Anonymous
04/10/2023 17:17
Subject: Rude kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Gift cards for Easter? Yikes!
I put a gift card in the Easter baskets this year too. My kids are college and high school age. One is diabetic and I can’t load the baskets up with jelly beans or chocolate. They still love getting baskets, but it is hard to find useful things to put in it. Judge away.
I put some bath bombs and some socks in mine 🤷♀️
My 17 year old got just candy (and it wasn’t great candy).
Anonymous
04/10/2023 16:56
Subject: Rude kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Gift cards for Easter? Yikes!
I put a gift card in the Easter baskets this year too. My kids are college and high school age. One is diabetic and I can’t load the baskets up with jelly beans or chocolate. They still love getting baskets, but it is hard to find useful things to put in it. Judge away.
I put some bath bombs and some socks in mine 🤷♀️
Anonymous
04/10/2023 15:47
Subject: Rude kids
Kids are taught on social
- this is todays America, where they got the right to say what they wanna say and do what they wanna do.
- this is todays America, where they got the right to say what they wanna say and do what they wanna do.
Anonymous
04/10/2023 12:42
Subject: Rude kids
I think others are being harsh here. I agree with the general message, but I think that at this age, ramming down the punishment without conversation will lead to further situations like this one, whereas opening up a dialogue may serve you both better, and help you understand her motivation.
Tell your kid you need to talk and that you had some real problems with her behavior. Then you can ask, "What do you think I'm talking about?" She may want to 'fess up, or you may need to lay it out. If you want, you can ask, "Can you tell me what that was about?" It might be that she says she was really hoping for some Lululemon gift cards because people teased her about her Old Navy shorts. Now, is this something one should be bratty about? Absolutely not. But everyone has their hopes and embarrassments and it will help you to know where she's coming from. Then you can say, or tell her, How else can you act when you're having these feelings?
Once she's done laying out her thoughts, you can clarify that there is no room for refusing to help with breakfast or refusing to be in family photo. Those are just things we do. But you look forward to having better communication that ensures fewer of what are effectively tantrums. This shows that you are compassionate and willing to listen AND that you are in charge.
As for Instagram--one of the cutest kiddies I know is a bit of a monster whose mom goes to extravagant lengths to get those photos. Social media can be so great and can be so toxic. Definitely do not compare your life to someone else's Instagram. Comparison is the thief of joy.
Tell your kid you need to talk and that you had some real problems with her behavior. Then you can ask, "What do you think I'm talking about?" She may want to 'fess up, or you may need to lay it out. If you want, you can ask, "Can you tell me what that was about?" It might be that she says she was really hoping for some Lululemon gift cards because people teased her about her Old Navy shorts. Now, is this something one should be bratty about? Absolutely not. But everyone has their hopes and embarrassments and it will help you to know where she's coming from. Then you can say, or tell her, How else can you act when you're having these feelings?
Once she's done laying out her thoughts, you can clarify that there is no room for refusing to help with breakfast or refusing to be in family photo. Those are just things we do. But you look forward to having better communication that ensures fewer of what are effectively tantrums. This shows that you are compassionate and willing to listen AND that you are in charge.
As for Instagram--one of the cutest kiddies I know is a bit of a monster whose mom goes to extravagant lengths to get those photos. Social media can be so great and can be so toxic. Definitely do not compare your life to someone else's Instagram. Comparison is the thief of joy.
Anonymous
04/10/2023 09:05
Subject: Rude kids
Anonymous wrote:Gift cards for Easter? Yikes!
I put a gift card in the Easter baskets this year too. My kids are college and high school age. One is diabetic and I can’t load the baskets up with jelly beans or chocolate. They still love getting baskets, but it is hard to find useful things to put in it. Judge away.