I would not model my child's behavior after the DMV area, which contains some of the most bigoted people I have ever met, and that would include your children. You are not the model for the world.

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Anonymous wrote:What's the specific issue? No one gets bullied because they are kind and non-judgmental like Jesus.

+1 I have no idea what PP's child said, but my (queer, trans) child has plenty of friends who come from faith-based households from a variety of religions. Those kids are kind to my child, and my child is respectful of the norms in their homes.

Basically, having faith is not something kids get canceled for even in a liberal area like the DMV. Being a jerk and saying you are doing it from a faith-based perspective is however.

I agree with this 100%. We are christians (one might say evangelical) and my kids attend public school and have several very good friends who are trans.

There is mutual respect.

So in your mind the only people who ever get bullied are the people who deserve it? Nice.

What are you talking about?? - DP

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Anonymous wrote:What's the specific issue? No one gets bullied because they are kind and non-judgmental like Jesus.

+1 I have no idea what PP's child said, but my (queer, trans) child has plenty of friends who come from faith-based households from a variety of religions. Those kids are kind to my child, and my child is respectful of the norms in their homes.

Basically, having faith is not something kids get canceled for even in a liberal area like the DMV. Being a jerk and saying you are doing it from a faith-based perspective is however.

I agree with this 100%. We are christians (one might say evangelical) and my kids attend public school and have several very good friends who are trans.

There is mutual respect.

So in your mind the only people who ever get bullied are the people who deserve it? Nice.

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Anonymous wrote:This culture is alive in schools, it's just hidden from everyone and wrapped in the social justice culture in our public schools. Although the intent seems correct, many people get caught up and hurt by it. For more information, please visit: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/10/31/style/cancel-culture.html. In my child's situation, it wasn't related to rape or anything as severe as nude, but more in the lines of having a Christian value set and experiencing blowback about that, resulting in rumors being started about them being racist and bigoted.

Well, there are a lot of "Christian value set" people who are, in fact, racist and bigoted. I don't support children being "canceled" because their parents (you) taught them to be bigots, but this should be a wakeup call for your child that the beliefs they learned at home are not socially acceptable.

Perhaps teach your kid that in America we have freedom of speech, and faith. Trying to make everyone believe just like you is bigoted.

I love how everyone just piles on with assumptions that op’s teen dd deserved to be canceled, as if that’s a totally fine and normal thing to be happening. You people are no better than the scolds who slut-shamed girls in the past or blacklisted people from jobs because they were communists. “This is different” you say. No it’s not.

Op, I’m sorry your child is dealing with this and I would consider a fresh start at a new school for her next year. If your local public school can’t accommodate a transfer, consider private. The diocesan catholic ones are less expensive than independents, if that is something you are open to considering.

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Anonymous wrote:This culture is alive in schools, it's just hidden from everyone and wrapped in the social justice culture in our public schools. Although the intent seems correct, many people get caught up and hurt by it. For more information, please visit: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/10/31/style/cancel-culture.html. In my child's situation, it wasn't related to rape or anything as severe as nude, but more in the lines of having a Christian value set and experiencing blowback about that, resulting in rumors being started about them being racist and bigoted.

Well, there are a lot of "Christian value set" people who are, in fact, racist and bigoted. I don't support children being "canceled" because their parents (you) taught them to be bigots, but this should be a wakeup call for your child that the beliefs they learned at home are not socially acceptable.

The beliefs of this area would be considered far left extreme elsewhere so it's no unexpected

The beliefs in this area generally align with a social norm of not being a bigot. If you want it to be okay for you and your child to be bigoted out loud without losing social status, move somewhere with a lot more bigots. Problem solved. Sounds like you were already prepared to change schools. Go the distance, OP.

Anonymous wrote:Send your kid back to school, they’ll find new friends that aren’t raised by wolves.

How do you know what the problem was? What if OP's kid was harassing a girl or what if OP's kid assaulted a girl. Getting dropped by every one of their friends should be a clue that OP's kid did something very far outside of the bounds of acceptable behavior

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Anonymous wrote:What's the specific issue? No one gets bullied because they are kind and non-judgmental like Jesus.

+1 I have no idea what PP's child said, but my (queer, trans) child has plenty of friends who come from faith-based households from a variety of religions. Those kids are kind to my child, and my child is respectful of the norms in their homes.

Basically, having faith is not something kids get canceled for even in a liberal area like the DMV. Being a jerk and saying you are doing it from a faith-based perspective is however.

I agree with this 100%. We are christians (one might say evangelical) and my kids attend public school and have several very good friends who are trans.

There is mutual respect.

I feel ya OP. My DD went through something similar in 4th and 8th grade. DD is now in 9th, and has a whole new set of friends, who are so much kinder and supportive of her.

I think some of the friendship issues she had in 8th grade were due to jealousy, but I can only guess. The "queen bee" basically shut my DD out, and she ended up eating lunch alone for several weeks. The really sad part of this was that my DD brought this queen bee into her friend group because the queen bee came into MS without a core friend group. She was not a queen bee when she started MS, so my DD took her under her wing. Then the girl basically took over the friend group and pushed DD out.

I bought the book "Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls" when this was happening, and read a few chapters. Oh my, this explained so much, not only about what DD was going through, but what had happened to me when I was a teen and had friendship issues. I shared what I had learned from the book with DD, and it really resonated with her, too.

She got through it by getting closer to a girl that she didn't normally hang out with that much in school, and this friend was very kind to her when she found out what was going on. I also spent a lot of time with DD when this was happening.

If you can't do a COSA, encourage your DD to engage with a not-as-close friend and see if they are open to letting your DD into that friend group.

In 9th grade, DD got closer to some kids she was friendly with in MS but didn't really hang out with them. They had classes together, and got really close. They have been a much better friend group to her than her MS group of friends.

Side note: the MS friend group eventually fractured when they got to HS.

Send your kid back to school, they’ll find new friends that aren’t raised by wolves.

Anonymous wrote:What's the specific issue? No one gets bullied because they are kind and non-judgmental like Jesus.

+1 I have no idea what PP's child said, but my (queer, trans) child has plenty of friends who come from faith-based households from a variety of religions. Those kids are kind to my child, and my child is respectful of the norms in their homes.

Basically, having faith is not something kids get canceled for even in a liberal area like the DMV. Being a jerk and saying you are doing it from a faith-based perspective is however.

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Anonymous wrote:This culture is alive in schools, it's just hidden from everyone and wrapped in the social justice culture in our public schools. Although the intent seems correct, many people get caught up and hurt by it. For more information, please visit: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/10/31/style/cancel-culture.html. In my child's situation, it wasn't related to rape or anything as severe as nude, but more in the lines of having a Christian value set and experiencing blowback about that, resulting in rumors being started about them being racist and bigoted.

Well, there are a lot of "Christian value set" people who are, in fact, racist and bigoted. I don't support children being "canceled" because their parents (you) taught them to be bigots, but this should be a wakeup call for your child that the beliefs they learned at home are not socially acceptable.

The beliefs of this area would be considered far left extreme elsewhere so it's no unexpected

What's the specific issue? No one gets bullied because they are kind and non-judgmental like Jesus.

Anonymous wrote:This culture is alive in schools, it's just hidden from everyone and wrapped in the social justice culture in our public schools. Although the intent seems correct, many people get caught up and hurt by it. For more information, please visit: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/10/31/style/cancel-culture.html. In my child's situation, it wasn't related to rape or anything as severe as nude, but more in the lines of having a Christian value set and experiencing blowback about that, resulting in rumors being started about them being racist and bigoted.

Well, there are a lot of "Christian value set" people who are, in fact, racist and bigoted. I don't support children being "canceled" because their parents (you) taught them to be bigots, but this should be a wakeup call for your child that the beliefs they learned at home are not socially acceptable.

This culture is alive in schools, it's just hidden from everyone and wrapped in the social justice culture in our public schools. Although the intent seems correct, many people get caught up and hurt by it. For more information, please visit: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/10/31/style/cancel-culture.html. In my child's situation, it wasn't related to rape or anything as severe as nude, but more in the lines of having a Christian value set and experiencing blowback about that, resulting in rumors being started about them being racist and bigoted.