Kids should be making coffee for you before you leave.

Who thinks it’s rude? That’s ridiculous. And I say that as someone who usually does get Starbucks for them but sometimes I’m just fueling myself and don’t want to spend the $ too. I get literal coffee when I go to Starbucks, my kids don’t need caffeine like I do. They sometimes just turn me down when I offer too.

I offer to get them only what I'm getting - that's usually a regular coffee or tea. 99% of the time they say no, but I do offer. I don't ask them - what can I get you, the way I'd ask a friend, bc they aren't my friends. If my friend wants a Frappuccino 7 days/wk, that's her business but for my kids I don't think it's healthy to consume that kind of sugar daily and given the chance to get anything at Sbux, that is ALWAYS what they want. Now if I'm wanting to treat them for some reason, if I'm getting a Frappuccino 1x/yr, or an occasional cookie or whatever, then yes they get to get a Frap/cookie/whatever.

I have two teen boys. There is nothing at Starbucks that they want.

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Anonymous wrote:Ouch. You treat yourself but not your kids because you do not want to spend that much? Then don’t get yourself one. Pretty sad to be honest with you.

Very bizarre rationalizing.

When you get a pedicure, do you always get one for your kids?

Our kids get the lions share of our disposal income, and I do not feel bad for treating myself.

More importantly, I get an iced coffee. The kids like drinks with sugar. So I have no problem saying no. I treat them once a week, that’s plenty. Some things are for adults.

If my daughter is with me, I’ve paid for her pedicure too. Otherwise I don’t bring her when I go.

If you have food or drink (whatever it is) and your family or guests are there, you should offer to share. This is why I often save my treats to eat after they are asleep. I would just skip SB if my kids are present but I don’t want to buy for them.

Anonymous wrote:No, I would never consider getting something for myself and telling my kids that I won’t pay for something for them. How selfish. What a horrible way to devalue them.

If I’m on a budget then we things in line with the budget, but all of us participate because we’re all part of the same family. If the issue is limiting junk food, then I set limits around that, and I lead by example. But I don’t put myself on a higher priority level than my kids.

How odd. Of course children are second-class citizens in a family. They are not old enough to make good decisions for themselves, so you have to do that for them, and sometimes (often) that means not getting them everything they want. No wonder so many children are dreadful, entitled brats.

No, I would never consider getting something for myself and telling my kids that I won’t pay for something for them. How selfish. What a horrible way to devalue them.

If I’m on a budget then we things in line with the budget, but all of us participate because we’re all part of the same family. If the issue is limiting junk food, then I set limits around that, and I lead by example. But I don’t put myself on a higher priority level than my kids.

Anonymous wrote:Ouch. You treat yourself but not your kids because you do not want to spend that much? Then don’t get yourself one. Pretty sad to be honest with you.

This is kind of dumb. A black coffee isn’t really a treat.

Anonymous wrote:No. I would never order food or drink for myself without ordering something for my kids. That's horrifyingly rude.

No, when you’re the parent, you get to decide if your children are able to have something. When they can pay for stuff themselves, they can have it whenever they want. It’s not rude, it’s the difference between being a self-supporting adult and being a dependent child. Literally nothing at Starbucks is a necessity.

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Anonymous wrote:Ouch. You treat yourself but not your kids because you do not want to spend that much? Then don’t get yourself one. Pretty sad to be honest with you.

Very bizarre rationalizing.

When you get a pedicure, do you always get one for your kids?

Our kids get the lions share of our disposal income, and I do not feel bad for treating myself.

More importantly, I get an iced coffee. The kids like drinks with sugar. So I have no problem saying no. I treat them once a week, that’s plenty. Some things are for adults.

Who is taking their kids with them to pedicures? That’s your first problem.

Anonymous wrote:It depends. Me stopping to get black coffee
isnt some kind of treat. I’m trying to make it through the day. So no, if I’m getting regular coffee it isn’t a free for all for my kids to order frappichinos, cake pops, or whatever other junk Starbucks has. They can get a tea or something else that isn’t utter sugar filled garbage

I don’t drink coffee, so I don’t have that excuse, but I could see taking my young kids and getting a black coffee and giving my kids a choice of milk or water. Or splitting a treat and two waters. But I can’t see not getting them anything.

Anonymous wrote:Ouch. You treat yourself but not your kids because you do not want to spend that much? Then don’t get yourself one. Pretty sad to be honest with you.

Very bizarre rationalizing.

When you get a pedicure, do you always get one for your kids?

Our kids get the lions share of our disposal income, and I do not feel bad for treating myself.

More importantly, I get an iced coffee. The kids like drinks with sugar. So I have no problem saying no. I treat them once a week, that’s plenty. Some things are for adults.

Yes. I many get them just a drink or a snack (not both) or tell them to get something small if it’s close to meal time.

It depends. Me stopping to get black coffee
isnt some kind of treat. I’m trying to make it through the day. So no, if I’m getting regular coffee it isn’t a free for all for my kids to order frappichinos, cake pops, or whatever other junk Starbucks has. They can get a tea or something else that isn’t utter sugar filled garbage