Anonymous wrote:Nannies don’t clean and we don’t fold laundry after your kid goes to sleep. She is a nanny- use her accordingly only for date night. No cleaning no laundry

Oh stop. This particular woman is employed as a nanny for another family but the terms of her employment with OP can encompass whatever childcare and/or household helpful is mutually agreed upon. Particularly after the children are asleep she’s not “nannying” or offering any enriched childcare services. A teenage babysitter could do that. She is an adult offering her services and availability to OP. Just because YOU don’t fold laundry as part of your nanny job doesn’t mean this person is unable to provide that household help for pay if she wants to.

I would do date night but have her come after kids are asleep and do housework, depending on what she is good at /willing to do- deep cleaning task like cleaning the fridge out, meal prep, organizing, checking the inventory of household items and prepping target orders, seasonal clear out of kid clothes/toys, etc. She

Anonymous wrote:100% fold laundry. Like do all of the laundry while working and leave it in piles for her to fold and put away.

This. If you have enough clothes and linen to last a week, just make piles and she can fold and put them away after the kids go to bed on date night.

Anonymous wrote:This is a one time 5 hour stretch, so I recommend using it to get a task you HATE out of the way.

Everyone's likes and dislikes are different, so do yours.

For me I would have her come to the house, do all the laundry, and between the loads, sort through the kids' closets and drawers for outgrown clothes, and also put all the out of season clothes into storage.

Not possible if she doesn’t see the kids regularly. And also not a task that needs to be done weekly. Maybe 4x a year at the most.

Nannies don’t clean and we don’t fold laundry after your kid goes to sleep. She is a nanny- use her accordingly only for date night. No cleaning no laundry

If she's all in for cleaning, and I'm talking like a regular cleaning, not 'light,' I'd totally take that and pay what she asks. Otherwise, I like the idea of a standing date night where kids go to bed within a couple hours of arrival and she's able to fold a load of laundry after.

Folding is the bane of my household's existence, so that is where I would go.

I already get lots of help though. Weekly cleaners, once a week teenager babysitting for date night, weekly grandma pick up from daycare.

Cleaning! And one week a month she can do the babysitting for your date night (no cleaning that week).

Laundry help!

Standing date night if you don't already have one. Weekend or weekday wouldn't matter to me.