I don't think it's sad, it's just reality.

My DD is a tornado too! Fortunately she is graduating in a few weeks and has plans for a job and a roommate, so now only visits. She has mellowed a bit too but I was always glad to see how much energy she had and such strong opinions!! That said, she was always super draining!

Anonymous wrote:This is such a sad thread. So many posters who don’t seem to like their oldest child.

Try living it. Now that is sad.

That said, I like him perfectly fine when he is chill and not trying to start arguments and drama and being a know it all.

Anonymous wrote:This is such a sad thread. So many posters who don’t seem to like their oldest child.

I posted here and it’s my middle child. I do like him, he just requires a lot of energy. When he leaves and when he arrives is always an adjustment. If you can’t relate move on.

Anonymous wrote:This is such a sad thread. So many posters who don’t seem to like their oldest child.

+1

This is such a sad thread. So many posters who don’t seem to like their oldest child.

My oldest is like this too, not about politics but she will bring up every perceived parenting mistake we've ever made in her life and how it still affects her. We're not talking about abuse or anything, but how we didn't get her a tutor for her 7th grade math class and how her self esteem still suffers as a result. It's completely exhausting and she won't let things like this go.

Anonymous wrote:Wow I had no idea how many people feel this way. Maybe it’s because both of my kids are in college but I absolutely adore it when they are home. Odd that you don’t like your kids, hmm.

I think I will feel this way with my younger two. But my oldest is just…difficult. - op

Wow I had no idea how many people feel this way. Maybe it’s because both of my kids are in college but I absolutely adore it when they are home. Odd that you don’t like your kids, hmm.

Mine’s the same way OP! And she nits at her 15yo brother and their 17yo sister takes on the responsibility of mediation. Fortunately she seems to have mellowed a bit this year. She’s at a women’s college with 2499 like-minded peers and that seems to get it out of her system. Though a bunch of them are coming through our house over the summer lol

My best advice is a JOB or 2.

Anonymous wrote:Folks, please get ready do do your duty to deradicalize your kids from whatever they picked up from their new friends and unrestrained Internet at college.

Your kid “unrestrained internet” since long before college, you just didn’t know it.

Folks, please get ready do do your duty to deradicalize your kids from whatever they picked up from their new friends and unrestrained Internet at college.

mine took an internship in another city, with corporate housing provided. win win.

My eldest was a clash, mainly with spouse. So they stopped coming home.

Op, his siblings know his personality. The good, the bad. The intensity. They get an education. the positive is: it may guide them in knowing what personality they get along best with for a future spouse, someone they live with. That's one way to look at it.