Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have a graduate degree and have a decent professional job and are married to a man with no college and working in a low-paying job (not a trade), do you feel resentful or does it work out? What if the guy takes care of the kids sometimes but pawns them off to his mother?

I have a PhD (university professor) and have been dating a man who calls himself blue-collar. He is very sweet, and I really like him. We will see.

University professor can be a lower middle class/working class job these days

Do adjuncts or lecturers refer to themselves as professors? I mean students might say “ Professor Smith” in addressing them (because many don’t have doctorates) but…

Some women need mental compatibility, others don't. Some are more attracted to intellect, others to money or muscles.

I have have a grad degree and make $150k at at 5 day a week in office job. DH doesn’t have any degree is unbelievably smart and makes 8-10x what I do.

He just started another company and based on first two months of profits I would estimate this year he will make 20-25x what I do.

He works from gym, golf course and home. My guess is he actually works maybe 3 hours a day.

I am putting in my notice next week.

Anonymous wrote:I know a UVA Law grad who married a man who graduated from George Mason law, so basically the same thing.

Not at all.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a former lawyer married to a stonemason. Iran a second marriage. I’m not even ksure they are married actually just long term partnered. She has some assets and he has none but she seems pretty down at heel.

A stonemason is a skilled trade. They can be paid quite well.

Well in her own words her co-habiting “boyfriend” of 25 years lives hand to mouth.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have a graduate degree and have a decent professional job and are married to a man with no college and working in a low-paying job (not a trade), do you feel resentful or does it work out? What if the guy takes care of the kids sometimes but pawns them off to his mother?

I have a PhD (university professor) and have been dating a man who calls himself blue-collar. He is very sweet, and I really like him. We will see.

University professor can be a lower middle class/working class job these days

I was in a relationship with someone with fewer qualifications than me for many years, we lived together, moved countries together, etc. I kept hoping we would improve our communications over time but there was always a kind of cultural gap that ultimately just couldn’t be bridged. He’s an amazing guy, we just didn’t quite fit together. We both met and married our spouses relatively quickly after we split up and we are both much better off now.

I think I could have married him and could have been reasonably happy but i am so so glad I didn’t settle.

Anonymous wrote:If you have a graduate degree and have a decent professional job and are married to a man with no college and working in a low-paying job (not a trade), do you feel resentful or does it work out? What if the guy takes care of the kids sometimes but pawns them off to his mother?

I think it can happen often! In the world of love, anything is possible! BUT I wouldn't as finances are unfortunately a huge part of life.

I have a colleague who fits this bill. She has a PhD and her husband is blue collar. They are both from blue collar backgrounds.

I have no idea what it is like inside their marriage, but from the outside it seems like it works. They have been married for a long time. When their kids were little he did a lot of the childcare. He was also able to accomodate when her job required a relocation.

I know a UVA Law grad who married a man who graduated from George Mason law, so basically the same thing.

Anonymous wrote:Blue collar men are hot. A man that works with his hands and gets sh!t done is SO much more attractive than some guy who goes into the office just to do overpaid busywork on a computer.

- professional woman

May be for some women, not for majority and only for lusting over, not marrying them or introducing them to your parents or social circle.

Anonymous wrote:If you have a graduate degree and have a decent professional job and are married to a man with no college and working in a low-paying job (not a trade), do you feel resentful or does it work out? What if the guy takes care of the kids sometimes but pawns them off to his mother?

Both parties have to bring enough to make partnership works. Its a cumulative contribution of love, care, income, house chores, paperwork, childcare, etc. Your degree only plays a small role. However your educational experiences contribute more to your personality and your joint social network.

Anonymous wrote:I know a former lawyer married to a stonemason. Iran a second marriage. I’m not even ksure they are married actually just long term partnered. She has some assets and he has none but she seems pretty down at heel.

A stonemason is a skilled trade. They can be paid quite well.

Blue collar men are hot. A man that works with his hands and gets sh!t done is SO much more attractive than some guy who goes into the office just to do overpaid busywork on a computer.

- professional woman

How is the sex?