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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:My niece married for financial aid purposes in college. Marriage saves $.

That also can lead to divorce.

https://divorce.com/blog/divorce-statistics/

Married couples between the ages of 20 to 25 are 60% likely to get a divorce.

too young.

That’s for the general population, not UMC college educated folks.

25 yr olds aren't umc. Their parents are, but the 25 yr olds are generally not.

Of course many 25 year olds are. There are a ton of college-educated 22 year olds who make $80-100k/year. Some make closer to $140k/year.

I got married at 23 and my parents still continued to fund, in a very small way, a bank account I'd opened in my hometown when I was a teen. I did not ask, but they did. For our first downpayment, we requested a 0% loan from our parents that we promptly reimbursed.

Like other posters, I've known people with varying financial arrangements with their relatives, so I refuse to judge. To the posters making blanket holier-than-thou generalizations, you don't know how lucky you are. Not everyone can be independent.

Anonymous wrote:You should get married until you have finished your education, have a job and live on your own

+1 if you want to be an adult and get married, then be an adult.

It's fine if your parents help you out once in a while, but if they are helping you out with bills because you have an expensive lifestyle and can't afford your own bills then you are not read to be a responsible adult.

25 is not too young, but the inability to stand on one’s own and be financially stable and independent is a problem.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My niece married for financial aid purposes in college. Marriage saves $.

That also can lead to divorce.

https://divorce.com/blog/divorce-statistics/

Married couples between the ages of 20 to 25 are 60% likely to get a divorce.

too young.

That’s for the general population, not UMC college educated folks.

25 yr olds aren't umc. Their parents are, but the 25 yr olds are generally not.

I don't know that 25 is too young, especially if your family is rich and you are getting help from parents.

If you are middle class and getting regular financial help from parents at age 25+, then you aren't financially stable enough to get married unfortunately. Or, you could but you probably should live at home with one set of parents, like they did in the old days.

You should get married until you have finished your education, have a job and live on your own

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I plan to help my kids out financially until I die.

That’s a completely different case. You helping doesn’t mean they “need” your help. If kid needs your help, then I’d say kid is not ready.

NP - I think if parents are supporting a lifestyle the adult child couldn’t otherwise lead on their own/married, that’s a problem. I know… more than a few families like this.

Anonymous wrote:I plan to help my kids out financially until I die.

That’s a completely different case. You helping doesn’t mean they “need” your help. If kid needs your help, then I’d say kid is not ready.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My niece married for financial aid purposes in college. Marriage saves $.

That also can lead to divorce.

https://divorce.com/blog/divorce-statistics/

Married couples between the ages of 20 to 25 are 60% likely to get a divorce.

too young.

That’s for the general population, not UMC college educated folks.

Anonymous wrote:My niece married for financial aid purposes in college. Marriage saves $.

That also can lead to divorce.

https://divorce.com/blog/divorce-statistics/

Married couples between the ages of 20 to 25 are 60% likely to get a divorce.

too young.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:25 is too old to need parental help (and I say that as someone with advanced degrees who was in school for a million years).

+1 but if you are still getting education related support, then you are too young to marry.

Very middle class attitudes.

vast majority of people are middle class.

IMO, 25 is too young to get married, anyways. Marriage should not be entered into lightly, and most people at 25 here in the US are too immature to be married at that age.

I plan to help my kids out financially until I die.

My niece married for financial aid purposes in college. Marriage saves $.

If parents need to provide financial help so child can pay the bills, child is too young to get married. If parents’ financial help is due to parents’ wants/needs/estate planning and the child could support his/herself independently, then he/she may be mature enough to be married.