Go. They will be fine with dad.

OP - Also try and find out who their friends are and financially equal peers to see what services they might know of or use in a similar situation. Tañl to your parents lawyer or other advisors for names who might be able to provide an oversight service. See if you should get your nam in an account so that you could ensure prompt payment of services. t the same time try and see what bills can be paid automatically. again see aññ papers are set up legally and in health care. Look around to see where they might go for rehab, or to bring in help.

While you are there now you might hire a person to do cleaning, laundry and cook dinner a couple of days a week no matter what happens. If help is cheap, then maybe a cleaning. Person and a person to cook and food shop. How to handle payment ?? Your folks sound like they may need direct support for some time so tske the time to figure out what is there. Can you ha e services paid through a lawyer air accountant hired to work for them?

Anonymous wrote:Also, when things settle a bit, use this emergency as a fore shadow in to the future as they get older. Being on different continents means they need resources there. You can not be their emergency help. This will likely happen again.

This is a really good idea. I imagine there is a lot of down time while you're there, but it's not worth leaving and coming back. So canvas the area for various levels of assisted living (what if she can't go home after the second surgery?) and any in-home care providers. Meet people. Get info. Set up a few plans for the most likely outcomes. Start cleaning and organizing their house in case they have to move. Make sure wills and EOL directives are in place. For me, getting as much done as possible would make the time away from the kids more palatable.