Anonymous
Post 04/13/2023 09:09     Subject: Re:Send kid in pajamas to daycare
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why not get comfy play clothes and use them as PJs?

I have heard teachers discuss how well groomed some kids are and even what they bring in their lunch boxes in daycare situations. They comment on whose parents are perpetually late in picking them up. Yes, they are human and they draw conclusions about parents and kids based on that. Also, the drop-off and pick-up arrangements of divorced parents are also discussed.

How did it change my own behavior. I made sure that my kid was clean, well groomed, smelled good and wore freshly laundered and ironed clothes. I also used to rub her clothing with a sheet of fabric softener to reduce static and make her clothes smell extra nice.


IRONED clothes? Either you are very recent European OR you are trolling.


Yes! Ironed clothes. Why do you think I am a troll because of ironing?

I wanted my kid to be, look and smell well-cared for, so that the teachers subconsciously took better care of my kid. I wanted to send the message that I had my shitz together, I was particular about grooming and took take extra efforts for my kid. I am not expecting you or anyone else to follow my standards because I don't know y'all and that would be weird.

Yes, you iron clothes that are cotton or linen and can be ironed safely. I think it makes clothes look crisp and neat. I made sure that the wash and wear clothes were folded neatly after they came out of the dryer to prevent wrinkles, and there were no stains or pilling. Most importantly, kids were well dressed, teeth brushed, skin and hair washed, hair neatly combed, nails trimmed, already lotioned and sunscreen applied.

Would you want to take care of kids who looked unwashed, had food stains on crumpled cloths, crusty eyes, uncombed hair and were wearing PJs?


The bolded did not apply to my kid. However, I remember my son was taking part in some sort of study at UMD that included identifying objects and he could not identify the iron or its purpose, lol.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2023 09:05     Subject: Send kid in pajamas to daycare
I work in a daycare and do not care what clothing your children wear as long as they are weather appropriate and can get dirty. In fact, I would rather you send your kids in pajamas that can be played in and get dirty than nice clothes that you want to preserve and keep clean. Save those for the family pictures.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2023 09:00     Subject: Send kid in pajamas to daycare
Anonymous wrote:I’ll admit I side eye kids who are over age 1 in pajamas. It makes the parents look sloppy and lazy, like they don’t care well enough for the child. I also assume if you are cool with your children wearing rumpled pajamas they likely wore the night before put on public that you also likely have a messy, disorganized home and life. Appearances matter in this world, like it or not. If you truly don’t GAF what your kids wear and don’t care what the teachers and fellow classmates think that’s totally good for you! Just know you and the kids may get extra attention that’s not positive for it. Whether you care or not is up to you. And whether you want others to think you care or not is also up to you.


Yeah I would say definitely no one should care about the opinion of someone who’d judge this!!
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2023 08:12     Subject: Send kid in pajamas to daycare
I’ll admit I side eye kids who are over age 1 in pajamas. It makes the parents look sloppy and lazy, like they don’t care well enough for the child. I also assume if you are cool with your children wearing rumpled pajamas they likely wore the night before put on public that you also likely have a messy, disorganized home and life. Appearances matter in this world, like it or not. If you truly don’t GAF what your kids wear and don’t care what the teachers and fellow classmates think that’s totally good for you! Just know you and the kids may get extra attention that’s not positive for it. Whether you care or not is up to you. And whether you want others to think you care or not is also up to you.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2023 22:41     Subject: Re:Send kid in pajamas to daycare
Anonymous wrote:As a former daycare teacher, it matters more if your kid is a) cute and b) a good kid. Those are the ones who will get more attention/care. Cure has very little to do with clothing; sometimes the parents who dress their kids to the 9s seem to be trying to compensate


This. Our youngest is 8 months old and wears footie pjs to daycare sometimes. But they love him because he’s adorable and always happy. Oldest was more serious and reserved and wasn’t a favorite even thought I made more of an effort with clothes back then.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2023 22:31     Subject: Send kid in pajamas to daycare
Zero issues with comfortable pjs. Overalls are the number one annoyance. Onesies on potty training kids - nope. The one piece romper things with buttons on back for potty training/trained kids - nope. Skinny jeans can be annoying too. Comfy easy on, easy off clothes kids can move and play in are perfect. Stained and/or wrinkled is fine as long as they are clean and reasonably scent free.

Anonymous
Post 04/12/2023 22:31     Subject: Send kid in pajamas to daycare
This is totally fine and there is really no reason a pajama pant can’t be worn to school. I’d just mention it to the teacher and say they really like the pajamas and you didn’t have a good reason to say no!
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2023 22:31     Subject: Send kid in pajamas to daycare
I did it once as a solution for school refusal in preschool. Never needed to do it again.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2023 22:27     Subject: Re:Send kid in pajamas to daycare
A day care lady yelled at me because my 2yo had holes in the top of his shoes. His shoes wore out because he was dragging his feet behind him while riding those little strider bikes on the playground. He would destroy a pair of shoes within a couple weeks. I had a new, bigger pair of shoes for him already, but they were too big, and I worried he'd he'd trip, so I kept him in shoes that fit that had fallen apart at the tops of the toes, for a little longer.. Judge me.

She said that she knew I had enough money to buy him 20 pairs of shoes and that she was disgusted that he had holes in his shoes. I was too shocked to say anything, but I considered her perspective.

I have removal of several years now, and I think she was wrong, but again, judge me!

I agree with keeping your kids well kept because they will receive better treatment. Same is true for your old relatives under hospital care or assisted care. If you don't show care, they won't be treated as well.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2023 22:17     Subject: Re:Send kid in pajamas to daycare
As a former daycare teacher, it matters more if your kid is a) cute and b) a good kid. Those are the ones who will get more attention/care. Cure has very little to do with clothing; sometimes the parents who dress their kids to the 9s seem to be trying to compensate
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2023 21:59     Subject: Send kid in pajamas to daycare
Why do you care what they think of you? They aren’t even your friends. What will make a difference is if you have a kid who is polite and well behaved. If he’s a good kid, they’ll welcome him dressed as a werewolf.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2023 20:46     Subject: Re:Send kid in pajamas to daycare
Some parents have the time to change their child’s clothes from pajamas, and they should other than the very odd number of days that its ok.
We have a parent who has a very sick older sibling so its understandable. However she is in pajamas year round every day, or in that sort of clothes every single day, that is not good. Specially since she will be going to Kindergarten this Fall.

That being said, how the kids dress does not correspond to how the teachers behave with them. This girl
is the friendliest and sweetest kid in the class.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2023 20:39     Subject: Re:Send kid in pajamas to daycare
Anonymous wrote:There is literally no version of this world in which I’m worrying about how wrinkled my 3-year old twins clothing is. The pajamas sound great - our Carters pajamas would make perfectly fine daycare clothes. My girls insist on dresses but I’d let them wear pajamas if that would be difference between an easy morning and a struggle.


+1.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2023 20:30     Subject: Re:Send kid in pajamas to daycare
There is literally no version of this world in which I’m worrying about how wrinkled my 3-year old twins clothing is. The pajamas sound great - our Carters pajamas would make perfectly fine daycare clothes. My girls insist on dresses but I’d let them wear pajamas if that would be difference between an easy morning and a struggle.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2023 20:09     Subject: Re:Send kid in pajamas to daycare
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why not get comfy play clothes and use them as PJs?

I have heard teachers discuss how well groomed some kids are and even what they bring in their lunch boxes in daycare situations. They comment on whose parents are perpetually late in picking them up. Yes, they are human and they draw conclusions about parents and kids based on that. Also, the drop-off and pick-up arrangements of divorced parents are also discussed.

How did it change my own behavior. I made sure that my kid was clean, well groomed, smelled good and wore freshly laundered and ironed clothes. I also used to rub her clothing with a sheet of fabric softener to reduce static and make her clothes smell extra nice.


IRONED clothes? Either you are very recent European OR you are trolling.


Yes! Ironed clothes. Why do you think I am a troll because of ironing?

I wanted my kid to be, look and smell well-cared for, so that the teachers subconsciously took better care of my kid. I wanted to send the message that I had my shitz together, I was particular about grooming and took take extra efforts for my kid. I am not expecting you or anyone else to follow my standards because I don't know y'all and that would be weird.

Yes, you iron clothes that are cotton or linen and can be ironed safely. I think it makes clothes look crisp and neat. I made sure that the wash and wear clothes were folded neatly after they came out of the dryer to prevent wrinkles, and there were no stains or pilling. Most importantly, kids were well dressed, teeth brushed, skin and hair washed, hair neatly combed, nails trimmed, already lotioned and sunscreen applied.

Would you want to take care of kids who looked unwashed, had food stains on crumpled cloths, crusty eyes, uncombed hair and were wearing PJs?


My toddlers clothes get what I call “performative ironing” which is five minutes at the end of a dryer cycle to crease her sleeves, iron down the hem of her skirts, and do linen pants.

The teachers absolutely care more carefully for the clean and well cared for kids. It’s human nature. But more important is to give a giant tip at Christmas.