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Anonymous wrote:I know a few older Gen X women who contracted herpes in college and then basically stopped dating. It’s sad. I know other terrific women who are pushing 40 and have struggled. Both are nice (one is very opinionated; both are in therapy).

I know a few older men who never married. Two are straight. One is attractive and kind, the other isn’t. No clue why the nice guy never married.

Who knows?

I contracted herpes when I was around 30 and it didn't really change anything. I just give partners the heads up beforehand. Never had any issue.

Anonymous wrote:I know a few older Gen X women who contracted herpes in college and then basically stopped dating. It’s sad. I know other terrific women who are pushing 40 and have struggled. Both are nice (one is very opinionated; both are in therapy).

I know a few older men who never married. Two are straight. One is attractive and kind, the other isn’t. No clue why the nice guy never married.

Who knows?

Anonymous wrote:What does this say about someone? Is it different than if they're male or female?

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine is 42, a pre-school teacher, and she's had two broken engagements. She's in DESPAIR about finding a guy with whom to settle down. She was engaged to a man who did not want children and she agreed to that and he eventually broke it off. I told her to have/adopt a child first, and then you'll attract a different kind of man who wants to be a father, but single motherhood is HARD (I did it with a lot of family support $$$ which she does not have).
I'd really like to help her--she's slim and attractive and WONDERFUL. She gets so depressed and hates to be alone. There's a limit to how often you can put yourself out there, get rejected, meet all the frogs who are not princes in disguise, etc. and keep your spirits up.
I don't know what to say to her. She gets SO depressed (and horny) and feels so alone. I agree that at age 40 all kinds of alarms go off.

Anonymous wrote:If it’s a black woman or Asian guy, it says nothing about them because statistically it’s brutal for both of these groups so you find a lot of decent normal people of this age with those backgrounds who have never been married/engaged

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine is 42, a pre-school teacher, and she's had two broken engagements. She's in DESPAIR about finding a guy with whom to settle down. She was engaged to a man who did not want children and she agreed to that and he eventually broke it off. I told her to have/adopt a child first, and then you'll attract a different kind of man who wants to be a father, but single motherhood is HARD (I did it with a lot of family support $$$ which she does not have).
I'd really like to help her--she's slim and attractive and WONDERFUL. She gets so depressed and hates to be alone. There's a limit to how often you can put yourself out there, get rejected, meet all the frogs who are not princes in disguise, etc. and keep your spirits up.
I don't know what to say to her. She gets SO depressed (and horny) and feels so alone. I agree that at age 40 all kinds of alarms go off.

Well if she’s slim then surely she will find a good man. SMH.

Weight absolutely matters.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine is 42, a pre-school teacher, and she's had two broken engagements. She's in DESPAIR about finding a guy with whom to settle down. She was engaged to a man who did not want children and she agreed to that and he eventually broke it off. I told her to have/adopt a child first, and then you'll attract a different kind of man who wants to be a father, but single motherhood is HARD (I did it with a lot of family support $$$ which she does not have).
I'd really like to help her--she's slim and attractive and WONDERFUL. She gets so depressed and hates to be alone. There's a limit to how often you can put yourself out there, get rejected, meet all the frogs who are not princes in disguise, etc. and keep your spirits up.
I don't know what to say to her. She gets SO depressed (and horny) and feels so alone. I agree that at age 40 all kinds of alarms go off.

Well if she’s slim then surely she will find a good man. SMH.

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine is 42, a pre-school teacher, and she's had two broken engagements. She's in DESPAIR about finding a guy with whom to settle down. She was engaged to a man who did not want children and she agreed to that and he eventually broke it off. I told her to have/adopt a child first, and then you'll attract a different kind of man who wants to be a father, but single motherhood is HARD (I did it with a lot of family support $$$ which she does not have).
I'd really like to help her--she's slim and attractive and WONDERFUL. She gets so depressed and hates to be alone. There's a limit to how often you can put yourself out there, get rejected, meet all the frogs who are not princes in disguise, etc. and keep your spirits up.
I don't know what to say to her. She gets SO depressed (and horny) and feels so alone. I agree that at age 40 all kinds of alarms go off.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine is 42, a pre-school teacher, and she's had two broken engagements. She's in DESPAIR about finding a guy with whom to settle down. She was engaged to a man who did not want children and she agreed to that and he eventually broke it off. I told her to have/adopt a child first, and then you'll attract a different kind of man who wants to be a father, but single motherhood is HARD (I did it with a lot of family support $$$ which she does not have).
I'd really like to help her--she's slim and attractive and WONDERFUL. She gets so depressed and hates to be alone. There's a limit to how often you can put yourself out there, get rejected, meet all the frogs who are not princes in disguise, etc. and keep your spirits up.
I don't know what to say to her. She gets SO depressed (and horny) and feels so alone. I agree that at age 40 all kinds of alarms go off.

This is completely untrue. No man wants to date, let alone marry, a single mother.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine is 42, a pre-school teacher, and she's had two broken engagements. She's in DESPAIR about finding a guy with whom to settle down. She was engaged to a man who did not want children and she agreed to that and he eventually broke it off. I told her to have/adopt a child first, and then you'll attract a different kind of man who wants to be a father, but single motherhood is HARD (I did it with a lot of family support $$$ which she does not have).
I'd really like to help her--she's slim and attractive and WONDERFUL. She gets so depressed and hates to be alone. There's a limit to how often you can put yourself out there, get rejected, meet all the frogs who are not princes in disguise, etc. and keep your spirits up.
I don't know what to say to her. She gets SO depressed (and horny) and feels so alone. I agree that at age 40 all kinds of alarms go off.

This is completely untrue. No man wants to date, let alone marry, a single mother.

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine is 42, a pre-school teacher, and she's had two broken engagements. She's in DESPAIR about finding a guy with whom to settle down. She was engaged to a man who did not want children and she agreed to that and he eventually broke it off. I told her to have/adopt a child first, and then you'll attract a different kind of man who wants to be a father, but single motherhood is HARD (I did it with a lot of family support $$$ which she does not have).
I'd really like to help her--she's slim and attractive and WONDERFUL. She gets so depressed and hates to be alone. There's a limit to how often you can put yourself out there, get rejected, meet all the frogs who are not princes in disguise, etc. and keep your spirits up.
I don't know what to say to her. She gets SO depressed (and horny) and feels so alone. I agree that at age 40 all kinds of alarms go off.