Anonymous wrote:Not being a total eff-up and being ok with being mediocre. I rarely drink, don't do drugs (including the prescription ones), don't have any concerning addictions (I have a sweet tooth but it's balanced and managed), especially considering my rough and traumatic childhood that resulted in me essentially raising myself.

I'm ok with being basic. I like my simple car and my simple townhouse and my simple quiet single life, and I think these things should be acknowledged and appreciated more than what we stereotypically think of as "success."

This is perfect. A happy life is more important than a "successful" life.

Anonymous wrote:I helped my 10th grader write a very overdue essay without losing my sh.t

I am a 9th and 11th grade teacher, as well as an afterschool tutor. I agree that this is impressive. I have to do it everyday. But so annoying.

TMI -
I have been eating mainly veggis in my new diet for the past five days. A lot of my inflammation and bodypain is down because of that. Today, I also had a maive bowel movement that I have never had before. Can't talk about this grossness, but I now believe that a good shit is the most underrated thing in the world.

My DH and I were recently talking about how we seem pretty average if you compare us to our peer group (even below average in terms of income or professional success) but if you look at us in context of our families of origin, we're amazing. We come from families full of substance abuse issues, serious mental health problems. where most of our immediate family members or minimally functional. Lots of divorce, alcoholism, drug abuse. Siblings who are still dependent on our parents even in their 40s and 50s, plus parents with serious mental health problems.

We are financially independent, both have stable careers of 20+ years, own our home, have a strong marriage of 20+ years, and have one kid who is doing great (doing well in school, no behavioral or serious medical problems, happy and well-adjusted). Compared to our friends we probably seem like underachievers. Some very close friends know our backgrounds, but most have no idea. We are actually a lot more impressive than it might seem.

Anonymous wrote:My teens like me and want to hang out with me. They do have friends, so it's not because they don't have another choice. I'm really enjoying the teen years but I feel like I can't say anything to my friends because they are struggling with their teens and I don't want to them to think I'm smug. I don't feel smug, every day I wonder if it will change, but I'll enjoy it every day I can. I would love kudos, maybe I'm doing something right? but I know some of it is luck. We have had rough periods too, they're not all easygoing, yes mental health issues too. But now? Right now. It's good.

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Anonymous wrote:Not being a total eff-up and being ok with being mediocre. I rarely drink, don't do drugs (including the prescription ones), don't have any concerning addictions (I have a sweet tooth but it's balanced and managed), especially considering my rough and traumatic childhood that resulted in me essentially raising myself.

I'm ok with being basic. I like my simple car and my simple townhouse and my simple quiet single life, and I think these things should be acknowledged and appreciated more than what we stereotypically think of as "success."

I love this and I totally agree with you.

Anonymous wrote:Parallel parking. I've been driving for 25 years and mostly avoided it the first 20 or so. So proud that I'm no longer intimidated and good at it 🤗

Oooh, this is a good one. I am bad at it. Driving for 34 years.

Anonymous wrote:I have chronic depression and when I'm struggling, I often wish I could get kudos for just getting out of bed and doing basic things like showering or eating a meal. It's SO HARD in those times. People who can just do it without even thinking about it have no idea how lucky they are.

Sending you kudos for ALL the times you've done it when it's been hard. Hugs.

Anonymous wrote:I have chronic depression and when I'm struggling, I often wish I could get kudos for just getting out of bed and doing basic things like showering or eating a meal. It's SO HARD in those times. People who can just do it without even thinking about it have no idea how lucky they are.

If you've done any of those things today, kudos! If not, that's okay.

Not being a total eff-up and being ok with being mediocre. I rarely drink, don't do drugs (including the prescription ones), don't have any concerning addictions (I have a sweet tooth but it's balanced and managed), especially considering my rough and traumatic childhood that resulted in me essentially raising myself.

I'm ok with being basic. I like my simple car and my simple townhouse and my simple quiet single life, and I think these things should be acknowledged and appreciated more than what we stereotypically think of as "success."

I remembered to clean all the necessary uniforms for all the sports my kids play!

I have chronic depression and when I'm struggling, I often wish I could get kudos for just getting out of bed and doing basic things like showering or eating a meal. It's SO HARD in those times. People who can just do it without even thinking about it have no idea how lucky they are.

I made the best homemade pizza crust last night! Used that 00 flour you get at Wegmans

Oh that's really sweet!

Honestly, I like getting kudos for everything except things that I'm morally obligated to do. Sweeping the floor, cleaning the toilets, substitute teaching, giving my kids vitamins, keeping up with the foreign languages I've learned, etc.

My teens like me and want to hang out with me. They do have friends, so it's not because they don't have another choice. I'm really enjoying the teen years but I feel like I can't say anything to my friends because they are struggling with their teens and I don't want to them to think I'm smug. I don't feel smug, every day I wonder if it will change, but I'll enjoy it every day I can. I would love kudos, maybe I'm doing something right? but I know some of it is luck. We have had rough periods too, they're not all easygoing, yes mental health issues too. But now? Right now. It's good.