Anonymous
Post 04/30/2023 19:36     Subject: DH wants to quit job to join startup
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:5mm liquid, 1mm of equity in the house? Let him start his company


They don't have 5m liquid--it's 5 m net worth which includes college funds for 3 kids and retirement accounts.


Plus a million equity in their house. They’re rich.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2023 19:31     Subject: DH wants to quit job to join startup
Small quibble but $250k per kid won't cover a private college/university even now. And it goes up every year. If your DH is really going to do this, you should have the full cost of college for 3 kids set aside.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2023 19:24     Subject: DH wants to quit job to join startup
You could divorce him and hire help. Might be a win-win.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2023 19:05     Subject: DH wants to quit job to join startup
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Women have choices. Men have obligations.


Moms have obligations to handle children & the household. Dads have choices about how much they will engage with children and the household. Like it or not, that’s how it plays out whether or not the mother works outside the home.


So true. Men have tons of choices, including the choice to work abroad or enlist or take a high-travel and effectively check out of the family. While women have the “choice” to work full time both at the office and also at home, part time in the office while full time at home, or just full time at home! So many choices.


There are plenty of deployed women and traveling consulting types with men with teacher jobs or the like. They just don’t post on DCUM because they don’t think of men as bank accounts.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2023 19:01     Subject: DH wants to quit job to join startup
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Women have choices. Men have obligations.


Moms have obligations to handle children & the household. Dads have choices about how much they will engage with children and the household. Like it or not, that’s how it plays out whether or not the mother works outside the home.


So true. Men have tons of choices, including the choice to work abroad or enlist or take a high-travel and effectively check out of the family. While women have the “choice” to work full time both at the office and also at home, part time in the office while full time at home, or just full time at home! So many choices.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2023 18:58     Subject: DH wants to quit job to join startup
Anonymous wrote:5mm liquid, 1mm of equity in the house? Let him start his company


They don't have 5m liquid--it's 5 m net worth which includes college funds for 3 kids and retirement accounts.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2023 18:19     Subject: DH wants to quit job to join startup
5mm liquid, 1mm of equity in the house? Let him start his company
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2023 18:06     Subject: DH wants to quit job to join startup
Anonymous wrote:You don't become rich by playing it safe.


They’re rich.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2023 17:36     Subject: DH wants to quit job to join startup
Way better a startup then you becoming a starter wife. You made the deal: you care for kids, he provides the income. You don’t get veto power on how he does that.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2023 17:03     Subject: DH wants to quit job to join startup
You don't become rich by playing it safe.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2023 17:03     Subject: DH wants to quit job to join startup
Anonymous wrote:Women have choices. Men have obligations.


Moms have obligations to handle children & the household. Dads have choices about how much they will engage with children and the household. Like it or not, that’s how it plays out whether or not the mother works outside the home.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2023 16:37     Subject: DH wants to quit job to join startup
You sound just like the OP of the "husband wants to leave Big Law" thread.

You hitched your wagon to this guy. Just because he's been making bank in the past does not mean he's an endentured servant and has to make that much forever.

By the way your savings are crazy low for your income level.

Anonymous
Post 04/30/2023 16:27     Subject: DH wants to quit job to join startup
Anonymous wrote:Easy solution he keeps Job 1 and Joins start up as Job 2.

You quit your 20k job help him juggle the two jobs.


I can’t tell if this is sarcasm but as someone who quit for a startup myself, this is absolutely what I would do. The shine might wear off this opportunity with a quickness.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2023 16:24     Subject: DH wants to quit job to join startup
Easy solution he keeps Job 1 and Joins start up as Job 2.

You quit your 20k job help him juggle the two jobs.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2023 16:17     Subject: DH wants to quit job to join startup
Tell him to start part time/moonlighting until he can figure out if they’re a sh!tshow or not.