Anonymous
05/09/2023 22:21
Subject: Stupid question - but would you say something about $5
Anonymous wrote:It's 7 kids total. When it's my turn, I ask my kid what they want and I got chick fil a kids meals for everyone. Sometimes the person who is in charge makes the dinner but that's not my style. You still chip in $5 even if they cook it. LOL. I don't really mind that we do it this way if everyone pays me when it's my turn HAHA. And the additional backstory is the time the two people didn't pay me - I already had already agreed to do a second time because someone didn't even take a first turn. I was going to make someone else ask that person to take their first turn but then their spouse was out of town that week and their 3 kids are younger than my 3 kids so I just said F-it, we don't have to bother her, I can do it a second time. LOL.
Then you’re getting a bargain. A well-cooked meal takes time, which is a precious commodity. Far cheaper to grab junk from a fast-food drive-through.
That’s probably why they didn’t pay you, because you’re taking the lazy route.
Anonymous
05/09/2023 20:51
Subject: Re:Stupid question - but would you say something about $5
Anonymous wrote:The whole thing is weird. If you're all rotating turns hosting once/month, why collect money at all? Just stay in the general realm of $5/kid when planning and in the end if all evens out. You'd each be paying around $35 every seven times which is the same as shelling at five bucks each time. I'd just be irritated with the constant begging people for the money the owed. Sure they "forgot" this time but it'll become a regular thing and then you'll just get annoyed that you're being taken advantage of.
Np, and this idea makes much more sense than the current process.
Anonymous
05/09/2023 14:39
Subject: Stupid question - but would you say something about $5
Anonymous wrote:If I have someone’s child with me I pay for food. Not a big deal. This is strange.
It’s not like that.
It’s a monthly meeting. I’m not with the kids but I am signed up to bring the dinner for the group once a year.
Anonymous
05/09/2023 14:10
Subject: Stupid question - but would you say something about $5
I don't think this is a rich vs... not rich thing. It is a careless vs.. responsible thing. Plenty of well brought up rich people are responsible, especially in groups or with those of lesser means.
Also some people are lifestyle scammers and applaud themselves for every little thing they get away with so things like a $5 contribution or not taking a turn with a group activity wash right over them because it happens so often throughout the day.
Or, maybe they forgot.
In the end, lead your life as you think best. Next time, closer to the event, I'd ask if they'd like to pay up/take turn/etc. If they don't and are simply a drain, now you know for the future.
Also some people are lifestyle scammers and applaud themselves for every little thing they get away with so things like a $5 contribution or not taking a turn with a group activity wash right over them because it happens so often throughout the day.
Or, maybe they forgot.
In the end, lead your life as you think best. Next time, closer to the event, I'd ask if they'd like to pay up/take turn/etc. If they don't and are simply a drain, now you know for the future.
Anonymous
05/09/2023 13:52
Subject: Stupid question - but would you say something about $5
If I have someone’s child with me I pay for food. Not a big deal. This is strange.
Anonymous
05/09/2023 13:49
Subject: Stupid question - but would you say something about $5
I am the person who would just let this go but I also wouldn’t be mad if you reminded me if I forgot so just do what makes you happy, the other people will be fine.
Anonymous
05/09/2023 13:44
Subject: Stupid question - but would you say something about $5
I think you can do the same thing with this person as you did with the last person. Perfectly reasonable. I'd be so embarrassed if I had forgotten to pay you!!
Anonymous
05/09/2023 12:57
Subject: Re:Stupid question - but would you say something about $5
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The appropriate time to say something is at the time. It's really not a big deal, you can be super casual. "Oh, Larla, can you Venmo me the $5 for dinner? Thanks!"
I think you're fine to say, "Oh, actually, I was just looking at my notes from when we hosted, and you forgot to send us the $5. So can we just call it even for this month? Sorry for the delay in saying something, it slipped my mind."
Something along these lines but especially the italicized part.
I would think it odd that you kept notes.
Anonymous
05/09/2023 12:54
Subject: Stupid question - but would you say something about $5
Anonymous wrote:Send out an email to all suggesting that the $5 exchange seems unnecessary and hard to remember since you are all hosting so it ends up being an even exchange.
Today is the last time for this year but I’m definitely going to suggest that if we do it again next year!
Anonymous
05/09/2023 12:48
Subject: Stupid question - but would you say something about $5
I would just not pay and wait for the other person to bring it up, and then I would tell them 
I hate people who “forget” to pay!
I hate people who “forget” to pay!
Anonymous
05/09/2023 12:46
Subject: Re:Stupid question - but would you say something about $5
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The appropriate time to say something is at the time. It's really not a big deal, you can be super casual. "Oh, Larla, can you Venmo me the $5 for dinner? Thanks!"
I think you're fine to say, "Oh, actually, I was just looking at my notes from when we hosted, and you forgot to send us the $5. So can we just call it even for this month? Sorry for the delay in saying something, it slipped my mind."
Something along these lines but especially the italicized part.
Yeah, but don’t ask. Just affirmatively state: We can call it even this month.
Yep. Also I have a feeling that OP is not the type of person who could just not pay and be okay with it (I know because I'm the same way). I'd proactively say what's suggested above: let's call it even.
Anonymous
05/09/2023 12:45
Subject: Stupid question - but would you say something about $5
I would just say oh you must've forgotten to pay me last month, so we are even now and don't pay.
Anonymous
05/09/2023 12:44
Subject: Re:Stupid question - but would you say something about $5
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The appropriate time to say something is at the time. It's really not a big deal, you can be super casual. "Oh, Larla, can you Venmo me the $5 for dinner? Thanks!"
I think you're fine to say, "Oh, actually, I was just looking at my notes from when we hosted, and you forgot to send us the $5. So can we just call it even for this month? Sorry for the delay in saying something, it slipped my mind."
Something along these lines but especially the italicized part.
Yeah, but don’t ask. Just affirmatively state: We can call it even this month.
Anonymous
05/09/2023 12:44
Subject: Stupid question - but would you say something about $5
Just don’t pay it. If they contact you then you say that they didn’t pay you last time so you thought they wanted to do it this way.
Anonymous
05/09/2023 12:42
Subject: Re:Stupid question - but would you say something about $5
Please stop writing LOL.