Anonymous
Post 05/07/2023 20:13     Subject: Shockingly horrible screaming fits
Anonymous wrote:Might be autistic.
Teach good manners, no sugar, healthy meals, more nature time.

Nanny



This was my kid. Autistic/ADHD/Anxiety disorder
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2023 20:01     Subject: Re:Shockingly horrible screaming fits
Our dd had these types of complete melt downs (tantrum is too mild to adequately describe it) starting at age 3 and it continued for at least 2 years. The only way to describe her was demonic, like the exorcist, seriously. And usually she would end up vomiting from the intensity of it as well. When we finally started researching therapists to help her was around the same time she magically stopped having the melt downs. She stopped around 5.5 when she started Kindergarten funny enough and hasn’t had one for a year. I chock it up to all the big changes going on due to Covid, preschool stopping and starting all the time, followed by a cross country move and starting at a new preschool where she wasn’t very happy.

We know she’s highly sensitive and that’s part of her personality with probably some anxiety. Having a year of regularity has changed her into a new child.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2023 19:58     Subject: Shockingly horrible screaming fits
Sounds sensory to me. Which could be something she outgrows or learns to manage or could be a sign of a larger diagnosis. Definitely check with ped as soon as you can so you are prepared either way.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2023 18:49     Subject: Shockingly horrible screaming fits
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Did she just get a vaccine?

Here come the anti science crusaders in their tinfoil hats! Everybody grab your hydroxychloroquine!


I'm 100% pro vax; my kids are up to date and they both got covid shots, boosted etc. But one of my kids seemingly reacts like this to his shots. It kills me that we have to pretend there are no side effects for vaccines now.

There can be side effects. And it's still worth it!


+1000
Every parent knows that babies get more tired and fussy and tantrummy after their shots. Ignore that childless poster. The infestation of non-parents on this board is nuts, and they are so obvious with their idiotic takes. You'd think they'd figure out how to post like a real parent given how frequently they lurk.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2023 18:47     Subject: Shockingly horrible screaming fits
Anonymous wrote:It will pass.


When?
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2023 18:46     Subject: Shockingly horrible screaming fits
My first did this. It made her my last.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2023 18:44     Subject: Shockingly horrible screaming fits
Anonymous wrote:Has anyone had a first child who did this? When I've observed screechers among friends and family it is always the second or subsequent child who does it. Makes me wonder if it is attention seeking or something


My first and only did this. It was sensory for her.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2023 18:29     Subject: Shockingly horrible screaming fits
It will pass.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2023 18:06     Subject: Shockingly horrible screaming fits
Anonymous wrote:Has anyone had a first child who did this? When I've observed screechers among friends and family it is always the second or subsequent child who does it. Makes me wonder if it is attention seeking or something


YES. My first child was a screamer (started before hte first was born so it wasn't jealousy or attention related) but grew out of it. Second child was extremely mellow.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2023 18:05     Subject: Shockingly horrible screaming fits
Anonymous wrote:Career nanny. That could just be a tantrum and maybe your oldest was more mild-tempered. It could also be that this is a sensory meltdown issue (google sensory seeking/sensory avoidant). This doesn’t mean your kid has a diagnosis of some kind (not necessarily at least), but basically just that some kids are more sensitive and high strung. I have seen tantrums like this with many kids over the years, a few are now ADHD or other diagnosis, but most are just sensitive, intelligent, high-octane people.

My best advice for right now is to focus on the basics, bc if you are trying to manage behavior but your kid is not getting their underlying needs met, you are going to fail with any approach to the behavior itself.

So make sure your kid is getting lots of high-quality sleep, healthy meals and snacks at age-appropriate intervals, and a good balance of active/physical play and calmer play.


This has been my experience too. I have two kids, same gender, close in age-- one extremely mellow child and one child who definitely had some sensory issues. Seeing the contrast can be really hard and I worried a lot about the child with sensory issues but as they both grow, I realize that one of my children is just more high strung
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2023 18:00     Subject: Shockingly horrible screaming fits
Has anyone had a first child who did this? When I've observed screechers among friends and family it is always the second or subsequent child who does it. Makes me wonder if it is attention seeking or something
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2023 17:46     Subject: Shockingly horrible screaming fits
Anonymous wrote:Our kid did that and still has epic meltdowns at age 8. ADHD and anxiety


Ditto. We started with a therapist at 7, meds at 8. 9 now and SO much better.

I wish I had addressed it sooner, but I kept thinking she would grow out of it or we could teach her strategies ourselves.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2023 17:41     Subject: Shockingly horrible screaming fits
My son does this. And it irks the crap out of me. I’m sensitive to screaming toddlers. Didn’t know this before having him. After the first episode, I got my tubes removed. I heard it gets better by 4 years old.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2023 15:57     Subject: Shockingly horrible screaming fits
Anonymous wrote:normal


Normal for this to happen a couple times. Not normal for this to happen with regularity.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2023 15:54     Subject: Re:Shockingly horrible screaming fits
Should she be getting molars? I shared on another thread my toddler suddenly had terrible tantrums and it turned out he was getting molars.