Anonymous
04/22/2023 22:11
Subject: DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
No ear piercings until 12. For anyone. They are responsible for good cleaning to prevent infection and old enough to understand the permanence
Anonymous
04/22/2023 22:07
Subject: Re:DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If my spouse prohibited one of my kids from doing something solely due to gender and we let our kids of the other gender engage, I’d be making an 100% equalization policy in my house. If both sexes can’t do it, neither can. And I’d take earrings away from my girls.
Why not get the girls buzz cuts? Why shave? Why not have your DD’s only wear knee-length shorts, and have your DS wear capris? Equality, right?
NP. If the girls want buzz cuts and knee length shorts, and DS wants capris I fall to see why any of this would be an issue? Not even sure which gender you’re assuming should (or should not?) shave but if my boys want to grow moustaches more power to them, and anyone’s allowed to have hairy legs in my house if they want them. I sure can’t be bothered to shave mine regularly. But likewise razors will be available to anyone who wants silky smooth armpits.
Anonymous
04/22/2023 21:15
Subject: DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Tough one OP. I personally would not let me son get his ear pierced (I think) unless I thought he might be gay or transgender (in which case I would probably allow it). I think earrings on boys are not ok and I am pretty sure our private school would not allow it.
My husband is from South America and girls get their ears pierced as babies to distinguish boys and girls. I allowed my DD to get them at 8 after she begged for years. You get DD is almost 8 and does not care. I got my ears pierced at 12 and would like to wait that long if possible.
But I hear your argument OP… it’s a delicate subject.
Also and more importantly, why is your son asking to get his ears pierced? I have never seen a boy that young with earrings. My only son is 4 so my experience with boys is limited, but my girls have several boy- friends.
I think the reason why he wants them is what would dictated my decision. Because his sisters have them? Not happening. Because he wants to look more girlie? I would consider it
So if a little sister wanted something that her big sister has that's ok?
Anonymous
04/22/2023 21:13
Subject: DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Anonymous wrote:So you're into pushing back on the gender stereotyping Op? Why did your girls, at a young age, get their ears pierced? I woukd think you'd encourage your girls to get buzz cuts instead. You know, gender stereotypes and all.
Did you, by chance, plant the idea in your kid's head he should get his ear pierced?
Did the girls express a desire to get their hair buzzed?
Anonymous
04/22/2023 21:08
Subject: DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Anonymous wrote:Tough one OP. I personally would not let me son get his ear pierced (I think) unless I thought he might be gay or transgender (in which case I would probably allow it). I think earrings on boys are not ok and I am pretty sure our private school would not allow it.
My husband is from South America and girls get their ears pierced as babies to distinguish boys and girls. I allowed my DD to get them at 8 after she begged for years. You get DD is almost 8 and does not care. I got my ears pierced at 12 and would like to wait that long if possible.
But I hear your argument OP… it’s a delicate subject.
Also and more importantly, why is your son asking to get his ears pierced? I have never seen a boy that young with earrings. My only son is 4 so my experience with boys is limited, but my girls have several boy- friends.
I think the reason why he wants them is what would dictated my decision. Because his sisters have them? Not happening. Because he wants to look more girlie? I would consider it
Anonymous
04/22/2023 21:05
Subject: DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Tough one OP. I personally would not let me son get his ear pierced (I think) unless I thought he might be gay or transgender (in which case I would probably allow it). I think earrings on boys are not ok and I am pretty sure our private school would not allow it.
My husband is from South America and girls get their ears pierced as babies to distinguish boys and girls. I allowed my DD to get them at 8 after she begged for years. You get DD is almost 8 and does not care. I got my ears pierced at 12 and would like to wait that long if possible.
But I hear your argument OP… it’s a delicate subject.
My husband is from South America and girls get their ears pierced as babies to distinguish boys and girls. I allowed my DD to get them at 8 after she begged for years. You get DD is almost 8 and does not care. I got my ears pierced at 12 and would like to wait that long if possible.
But I hear your argument OP… it’s a delicate subject.
Anonymous
04/22/2023 19:52
Subject: Re:DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Anonymous wrote:If my spouse prohibited one of my kids from doing something solely due to gender and we let our kids of the other gender engage, I’d be making an 100% equalization policy in my house. If both sexes can’t do it, neither can. And I’d take earrings away from my girls.
Why not get the girls buzz cuts? Why shave? Why not have your DD’s only wear knee-length shorts, and have your DS wear capris? Equality, right?
Anonymous
04/22/2023 19:51
Subject: DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Not at 10, but you've already let your girls get piercings younger, so that ship has sailed already. I would let him get them, if he is ready to do the work to take care of the piercings.
Anonymous
04/22/2023 19:51
Subject: Re:DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Anonymous wrote:I would find a middle ground and get the magnetic studs. I don’t think you should get anything pierced or tattooed without both parents approval but I think the child should be able to have some say in their appearance. The magnetic studs would be a happy medium.
Excellent solution! I won’t let DD get her ears pierced until after ES fwiw but she can play with stickers and magnetic ones in the meantime.
Anonymous
04/22/2023 19:47
Subject: Re:DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Good for your husband. You’re a fool OP. Your son is not another daughter. Be a Parian’s learn to say no.
100%. earrings one day, dresses and hormones the next.
+1,000 it’s a phase and he will grow out of it. Why on earth would you allow male ear piercing at 8? How f’ng stupid.
Anonymous
04/22/2023 19:45
Subject: Re:DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Anonymous wrote:Male ear-piercings are hideous.
+1 I wouldn’t allow it at 8 either.
Anonymous
04/22/2023 19:43
Subject: DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
I wouldn't have let any of them get anything pierced at these ages, especially toddlers. Young kids with piercings is so disgusting.
Anonymous
04/22/2023 19:34
Subject: Re:DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Anonymous wrote:I have a 10yo DD who is very boyish in her clothing choices and hairstyle but has her ears pierced. Her body her choice. I would let my son do it as well. Why is DH opposed?
I let my 10 year old run the show, too.
Anonymous
04/22/2023 19:33
Subject: Re:DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Anonymous wrote:Good for your husband. You’re a fool OP. Your son is not another daughter. Be a Parian’s learn to say no.
100%. earrings one day, dresses and hormones the next.
Anonymous
04/22/2023 19:24
Subject: DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
“Dad says no. Maybe when you’re older.”