Anonymous
Post 04/14/2023 13:36     Subject: Re:Lingering at table at busy cafe
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If it’s so casual that you order at the counter, then it’s casual enough for semi-communal seating. If it was just two of us, I’d likely sit down at the table with the single woman, and for form’s sake, say “do you mind sharing? It’s so crowded today” with a big smile. I doubt she would have pushed back hard. And even if she didn’t like it, what could she do? Two of you, one of her, she’s obviously not actively eating. Restaurant will side with you.


You are the rudest of all!


Nope. One person at a four top on a laptop with an empty coffee cup? Get out of here. Literally.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2023 13:34     Subject: Re:Lingering at table at busy cafe
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If it’s so casual that you order at the counter, then it’s casual enough for semi-communal seating. If it was just two of us, I’d likely sit down at the table with the single woman, and for form’s sake, say “do you mind sharing? It’s so crowded today” with a big smile. I doubt she would have pushed back hard. And even if she didn’t like it, what could she do? Two of you, one of her, she’s obviously not actively eating. Restaurant will side with you.


Had one of you at a food court last week. I returned that big smile and declined her "offer", since DH was actually still in line and waiting. She finally figured it all out after staring for a minute.


I mean, if you weren’t assigned a table by a host, it’s not yours. Standing on ceremony while dining at a “food court” only makes you look out of touch. We’d simply have sat down—not really asking for permission. You have your two seats, we have our two seats. You talk a big game here online, but what would you honestly have done? Sicced your husband on us? Oh noes!
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2023 13:23     Subject: Re:Lingering at table at busy cafe
Anonymous wrote:If it’s so casual that you order at the counter, then it’s casual enough for semi-communal seating. If it was just two of us, I’d likely sit down at the table with the single woman, and for form’s sake, say “do you mind sharing? It’s so crowded today” with a big smile. I doubt she would have pushed back hard. And even if she didn’t like it, what could she do? Two of you, one of her, she’s obviously not actively eating. Restaurant will side with you.


Had one of you at a food court last week. I returned that big smile and declined her "offer", since DH was actually still in line and waiting. She finally figured it all out after staring for a minute.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2023 13:20     Subject: Lingering at table at busy cafe
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Where is it that has a line 30 deep on a weekday for breakfast?


I am going to guess something like Tatte. Seating is always hard if you have more than 2.

I'm going to guess first watch
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2023 13:19     Subject: Re:Lingering at table at busy cafe
Anonymous wrote:If it’s so casual that you order at the counter, then it’s casual enough for semi-communal seating. If it was just two of us, I’d likely sit down at the table with the single woman, and for form’s sake, say “do you mind sharing? It’s so crowded today” with a big smile. I doubt she would have pushed back hard. And even if she didn’t like it, what could she do? Two of you, one of her, she’s obviously not actively eating. Restaurant will side with you.


You are the rudest of all!
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2023 13:19     Subject: Re:Lingering at table at busy cafe
Anonymous wrote:It’s rude to ask when people are leaving. In a crowded casual place, it’s not rude to ask to share a table under most circumstances.


I mean the three of us jointing the single person seems passive aggressively more rude then checking how much longer they will be, but that will become my signature move then. Every place is pain de q now!