doesn’t clean when she’s here

Are you making the same level of effort by traveling to her place/staying with her at least as frequently as she is visiting you and if so are you regularly cleaning her apartment beyond picking up after yourself during each of these stays? If the answer to either of these questions is no then you’re the problem.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 15:42     Subject: My girlfriend doesn’t clean when she’s here

She is a guest who is coming to visit you, you shouldn’t be expecting her to do chores. Unless she is spending more than half the time there, you should do the cleaning before and after she’s gone.

If you have big projects and want her help with them, I think it’s reasonable to ask.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 15:41     Subject: My girlfriend doesn’t clean when she’s here

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You said she cleans up after herself. What more do you expect from a house guest?


Sweep, mop, laundry, etc. - any of those.


HIRE A MAID.

YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS NOT A HOUSEKEEPER
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 15:41     Subject: My girlfriend doesn’t clean when she’s here

How long have you been together?

What's her place like? Do you mop and clean toilets there?
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 15:40     Subject: My girlfriend doesn’t clean when she’s here

Anonymous wrote:HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA


100% exactly my reaction when I read this post. OP is a total joke. Hope his girlfriend dumps him quick.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 15:39     Subject: My girlfriend doesn’t clean when she’s here

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, there is probably no alternative to talking about this.

You can do it!


More like there’s no alternative to his girlfriend dumping him
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 15:39     Subject: My girlfriend doesn’t clean when she’s here

Anonymous wrote:From one guy to another, you’re an idiot Sir.

+1
OP is coming off as very whiney
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 15:38     Subject: My girlfriend doesn’t clean when she’s here

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 15:32     Subject: My girlfriend doesn’t clean when she’s here

I'm sorry, there is probably no alternative to talking about this.

You can do it!
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2023 15:31     Subject: My girlfriend doesn’t clean when she’s here

She drives all the way to you, presumably you have a lot of s#x, she cleans up after herself... and what you want her to start vaccumming and scrubbing your toilets now?

What you want is a live-in lover or roommate type split of responsibilities which you guys do not have.

If you really resent cleaning, go stay with her for two weeks at a time instead. That doesn't work for you though, does it?

So suck it up buttercup.