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Anonymous wrote:Years ago people shared emails and Facebook accounts. You know this so save messages you want your mom to not be a part of to phone calls.

Her Dad will probably tell her Mom anyway. Old people don’t have many conversation topics other than the conversations they have with other people

WTF. There is so much wrong with what you wrote that it's rather sad.

It’s weird you care op. It’s weird that you think a half of a couple wouldn’t tell their partner what was said… “I talked to Joe today and he’s worried about..” or whatever.
Honestly, you sound like a mean girl. What’s going on with that? Your mom is trying to get to know you and you are rebuffing her. That’s not nice. Do you have kids? Generally when one parent is easygoing, another has to be more hard because kids do need to know how life works. For example my teenager left the stove on last week. My husband said it was a mistake and I’m sure it was. Then she did it again just a couple days ago and I laid into her pointing out that once is a mistake, twice is a pattern and both times the conditions were the same. No way was I going to say “Oops, it was a mistake” since clearly that approach didn’t work the first time. You sound like you are a 12-year-old with your “my mom is judgmental” and “so weird they share a phone” when you really wouldn’t mind if your mom *didn’t* have a cell phone.



I read your post wanting to like you. My dad is the keeper of the cell phone and like you, he and I used to work together. We text a fair bit. That being said, I’m not at all surprised when my mom comments on whatever my dad and I were talking about. At the same time, my dad has commented on things I’ve said to my mom.. and at times it has been uncomfortable like the time I wanted postpartum pads and my dad was worried something was really wrong with me or with my baby. Once I understood why he was asking me so many questions I reassured him everything was fine and thought “he really does like me and his grandchild”. It can also be difficult to plan a surprise for either parent, my sister and I found that out when we were planning a surprise (at my mom’s request) for dad’s birthday.

You though just sound mean. Do you also get cranky when a male friend tells his girlfriend or wife about something you told him in confidence? If so, don’t be surprised when your friends pull away. I can tell you now that any woman who expects my husband to keep a secret from me is not someone who will remain a friend for long. Really think about why you feel the right to have such private communication with anybody but a husband, your husband.

Yes, I find it strange. I live in a 55+ community and I don't know anyone who does that. In fact, everyone I know, including those in their 80s and near 90, have their own cell phones and typically also an Ipad, some have watch devices too. Granted, they sometimes need some help and guidance with how to do some things online or the internet, but most are very willing to learn and want to be able to communicate through email and text and to utilize the latest options that benefit them.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Years ago people shared emails and Facebook accounts. You know this so save messages you want your mom to not be a part of to phone calls.

Her Dad will probably tell her Mom anyway. Old people don’t have many conversation topics other than the conversations they have with other people

+1. It’s like the old days when there was a single landline.

If you don’t want your mom to know, don’t text anything other than “Dad, can you call me?” Then tell him whatever you want to tell him over the phone, and ask him not to tell your mom.

+2 just like the old days.

I think that limits her ability to connect though. To send a quick text with something that happened in your day is easy. Sometimes you aren’t able to make a call.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Years ago people shared emails and Facebook accounts. You know this so save messages you want your mom to not be a part of to phone calls.

Her Dad will probably tell her Mom anyway. Old people don’t have many conversation topics other than the conversations they have with other people

+1. It’s like the old days when there was a single landline.

If you don’t want your mom to know, don’t text anything other than “Dad, can you call me?” Then tell him whatever you want to tell him over the phone, and ask him not to tell your mom.

+2 just like the old days.

If you texted your dad before the Apple Watch, and your mom didn’t comment on it, then I’d assume she didn’t read all his messages.

I think it’s sucks that you can’t text your dad what you want. Can you switch to an app? Message him in what’s app or signal?

My parents have a single cell phone because they don't want to pay for two lines. In some ways it is easier because I don't have to worry about which one to call.