None. Whether it’s a spatula from Walmart, donations to what could be a once in a lifetime trip, or a check, I would give what was asked. I would rather they have what they want or need over something they will return or never use.

That said, if they are very well off and asking for donations to a luxury honeymoon, while I wouldn’t judge, I’d find it a bit odd.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge cheap ones. With like Walmart spatulas on there. I guess I think that if I'm buying you wedding presents they should at least be quality ones.

I personally wouldn't even care if someone has sterling silver flatware on there. Actually I might be impressed and jealous of the sterling silver.

But when you are the poor cousin who just graduated from college it's a relief to see something on the registry you can actually afford. It feels like crap when the cheapest thing is $300.

Pp here. I agree with this. There should always be $50 options. But there’s also the check or gift card option.

Just chiming in to say my sister had a very limited registry and they set all the gifts of over like $100 to be optionally “group gifts.” So someone with a smaller budget could chip in $10 or $30 or $50 toward the fancy sheets without feeling in the hook to fund the whole thing. The other “cash fund” style option they had that I personally liked was a “wine cellar” which was a set amount (I think $500 group gift style). Since they both like cooking and wine pairings and stuff it was very them and felt more like a “stuff” gift but functioned more as a cash fund.

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Anonymous wrote:I find them all to be cringe. I wish we could just agree as a society to give cash instead.

+1

+2

No one needs stuff. Period.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds totally fine but I wouldn’t hesitate to add cash funds either. Some on dcum will say they are rude/trashy but they are the norm — I’m 32 and literally all weddings I’ve been to of people in my age group the past few years have had them.

I'm the OP, and while I completely get it, I assume that people who don't want to buy off the registry / don't see anything in their price range left, etc. will just give cash anyways.

x10000

One Size Fits All.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge cheap ones. With like Walmart spatulas on there. I guess I think that if I'm buying you wedding presents they should at least be quality ones.

I personally wouldn't even care if someone has sterling silver flatware on there. Actually I might be impressed and jealous of the sterling silver.

But when you are the poor cousin who just graduated from college it's a relief to see something on the registry you can actually afford. It feels like crap when the cheapest thing is $300.

Pp here. I agree with this. There should always be $50 options. But there’s also the check or gift card option.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge cheap ones. With like Walmart spatulas on there. I guess I think that if I'm buying you wedding presents they should at least be quality ones.

I personally wouldn't even care if someone has sterling silver flatware on there. Actually I might be impressed and jealous of the sterling silver.

But when you are the poor cousin who just graduated from college it's a relief to see something on the registry you can actually afford. It feels like crap when the cheapest thing is $300.

Crate and Barrel has tons of reasonable stuff. I'd be thrilled if someone bought me a couple of their $7.95 champagne glasses.

I judge people who treat their wedding registry like a birthday wish list. It’s supposed to be for setting up your home, not getting as much crap as possible. A couple I knew had a peloton bike, 3D printer, and Apple Watches.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds totally fine but I wouldn’t hesitate to add cash funds either. Some on dcum will say they are rude/trashy but they are the norm — I’m 32 and literally all weddings I’ve been to of people in my age group the past few years have had them.

I'm the OP, and while I completely get it, I assume that people who don't want to buy off the registry / don't see anything in their price range left, etc. will just give cash anyways.

This. You don't have to list cash on a registry. People will give you 100 dollar bills at the venue.

I love writing checks so you can go buy some Costco stuff, or better yet help with a down payment, rather than Pottery Barn stuff that you’ll end up giving away in a few years when you move and it doesn’t fit your style anymore.

Anonymous wrote:I find them all to be cringe. I wish we could just agree as a society to give cash instead.

+1

Anonymous wrote:I judge cheap ones. With like Walmart spatulas on there. I guess I think that if I'm buying you wedding presents they should at least be quality ones.

I personally wouldn't even care if someone has sterling silver flatware on there. Actually I might be impressed and jealous of the sterling silver.

But when you are the poor cousin who just graduated from college it's a relief to see something on the registry you can actually afford. It feels like crap when the cheapest thing is $300.

I find them all to be cringe. I wish we could just agree as a society to give cash instead.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds totally fine but I wouldn’t hesitate to add cash funds either. Some on dcum will say they are rude/trashy but they are the norm — I’m 32 and literally all weddings I’ve been to of people in my age group the past few years have had them.

I'm the OP, and while I completely get it, I assume that people who don't want to buy off the registry / don't see anything in their price range left, etc. will just give cash anyways.

I will give cash to younger relatives. I am 35 and have some cousins a few years younger. But I won’t give cash to friends or people I work with. It feels weird. I want to get an object. You just have multiple options in various price ranges.

For what it is worth, I still remember the nice things people gave me and who they are from. A nice vase form Aunt Carol is still used today for example and i think of her each time I use it.

Anonymous wrote:Registries tgst ask you to contribute to a Luxe honeymoon

Agree. It is like giving cash and I don’t want to give cash to friends or colleagues. I want to give a gift so please give me some ideas.

I judge cheap ones. With like Walmart spatulas on there. I guess I think that if I'm buying you wedding presents they should at least be quality ones.

I personally wouldn't even care if someone has sterling silver flatware on there. Actually I might be impressed and jealous of the sterling silver.