Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 21:35     Subject: DD has reached the age where she doesn’t want us
My 8th grade DS does not want me at his first middle school dance. He does not want me to go on field trips or chaperone his 8th grade trip to Kings Dominion.

I have 2 kids in elementary who still like me around.

I felt bad about my oldest but DS reminded me about how it was like when I was a teen. I didn’t want my parents around.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 21:25     Subject: DD has reached the age where she doesn’t want us
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was this. My mom once slunk in wearing cat-eye sunglasses and a big scarf, as a disguise. I was mortified.


That’s… hilarious


I knew it was, at the time, even as I was embarrassed and annoyed. Her friends laughed a lot.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 21:20     Subject: DD has reached the age where she doesn’t want us
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My daughter did track thru high school. These are the instructions I received from her regarding my attendance and participation...
Freshman year: Do not cheer. Not the team, not her, and in no way acknowledge association.
Sophomore year: Limited cheering in a general sense for the team is allowed. Avoid being a prominent fan, and still absolutely forbidden to cheer for her individually, or make my relationship with her obvious. (While acknowledging other team parents will figure it out.)
Junior year: A breakthrough! I am allowed to call out her name. Still, encouraged to be "low key"
Senior year. Anything goes! Whoop it up!
Throughout a 4 years, what was clear was that she appreciated my support, even when it was only a silent presence.
So, OP, if you can respect your kids wishes, you can make it through this completely normal and developmently appropriate period!

You obeyed your child’s instructions?
Did your parents obey you?


NP. I would obey these instructions. I think they are cute, funny, and age-appropriate. My parents were busy immigrants who did not have time to attend many games. I was embarrassed of their immigrantness but didn’t say so out loud. Maybe they figured it out anyway. I’ll have to ask them
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 21:18     Subject: DD has reached the age where she doesn’t want us
Anonymous wrote:I was this. My mom once slunk in wearing cat-eye sunglasses and a big scarf, as a disguise. I was mortified.


That’s… hilarious
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 16:23     Subject: DD has reached the age where she doesn’t want us
Haha, there comes a day in the life of raising every kid where you are no longer cool as the parent. Please walk ten feet behind me at the mall, I don't want anyone to know I have parents. Wait until the side eye kicks in, OP. It will end around 18.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 16:21     Subject: DD has reached the age where she doesn’t want us
Anonymous wrote:My daughter did track thru high school. These are the instructions I received from her regarding my attendance and participation...
Freshman year: Do not cheer. Not the team, not her, and in no way acknowledge association.
Sophomore year: Limited cheering in a general sense for the team is allowed. Avoid being a prominent fan, and still absolutely forbidden to cheer for her individually, or make my relationship with her obvious. (While acknowledging other team parents will figure it out.)
Junior year: A breakthrough! I am allowed to call out her name. Still, encouraged to be "low key"
Senior year. Anything goes! Whoop it up!
Throughout a 4 years, what was clear was that she appreciated my support, even when it was only a silent presence.
So, OP, if you can respect your kids wishes, you can make it through this completely normal and developmently appropriate period!

You obeyed your child’s instructions?
Did your parents obey you?
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 16:17     Subject: Re:DD has reached the age where she doesn’t want us
Anonymous wrote:If you look at the CDC or other websites listing listing developmental milestones for this age, "being embarrassed by your parents" is literally on the list.

Exactly. She’s just being your average kid.
You keep being the parent.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 16:16     Subject: DD has reached the age where she doesn’t want us
I was this. My mom once slunk in wearing cat-eye sunglasses and a big scarf, as a disguise. I was mortified.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 16:12     Subject: DD has reached the age where she doesn’t want us
You're obviously embarrassing her somehow. Figure out what it is. I have 2 in college and a 13 year old and they never told me not to come to things.